Which doesn't help me as I have no clue which one it is.
ok the simple question is, what do you want, a friend, or a friend hopefully a boy friend?
The later but its not all up to me if he doesn't want it.
well you say he is the shy one, so grow a pair of ball and ask him out, be straight up, tell him you like him and if he likes you that maybe it would be nice to see if it would go further. if he says no then you have your answer, if he says yes, all is great
what happened to the new age of strong women and all that stuff lol
When you have been burned and made fun of... You learn to stay in the shadows.
maybe he feels the same as you do, only way to find out is to ask
i am one of those shy guys, i have been burned, made fun of, i do know what it is like,
No should know what that feels like. I'm just gonna back off and leave him alone. He knows how to find me if he really wants to.
Well I know he's shy, I just assumed not being able to give a straight answer went along with it. He has excuses like he's not into this or its a bad time so it sounds like he's not interested to me but if he's not why not just say no. I don't need an explanation.
Yeah but even if you don't want an explanation, he still feels like he owes you one. Otherwise he will look like an asshole because he said no without even explaining why not. If you like him and feel like he likes you too but is shy, try to make him comfortable around you, it will make him very happy to know you are willing to help him not being shy. At least that's what I would feel
That's the problem. I have been. I'm emotionally exhausted from trying! He will talk and doesn't seem at nervous as before and he will acknowledge me first but... He won't say no. I actually can't remember a time he actually told me no... for an invite or asking him to do something.. Its always... An excuse or... I loose stuff or I'm not really into that. Not a real no! And definitely he doesn't help by actually making any suggestions on what we could get together and do. It just depresses me. I think I'm gonna not go near him. Its not that hard as I actually have to drive over to his church function to see him, I just won't go visit him or any of my friends there for a while.
If he doesn't try to hang out with you, he doesn't deserve your efforts
I know. I am just not gonna visit over there where I might see him for a while.
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That's the problem he doesn't actually say no. He will say its a bad time or he's not really into that sorta thing... But never a straight answer. I've only invited him twice so far. Thinking a third time is stupid on my part.
I was gonna add that in but no seemed suffice lol. if you really wanna hangout with him then ask him if you two can do something together and let him decide on what to do, he can't say "im not interested in that" or "its a bad time" because its all on him.
I don't want him to be pressured thinking its a date. I was merely trying to get us some time with friends where we can get to know each other. Guess he's prob doesn't want to know me better.
its not a date until its called a date. just throw in keywords like hanging out or something. if you really wanna get to know him then don't give up so soon.
Ok, so if he really didn't want to go he would say no? He has excuses which make me think I shouldn't ask anymore as he must not be interested l.
If he wasn't interested he would just be like no I can't because... If it's cause he's nervous he'd be like oh I don't know or i don't really like that, or maybe later
Then do enlighten.
You need to tell my first