hi all I'm a 42 year old male who just got divorced. I'm looking to resettle down I'm a slim build guy. I just can't find a girl/woman whos my height 172cm tall and my weight 65kg. I'm looking for a girl southwest side of sydney I've been on dating sites and have applied to 48 ladys aged between 30 to 42 but all talk on the net but the problem is non want to meet in person face to face.
so how is a guy like me can try and settle down in a relationship when they won't meet up?
ive been looking between liverpool to bankstown to the sutherland shire in sydney is my limit. can any girls help me here.
but yes I've been looking at other avs but still nothing. I've tired rsvp and applied to 60 woman in a month in total not heard back from one. nothing at all I've tried dating agency how I met my x wife nothing but a gold digger. so now looking at on line dating. will try another month then ill give up.:(
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There's a big jump between "settling down" and agreeing to meet someone you've met on a dating website in person. I think you're sort of asking the wrong question. Certainly there are women who are 30-42 who want to, and do, get into serious relationships. The question you're really asking is, "Why don't more women want to meet in person after talking on a dating site?" or perhaps, "Why don't women that I talk to on dating sites want to meet *me* in person?"
I tried online dating for awhile, and I didn't talk to every guy who sent me a message, and I didn't agree to meet in person every guy I talked to online. For me, talking to someone online was an opportunity to get to know them better to figure out if they were someone I'd like to meet in person. I didn't meet people if it seemed like we weren't compatible or if I didn't find their personality attractive. I didn't meet people if they triggered any of my "red flags" (for example, being too pushy about meeting up in person, bringing up sex too quickly/too often, etc.). Some guys accused me of being "flaky" or not really interested in meeting up because I took my time getting to know them first, or because I was busy with other things in my life and couldn't meet up when they wanted to. I lost interest pretty quickly in those guys.
Meeting up in person can be kind of scary too. Women especially worry about their safety when meeting a stranger. People can also feel insecure and end up "chickening out" (for example, what if I'm not what he expected and he doesn't like me?).
I don't know why the women you've talked to didn't want to meet in person with you, as I don't know you, them, or the conversations you had with them. All I can really say is keep trying, try not to do anything that would make women feel uncomfortable about meeting you in person, and if online dating isn't working for you, maybe try a different way to meet women.