- Hell yes!
- No, I’d prefer to be the provider
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I wish I could message you and have a conversation about it. ( I'm not trying to start a friendship or hit on you, internet stuff is not my deal)
I'm very attracted to independent women. I like a girl who has goal and goes further. I almost get in a relationship with one. She was amazing, but she was moving far from me. I know she'll go really far. I think those kind of girls are the ones we need nowadays. I want a partner that I can feel like we are equals, and we both have visions and strive to be better. The things is trying to get a balance to not seem very cold. Maybe it could be learning each other languages of love or something, and try to make the other feel the appreciation. I don't mind the idea of a partner who has a higher salary than mine. I really don't want a woman dedicated to her house.
Women are capable to be in " men dominated environments" and I think they can make them balanced without the need of quotas. Soon we'll have way more females with college degrees than males.
Confidence it's so attractive.
We need more women like you, and also you'll find a great partner bc a man who likes a woman like that tends to have a forward thinking and you'll avoid degenerates.
I like that trait but if go too far & appear cold & generally dismissive of any affection, then it can be a little off putting. I firmly believe the best relationships are on an equal basis throughout. Each one not sponging off the other so money never causes arguments. They can buy each other presents & treats of course but share the workload and bills. Obviously support the other temporarily if one loses their job too. Both should save their own surplus money though. Joint accounts are a dreadful idea & cause so many arguments.
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I am right there with you lass! We share many of the same personality traits. My first husband left me financially secure. I am employed in a predominately male organization, in a traditionally masculine field. Indeed, the few female friends I have, told me they initially found me aloof and 'formidable'. I project confidence and expect directness from others. Yes, some folk find this intimidating.
I happen to be in a leadership position at my work. In the past, I have had some of the issues you mention with others round me. However, a friend gave me the book "The Girls Guide to Being a Boss (Without Being a Bitch) by Caitlin Friedman. Socially, "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation" by Deborah Tannen, has been of much benefit to me.
As to men romantically speaking, I am a (reasonably) happily married woman. However, this is my second marriage and I have eleven years on hubby. Initially, he was nearly put off. Sometimes, I am (without meaning to be) brusk. As it turned out, I ended up pursuing him. lol I was born in Greece and reared in Eire. So, I tend to go after what I want. I hope my comments have been of some benefit and wish you the best.
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I have the same type of personality and I FEEL EXACTLY THE SAME WAY! 😱
I do think that being independent, aware of your surroundings, knowledgeable, in charge and with a serious character simply scares men off. And to be honest, I think is better that way. Because those who get intimidated by you, they are usually comparing, measuring and treasuring their egos. And instead of giving you a chance, they prefer to look like cowards before “you” hurt their little ego. YES! There will be a guy who will be delighted and intrigued enough, who will get the courage to approach you because he will see your worth. I wouldn’t worry if I were you, be patient sweetheart... Is better to get quality than quantity. 😊