i genuinely have not had a single platonic guy friend who just wants to hangout and be my friend. i'm really not sexually out there at all and i'm actually more prude/uptight than anything i would say. it makes me sad because i feel like no guy ever wants to be friends and they only ask me to hangout to get in my pants. i turn almost every single one down but it still sucks. and if they don't make a legit move on me it's usually them trying to hit on me over snapchat or insta. what can i do? i googled this beforehand and i'm reading a forum on the student room and those people said to post a selfie so i will i guess. maybe i give off a hoe vibe? i don't know i'm not in a good mood this is actually making me sad
look I don't think you only just Attract guys who just want sex you see you probably give off this vibe of that may make them think oh "she would have sex with me" see most guys yes want sex that other small amount of guys that are average in there looks that you might not pay attention to are the guys who would be willing to wait and get to know you and actually spend time with you rather then just wanting to get you in bed so just try
and be careful on where you meet guys at cause that can also play a big role I mean you meet a guy at a club he obviously isn't looking for a relationship or the guy you meet at a party too they are just looking for someone to mess around with so just try and toning down your communication with guys to a minimum when you flirt with a guy you like just make sure you tell them to in the beginning of the start of the relationship and tell them I don't want sex anytime soon that you need to put up guardrails and that you want to be with somebody who is looking for marriage and love because you want something real and you want to wait for the right time.
that's really all I got to say almost everything else I can't cause I don't know you at all so I can't add anything else you are very beautiful by the way and just try and keep up your guardrails and you'll find a good man
well i'm actually just looking for guy friends. nothing similar to a relationship or hookup at all. but i have never found a guy who is down for that or who hasn't tried to get out of the friend zone. it's not fun. last night ( this is why i was thinking about this) i went to a guys house and he kicked me out when i wouldn't hookup with him even though i made it clear before i went over that i wasn't down at all
okay and we'll you seem like a really honest and chill person more honest though so I think that's what you're confusing with prude? I mean you told him and he still thought he had a chance and well do you go to college or are you already living?
okay so it's going to get harder and well a lot of guys are going to invite you to "hangout" don't not unless it's in public cause if it's not he's going to try something and in public it give you more of a chance to let him know you just want friends and nothing more I've lived in a college town since I was born and I still live here and it's great but at night there's always a party
do you have any girl friends that are going to the same college as you?
okay cool and so I just really hope you find some nice guy friends I would be but I mean I'm sure you live in a different state then but I mean want to be Internet friends cause I could use some honest and serious advice and opinions from a girl every now and then that can be totally honest with me but still be nice lol
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You're hot. So guys are interested.
If you were less hot you'd just get ignored.
There's not actually this massive army of guys out there looking for platonic female friends.
For guys, friends are people you share interests with and do stuff with; most often in groups. Not people you chat one on one with about emotions.
It seems like you're hanging out with the wrong type of people, because I know plenty of girls who are very attractive and that problem doesn't happen to them. Do you only hang out with attractive people?
Hey! Be honest with them. Personally, if that usually happened to me, I'd be unfront and say that you're not into whatever game they're playing. You're beautiful the way you are, and if it worries you; maybe ditch guy friends for a bit. Lie about your sexuality if you want. Don't change yourself too much though, you seem sweet.
lying about my sexuality actually sounds like such a solid move😂😂😂 thanks girl 😊 i usually am upfront i think but guys can never take no for an answer and many times i have been cornered into situations i don't want to be in ( i don't mean rape though)
Well you are very pretty and the fact you turn them away says you aren't a ho girl. But I'd say you might wanna change your look... go a tad more conservative keep it classy kind of sexy.. not that you look like a ho cause you don't... then change your social circle and hang with different people.
thank you😊 everyone keeps telling me less makeup but i want to be a makeup artist and my own face is the number one way i get clients
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And you look older than you are which I think works against you now... but don't worry too much about this or these guys... you are young, it's a tough age for a good relationship... keep your standards and expect that you will find someone that will be a match for you... you will just be patient and don't pressure yourself
but i can't hangout with anyone ( guy) without them trying to make a move. i'm social so i go out a lot and it's always in group settings but guys always try to make moves i'm not comfortable with):
Anonymous
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you remind me of Kylie Jenner and she is basically a sex symbol for guys... maybe try not to pout your lips like that? sometimes going makeup free or natural helps the good ones shine through. I'm totally trying to bring you down with my comments, just suggest some things to possibly help
i don't usually try honestly my lips just kinda look like that. maybe i will try the makeup free thing. only issue is i want to be a makeup artist so for me makeup is my biggest hobby and i love the process of dolling up
i look forward to getting ready more than i do being out😂
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that's awesome! I think makeup is great but maybe when trying to initially attract a guy try the less is more technique so that way when he sees you all dolled up his heart just melts and he treats you right
Eh, You're a pretty girl who goes after hot dudes, People who are good looking have the ability to be promiscious, So naturally, If you're going after hot guys, Theyre probably more then likely there to fuck then for a relationship, Just the same as how hot girls would rather fuck then have a relationship.
