How do you say no to a guy when he approaches you without hurting him?
What Guys Said 23
At your age, it's best to simply say you're not interested (which is simpler than saying he is not your type). When you get a little older, guys will often be perceptive enough to tell from the convo that you're not feeling them.0
He will be hurt - a little - anyway. Any gentle and reflected statement from you will do. Even a simple thing like ''Sorry, I am not THAT much into you''. We guys are cognitive (mostly); give us a reason, and we can ''compute'' it.0
Absolutely without lying. This would work for me:
"(Name), I appreciate your honesty, and I think you were very brave, but I simply don't want a relationship with you. (if you are friends,) You are a great friend, but that is it. I really hope we can get past this, but if you need time away or if you want to break it off completely I will understand and respect your decision."0
there isn't a way really, but being honest & simple ty but I not interested that way, is polite & respect that honest, not leaves any false hope or shows you not mean0
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You really can't - which is why you should be as direct and brief as possible without being mean - try to keep his feelings in mind, but be direct and extinguish all hope from the start. You won't want this:
You don't want to be cruel or mean, but you need to be CLEAR, and he's probably going to have some hurt feelings, and you can't really prevent that. Sad to day, a few guys may lash out at you when you reject them - but that's because they're hurt and they're embarrassed and try to show anger instead of pain. You don't have to forgive them, but at least understand where it's coming from and don't take it too personally.0
I'd prefer a straight answer, without beating around the bush. Best way for me to know and move forward to another girl.0
dont try to be very nice to him.. a clear no is always good than twisted NO.. it is only one time thing than over.. say i cannot be with you.. and for that you need no reason to explain..0
Gross him out. just say something like you have diarrhea. And if that doesn't work just give him your number and then send him a thousand texts a day and he will leave you alone fairly quickly0
just me upfront.
you're not gonna do anything good by sugar coating it.
just tell him you're not interested.0
I'd feel bad a and rejected no matter what you say unless it's a yes because if she says NO in any way she is pretty much rejecting me like thats how it works you can't go around it.0
there's no way to make them feel like they haven't been rejected. But just tell them that you aren't interested in the most respectful way (assuming they are being respectful).0
Just be honest, because no matter how much you try to help him absorb the impact, it will hurt. But dont be cruel and disrespectful about it.0
You can say you're a lesbian, but that would be a lie.
Or have courage and say - I'm not interested, so don't waste your time trying.
Reality is always tough, and so it hits hard.0
Don't show interest, and if possible, hang out with a Male schoolmate. That wards off unwanted men. (It works for me, and girls do it all the time)0
Just be direct and perfectly clear of your intentions. Can't really do anything more than that.0
Just say something like, I'm not in a place emotionally to be with anyone or anything like that...0
Well he will get hurt alright. But you can help him move on. I have been rejected before twice once by a girl who did it in a mean way infront of everyone... I guess I was inflating her over inflated ego, it took over a year to recover my dignity and gather some courage. 2nd by a girl who did it in a nice way... I am still good friends with her... I totally accepted her decision and moved on in a month.
So my advise is... tell him you are already in a relationship, don't make him think there will be a chance in the future, tell him that you can be friends. Just act normally afterwards so that things don't get awkward. He will accept your decision.0
Best way is directly say: I am not interested in you".0
Tell him let's be friends first then we'll see what happens next..0
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What Girls Said 2
Tell him " I'm sorry but I just see you more of as a good friend"0
Shut him down as quickly as possible. Don’t drag it out/prolong it0
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