I've always been told how beautiful I am..a guy has actually stopped me in the subway and said to me "do you know how beautiful you are? holy hell"..
but..guys rarely approach me. I only get asked out by really not so attractive guys, and ended up dating one of them for 2 years because I felt like I could never get better. I feel really ugly, so now I'm wondering, am I actually pretty? or have guys just said that to me to get with me? OR what could it be?
i don't mean to sound arrogant, I'm just wondering why this is?
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I have had the same problem. I always thoght I was ugly, but couldn't really put my finger on what exactly about me was so horrible. I get compliments all the time. I wasn't aware of the problem until a couple years ago. I ran into a guy I had gone to high school with. I talked to him. He finished the conversation saying he couldn't believe I actually talked to him. I asked him what he meant by his statement. "You were one of the prettiest girls in school. All the guys wanted to date you." When asked why I was never asked out, his reply was "we were all afraid you would blow us off".
After hearing that, I decided if I was ever going to have an active dating life, I would have to go the extra mile in making guys see the more approachable, easy-going side. It has worked.
The reason you have such low self-esteem is because guys have been scared of getting turned down by you, so they don't even bother. Because this has happened, you think the only guy you can get is like the guy you dated for 2 years. He was probably the only one smart enough to figure out you were a real person, not a doll. He probably knew he was ugly, and figured if you talked to him, he better jump on it. Hope this info helps you out like it has me.
If you need to experiment a little with it...try putting on a ball cap. I will almost bet that you will get hit on. For some reason, guys will think you're "one of the guys". I guess that's easier for them to approach than a beauty.2