Ahhh, no. We aren't dating... But I have some useful details. I'm very guilty of giving off plenty of mixed signals. I have even mentioned "friends" before. However, we both really do like each other. Lately, he's been the one giving me the mixed signals (I don't blame him). He's actively pursued me a while ago. I'm full of shit, but so is he (pardon my French). His behaviour towards me when I walk into a room:• He invites me to sit with him & his friends, & asks me for advice whenever one of his friends are having problems with their ladies• He flirts a lot • He listens to the private conversations I have with my girl friends ("overhearing")• He stares• I immediately draw his attention• He sits next to me • He always asks about my love life & whether or not I'm seeing anyone • He brought up marriage a while ago & tried to convince me it's a good thing (interview questions, basically, which can get a bit too much lol)• He teases me a lot• He likes getting close to me
• He likes getting close to me • He has pursued me countless times, & eventually I went for a coffee with him• My dad has asked out about the way he looks at me & has even told me he likes me• Guys have told me he likes me, simply via one look at me • My girl friends have told me he's obvious about liking me • I can go on & onPossible reasons for his behaviour:• He could fear rejection from me• He could really just not be interested, despite all the reasons I've given which displays interest• Other?
Sounds to me like he likes you. I think you know it too, but aren't certain. It's unlikely he wants to keep it platonic based on what you listed out. It seems as if he has taken the non-threatening approach that some guys like to do in order to make sure he gets into a girl's comfort zone before he makes the move. But even then guys realize being in a girl's comfort zone doesn't guarantee they won't get rejected. So yeah, I bet it's safe to say he likes you but is apprehensive on how to take things to the next level with you. If you like him in return, then try to make things easier for him by ridding him of the uncertainty.
I've also been in the situation where I thought a girl liked me and I was very uncertain on how to move things to the next level. Society puts lots of pressure on males to be the ones to move everything romantically, but it really isn't wrong for the girl to lead the guy to do things she wants him to do.
He pursued me for like 2-3 years just to get me to drink a coffee with him. Lol... He would always bump into me in order to ask me if I want to join him for a coffee. It never ended... I eventually did, & he stopped asking again. I played along with the dating thing though. I told him it's fine, since he wants me to start dating, I'll do it. So I told him about a current interest around his age (he's much older). No, he doesn't exist, but I felt like doing it because he kept pushing things. He looked a bit hesitant after I did that, like he regretted what he had said... :'). What do you reckon I do though? I also don't wanna come across as needy... I'm a very strange girl, in the sense that I'm not very experienced, but psychologically, I know how men are wired. I'm just uncertain about a kiss, as I'm a little scared it would come across as being too forward. Maybe I should just tell him I like being around him & he's a nice guy? Or is that too subtle?
I really appreciate your time & guidance! Your advice is the most useful :) lol
Oh! Right! You already suggested a peck on the cheek (sorry for misreading that!). Ok, so then just a kiss on the cheek? :). With the dating thing, should I play along, in order to get "closer" to him, or should I just let it fall by the way-side?
Just a peck on the lips!! No making out!!! Hahaha
maybe a hug would be betteror a hug/kiss on the cheek combo
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