URGENT!!! What does it mean if your partner is unsure about the relationship and who to be with?

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Like he's with me even tho we had really bad times to the point we took 2 breaks. And he got back with me.

We been together for 8 years and I do feel insecure at times. So he basically got on well with a girl during our break thinking it was over and actually fell for her and has feelings for her to the point he's confused who to fucking be with.

Like WTF I never done anything like this cause I truly love him. How can he be confused he goes he thought it was over when we were on a break and naw we jus argue.

But he hasn't spoke to her and they have the same classes🙄and what does it mean he's confused. I feel so jealous cause she's good looking girl than me and they get on unlike me and my boyfriend because of her😭

He still with me tho but is confused and still likes her a lot... Wtf does it mean

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Need more advice guys and will he chose me or her and why doubt our 8 year relationship. Yes we argue a lot but we still together

Answer 1

Anonymous

Unfortunately, I think you should let him go with her.

If he feels unsure about who he should be with, it's a clear sign that he might no longer be as happy in your relationship as you are.

Or maybe you should just meet him somewhere to talk about this.

Things will be settled, and you might get a clear answer out of that discussion.

If he does end up with her, it's gonna be heartbreaking for you, I have no doubt. But just remind yourself that if things don't go the way you want, you will one day find another person who will love you as much as you will love him. That person might even become your husband.

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Opinion Owner

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by the way, good luck! I hope things will go the way you want!
Asker

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Do you think he'll end up with her. I heard from mates he's so smiley with n around her he told her were back together then why does he still like her then.

What does he want
Asker

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Does he not see a future with me on our 8 relationship. I think he does like her more... But he's still with me but is indecisive.. Will he decide who to be with
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Opinion Owner

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It's hard to tell.

As I said in my previous comment, you should meet up with him to discuss about this problem. Ask him to be honest about how he currently feels about you and that other girl.

I can't know how he feels. No one can. We would just be making assumptions.

Did you hang out with some boy friends? If so, then maybe he's just trying to make you jealous by flirting with that girl. If that's actually the case, then it might mean that he's "testing" you to see if you're still willing to share your personal life with him.

So you really have to make a move and ask him directly how he feels. So yeah, set up a dinner with him or meet him somewhere.
Asker

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I did ask him he eventually told me everything and said that he really likes her and is confused about our relationship why could that be

Because of her I argue thinking I'm gunna lose him even tho I changed his number so she don't contact but she still try time to time and I jus block her but he doesn't know.

And he said he likes her but he's still with me I mean our relationship hasn't gone well but he's still with me maybe wanting to work things out
Opinion Owner

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Well at this point, I do not know what else can be said to help you out.

I guess you will just need to let things happen naturally.

I'm sorry! I hope things will work out for you the way you desire!

Answer 2

Opinion Owner

by the way, good luck! I hope things will go the way you want!

Answer 3

Asker

Do you think he'll end up with her. I heard from mates he's so smiley with n around her he told her were back together then why does he still like her then.

What does he want

Answer 4

Asker

Does he not see a future with me on our 8 relationship. I think he does like her more... But he's still with me but is indecisive.. Will he decide who to be with

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

It's hard to tell.

As I said in my previous comment, you should meet up with him to discuss about this problem. Ask him to be honest about how he currently feels about you and that other girl.

I can't know how he feels. No one can. We would just be making assumptions.

Did you hang out with some boy friends? If so, then maybe he's just trying to make you jealous by flirting with that girl. If that's actually the case, then it might mean that he's "testing" you to see if you're still willing to share your personal life with him.

So you really have to make a move and ask him directly how he feels. So yeah, set up a dinner with him or meet him somewhere.

Answer 6

Asker

I did ask him he eventually told me everything and said that he really likes her and is confused about our relationship why could that be

Because of her I argue thinking I'm gunna lose him even tho I changed his number so she don't contact but she still try time to time and I jus block her but he doesn't know.

And he said he likes her but he's still with me I mean our relationship hasn't gone well but he's still with me maybe wanting to work things out

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

Well at this point, I do not know what else can be said to help you out.

I guess you will just need to let things happen naturally.

I'm sorry! I hope things will work out for you the way you desire!

Answer 8

Logorithim

Influencer

Cut your losses here. If he finds another girl interesting despite 8 years together your time with him has run its course.

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Asker

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Well it hasn't cause he still with me not like he's gunna be with her. And they both have same classes to and one of their best friends told he so smiley and happy when she talks to him wtf...

But he's still with me despite all this. Tbh I don't think has guts to break up

Answer 9

Asker

Well it hasn't cause he still with me not like he's gunna be with her. And they both have same classes to and one of their best friends told he so smiley and happy when she talks to him wtf...

But he's still with me despite all this. Tbh I don't think has guts to break up

Answer 10

Secret6620 | 928 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

He may need more time to date and make sure he knows what he wants

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Asker

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Well how does it make sense we are in a 8 year serious relationship. During our break he told he he really like this girl but we ended up back together yet he does still like her and he's confused. So I argue thinking he talks to her. I don't knoww what he wants
Secret6620

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I'm not psychic.🤷
Asker

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Is this a good or bad thing.. He's still with me after the break

Answer 11

Asker

Well how does it make sense we are in a 8 year serious relationship. During our break he told he he really like this girl but we ended up back together yet he does still like her and he's confused. So I argue thinking he talks to her. I don't knoww what he wants

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Secret6620

I'm not psychic.🤷

Answer 13

Asker

Is this a good or bad thing.. He's still with me after the break

Answer 14

Uncut

Explorer

Sounds to me like he wants to move on. Not sure how you are not seeing that.

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Asker

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Because during the break they met because well they hve the same class he told me everything after we got back together cause he had to.

He's still with me so how is he moving on... He isn't saying he wants to or why would he be back to me after the break liking the other girl

Answer 15

Asker

Because during the break they met because well they hve the same class he told me everything after we got back together cause he had to.

He's still with me so how is he moving on... He isn't saying he wants to or why would he be back to me after the break liking the other girl

Answer 16

Nataliewin

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I say ditch the fucker

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Asker

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But why would he be back to be after the breaking. He acc likes her but he's with me so he can't be or talk to her. I even changed his number and deleted his SC to prevent her and him talking. We're in a 8 year relationship. What does he want?
And who more?
Nataliewin

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Well really only you can know I know I would move on if it were me
Asker

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Does he like her more than me
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Nataliewin

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How can I know

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Asker

But why would he be back to be after the breaking. He acc likes her but he's with me so he can't be or talk to her. I even changed his number and deleted his SC to prevent her and him talking. We're in a 8 year relationship. What does he want?
And who more?

Answer 18

Nataliewin

Well really only you can know I know I would move on if it were me

Answer 19

Asker

Does he like her more than me

Answer 20

Nataliewin

How can I know

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