Guys: Do you prefer to initiate flirting, or let the girl initiate it?

Do you prefer to express your interest/flirt with a girl first, or do you prefer that she does it first? Do you normally initiate or wait for her to do it?
  • I prefer to initiate
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  • I prefer that she initiates
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Most Helpful Guy

  • It depends. Sometimes I want to flirt, and sometimes I want her to flirt with me. A flirt can provide a lot of information and encouragement for the person being flirted with to ask the other one out, and it's generally easier to flirt than to actually ask someone out, so in a lot of cases, it's saying "please ask me out"...

    Flirting can also just be friendly, though, with no romantic intent.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I'm not a guy but I will answer this question. In my experience, guys say they want women to approach them but when we do, they get very cocky and picky all of a sudden.
    I know a guy who said that if girls approach him, he must be above average so now he's only gonna go for 9's and 10's.
    Sadly, in my experience, when I approach a guy and I don't do it anymore, it's such a huge ego boost that he turns into a total jerk.
    I think deep down guys want and prefer to approach because it gives them confidence and makes them feel in control.

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    • I've had women approach me and it a ego boost. How can it not be? Someone thinks you are attractive enough to go out with. But its not like I would suddenly think i'm too good for her. I think I speak for most men (at least my age) when I say its just too dangerous to approach women in this day and age.
      That being said when women initiated i didn't do anything except once because i'm shy.

    • talk about ego in women ! Don't get us started.

    • I can only speak for myelf, but I am very polite and listen to anyone woman who flirts. I also would make sure she left with a positive feeling about the interaction, i. e., I would treat her exactly as I would like to be treated. If I'm not single, I'd mention a girlfriend so she doesn't get discouraged and think that she did something wrong.

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What Guys Said 35

  • It really depends on the person like that's where the whole dominant and submissive thing comes in to a certain extent, some guys maybe a little coy and have trouble starting things up and that's a good way for a girl to initiate or one of the guys very straightforward they usually tend to be the ones that initiate

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  • It's not that I'm shy it's because I cook, I clean, I'm very organized, I act like a gentleman, I'm okay with paying on the first date, I can talk about a wide range of topics, I don't mind helping others and overall I'm a liberal-minded guy but the girl has to do something then so she should in my opinion.

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  • I love to playfully flirt, so I prefer to be the one doing it. I flirt with my female friends all of the time, and I have no romantic interest in them. Most of them flirt with me as well, and they are not interested in me either. It's just a fun way to joke around.

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  • Either of the two but I would appreciate if the girl would show some kind of sign that she likes me too so I wouldn't look like a sociopath craving for attention lol

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  • We are all scared to get hurt or fear rejection. I think both sexes prefer the other to take the lead. Its a miracle that we even have babies in the world...

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  • Wow. Overwhelmingly men prefer if women approach them. I think we all need to realize this and women should take this into much consideration.

    All the girls i have ever dated initiated it.

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  • I prefer her to do the initiate, but if I dont initiate, no one does... tested it 3 years, not a single one...

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  • If he has not considered you yet, you flirting can get some gears turning. No one should let fate control there love life. If you want someone try and get at least a try.

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  • with amount of girls claiming to be approached by creeps and harrased by guys it would be foolish of any guy to initiate flirting with a girl when he never saw any signs of interest from her.

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  • these days with all these feminists and rape accusations blah blah blah it's way too dangerous to initiate as a man. I'm petrified.

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  • I'd prefer she did! Sadly it doesn't happen though.

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  • I prefer her to initiate it, lest my advances be misconstrued as sexual harassment. "But I just said that she looks nice!"

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  • At least a girl should show a sign of interest in me to initiate flirting. i don't want to get slapped tho.

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  • I like it when a girl flirts with me it makes me feel good and makes my day better.

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  • I prefer to initiate it, since I never met a girl who succeeded with initiating a flirt.

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  • I'd rather she initiates. At least that way I don't feel like I'm harassing her or wasting my time.

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  • When things looks Interesting and positive, i prefer to initiate !

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  • When she initiates than it makes her look confident and this attracts men! :)

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  • Usualy when girl does first thier interested in more than sex

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  • Since when do girls initiate?

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  • I'm hella shy, so don't mind at all

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  • I'd love for her to initiate.

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  • Let her initiate it

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  • I prefer that she initiates cause I'm too shy.

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  • I gave up.

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  • I strongly prefer to initiate.

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  • It doesn't really matter

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  • too lazy and time consuming. Can't be bothered.

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  • I love flirting

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  • I prefer if to initiate.

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