Can you be both jelouse and hate her if she's mean?
Like let's say you hate her but at the same time be jelouse or want to be like her
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its not normal its dysfunctional. you hate the person you want to be like? you should find the endearing qualities of these people. you dont have to be friends with them but you should admire and strive for the qualities they have that you want to develop.
if she's mean to you be mean back
you dont want to be jealous. its unhealthy and your only hurting yourself. when its done and over just let it go.