Im going to be blunt, You're pretty.. Like... Guys aren't going to want to 'just be friends'. you're hot, Theyre going to want to fuck you, Its just, Primal instincts on their part i guess. Hence why guys hate all the ''Friend zone'' and shit like that. Haha.
I think, Your best bet is either A) State from the very beginning how you feel and you just want to be friends B) Find a gay guy? C) Find a the 1 in 50 normal hetero guy who would 'just be friends'.
Well you're kinda hot so I don't really blame anyone. However if you develop an interesting personality along with a sense of humour I'm sure guys would want to be friends. And you don't give a hoe vibe. You look beautiful that's it. It's upto mentality of person to person how they treat you. There's basically nothing wrong with you. It's just that it takes a lot of effort to find nice people nowadays
This is debatable, but I don't really think guys and girls can be just friends. Most of the time at least one of them is going to like the other one more than friendship.
You will have trouble finding guy friends because you are quite attractive and so they will look at you in terms of sex or a relationship, not wanting to just "hang out".
Don't wear cloths that reveal a lot of your body. Try to be natural. Don't do make up a lot. Honestly, you would look pretty good even without makeup. So just wear something nice, less revealing, and less or no make up. maybe then someone would like to be friends with you
my issue with that is that i want to be a makeup artist so my face is my biggest way to get clients and also i love dolling up! i have always been a girly girl and i genuinely enjoy getting ready
Well it's good that you are doing the stuff you like but if you always wear makeup and short cloths then many guys would want you just to get into your pants rather than to have a friendship or a normal relationship with you. You have to change your appearance in order to get good friends.
yeah same here. You are a good looking person with a good heart who doesn't consider looks that much ( That's what I think about you) So I do hope that you find a good friend.
This is what you do. Develop a deep, interesting and invigorating personality. A thirst for knowledge, truth, deep inner connectivity and you do all of that for yourself.
Tell me what you talk about with people, do you read? what interests do you have?
The problem is that at your age, you don't really know yourself, probably won't have as much depth as when you are older. But cultivating depth now, and investing in yourself as a person is what a lot of people don't do.
If you have not taken any steps to develop this, then guys will just go for sex. Take sex totally out of the equation and you become just a person to hang with. Why would they choose you over one of the lads?
how do i develop this? i like to think i'm pretty interesting i'm well traveled and i do like to read
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I noticed that having interests that could benefit other people was what made a difference. This wasn't something I planned, I just happened to develop interests that could benefit other people in their life. You just need to continue growing your interests, learning, sharing, and becoming the best version of your self that you can be. But it has to be done genuinely and for your self.
When ever I met new people, or worked with people. I naturally talked about my interests but from the perspective of how what I'd learned could help them. This was a natural thing. If you had a choice of spending time with two guys but one of them had knowledge that could change your life for the better, and one didn't, you'd be more interested in the one that could.
I could be just your friend and I wouldn't give a F, however you can easily excite people because you're sexy! I'd probably feel freaking sexy a few days around you but I'll just get over with it and focusing on other girls. I had female roommates in a 2BD house and the same thing happened.
I wish you best of luck as many guys have an urge control the size of a soap dish but I'm not going to say it's impossible. I work in an auto shop and constantly hear how much my male coworkers want to bang my female ones. and while I may find some of my female friends attractive, I know that if they don't have the same attraction towards me it will never work if I tried making advancements towards them and I would also be loosing a relatively good friend.
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The truth is that men in your sort of age range will be hormone charged & will have sex drives many orders of magnitude higher than his female counterpart , it's NOT personal on you , it's simply primal biology in action. Even far less attractive girls than yourself will be lusted after , a suggestion would be the image you unwittingly give off , less " selfies " ( even my 10 yr old daughter does this !! ) & a more " demure " image , to weed out the potential " sex only " guys.
bcz u might b feeling alone so ur not able choose right one for u and everyone u might b think of sex but u not able to judge them at 1st try think understand well bfre u go for a relationship it's not u bcz it's ur body tht makes people think
it's all the state of being alone put u close to someone but u endup knowing thm tht thy only want to hav sex with u bfre u go out with u guy try to know him well what he is upto
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Your make up and photos are subtle hints that you are slutty plus maybe you have a reputation. Guys break down women into two categories- the hoebags the screw a few times and high quality women they date and maybe marry.
first of all makeup does not indicate slutiness whatsoever. it enrages me that you even say that. and considering i'm still a virgin i'm definitely not a hoe nor do i have a reputation so you can get the fuck out of here.
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When make up is slapped on with a builder's trowel it indicates sluttiness virgin or not. If you dress like a slut people will assume you are and post trampy pics on Facebook and Instagram people will assume you are and you will get a reputation. "Why do I only attract guys who want to have sex?" Is the question you asked don't blame me if you can't handle the truth. My advise is to tone it down as your attracting the sleaze balls and driving away the good guys.
first off all my makeup is not just "slapped on with a builders trowel." i actually want to be a makeup artist and my makeup/face is how i attract and book all my new clients. i get compliments on my makeup all the time thank you very much. i don't dress like a slut at all, a majority of the time i'm in long pants and duster coats.
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You did ask my opinion why dont get mad at the cold hard facts.
It's up to you but I suggest you consider what I said is correct and not just dismiss it out of hand because you don't like what I said. Let me remind you that you asked "Why do I only attract guys who want to have sex?" And suggested "maybe i give off a hoe vibe". I am actually going by the image which you present yourself.
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Ok...
Anonymous
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I don't know i feel like most of what you wrote is bs honestly plus there's no way we could actually know how you act in person cause thats what matters i mean in my honest opinion you do give off a sluty vibe and I don't know why all these dude are saying its cause you're attractive in my opinion you're not even that attractive i know girls that look way better than you and they dont get treated like this its like i said its all about how you act
QuietRunner | 161 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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Well you don't give off a hoe vibe, you give off a girlfriend vibe that attracts guys. We younger guys want to have sex and a lot of sex at that. Attractive girls turn us on and you def turn guys on. We will try to make moves to have sex with you because we want to have sex, it is in our hormones at this age.
You going to have to look hard for guy friends, I'm sorry. They way you look you are going to attract a lot of guys that want to have sex. Accept that it will be difficult.
you look really good. I'd be tryna fuck. I can only guess it would be hard for a guy to be your friend because your so hot. he'd feel like a punk when you get a boyfriend aswell.
or a gay guy. maybe be friends with a but not really close friends. or you could be the best friend any guy cab ask for. you can be a friend that introduces him to hot girls you know. Thad be a friend zone any man would be proud take part in lol
I would actually value that friendship so Much. girls should always do this when friend zoning it be so much better. thanks. if the idea works and this becomes a thing that people do call it "caspering" lmao :)
could just talk to a guy normally. or when one talks to you you can incite him out. bring some hot friends. tell him (if your not into him) I'm currently not dating (give any excuse that's reasonable) then say my friend (insert name here) might like you tho.
most good friends I have a met doing something or because we had something the other needed. if you introduce him to girls or help him if he needs advice with girls (and make it clear your aren't a target. lol) he probably would see you as an ally type person instead of someone to be caught in some way. if that makes any sense.
You are really pretty... I guess most of the guys will think with their penis but there are also the guys who'll definitely love you in a relationship way... so... just hang in there... wait for right guy...😄
guys can't handle rejection and it usually stops our "friendship"
Anonymous
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wouldn't judge by photos if they weren't there and not saying it's not for other reasons too, but there is a bit too much make-up (well applied though!), maybe with a bit less of it then men can appreciate more of your natural look and a part of who you really are
You have to have your own standards and also yes that means you are in control who goes in and out of your life, you can't let anyone take that away from you, so don't feel bad rejecting guys. 😊🖒
Ok ok , woman mature faster then men. At 18 men are thinking differently about a woman. Maybe you'll have better chance at (man friends) with slightly older guys.. that's all I got , 🙏🏻 best of luck
My males friends typically don't try to make moves. They're nicer to me, but that's just about it. I think it's about finding people who will respect you. My friends respect me, they don't see me as other females. That's what you need to look for, not guys who are trying to get in your pants.
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