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School, church, youth group, beach, mall, concert, sporting event, community dance, speed dating, on vacation, cooking class, gym, birthday party for coworker, museum, roller rink, mountain climbing, park, charity auction, fundraiser
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School, gym, volonteering events, sport teams, staff parties for coworkers, open events in restaurants, activities organised by table games selling shop
Well for me. School was always a big place, we weren't a small class by any means. College also has opened up opportunities but I tell myself someone I'm looking at is probably already dating, I'm in the engineering field so there aren't as many girls to begin with, (trust me I wish there were more)
If you can and if there is one, hanging at a student cafe or similare thing can be useful.I tried this several time by bringing table games and playing with 3-4 friends.I ended up getting positive attention from almost everyone in the place and invited random players (both males and females).
We have a cafeteria building on campus. But I avoid it because of the social aspect. I've been in there before, just sitting in a corner doing work on my laptop. I couldn't even begin to handle the thought of asking a girl anything, let alone another guy I don't know.
Try doing some fun activities with people you are comfortable with, then it will organicaly draws attention on your group.
The thing is that I can't really be social. I met one guy my 1st semester that's been my saving grace in terms of not being alone in classes and whatnot. Not much of a group to work with.. I don't mean to shoot everything down. I've just been dealing with this stuff for so long I'm becoming really negative.
Can you not be bothered to find girls on your own? You're outsourcing the problem and getting others to tell you where to go.
Hey, I'm asking for both genders just to compare. If you want to keep this toxic attitude, go outside and play on the highway mate.
call me toxic and then tell me to run into traffic in the same sentence, huh? hope the irony isn't lost on you.
I would have call it a draw. The question is simple, and doesn't recquires any further analysing of my intents behind it or on your comments (since we don't know each others).Now, if you want to retry to be relevant at least a little it is up to you.If not, don't waste your time on this question and just skip it like an adult please.
School, cafe, the ski lodge, the starting area at a ski race, online, that’s about it for me
I don't date, i save women the trouble of rejecting me
Oh they are all over the place
I wish haha
Go to college they have tons of them there
I am in college, I'm in engineering so out of all of my classes I have 1 girl in one of them. It's guy heavy. Our town is boring, and I don't believe girls just go out places and hang to try find their someone, no place like that around here.
Didn't we talk about 30 minutes ago?
Fr0stbit3 is right on this matter. Small towns and cities without enough activities for young people can represent a challenge for guys. On the other hand, girls tend to stick with their already existing group of friends and will see a randomer as an intruder most of the time (if you are not physicaly or at least in appearence a 8 or above on 10)
No we did not. I got this last night and have only talked here and on a completely different post
when I go to University of Miami girls are looking at me left and right I don't see how that could be possible within a college town
I just talked to an engineer that's going to college complaining about not getting girls 30 min ago
I am tired of getting rejected, should I give up? ↗
Nope that's not me. I'm 19 and haven't been able to ask a single girl out. Wish I could be like that guy in the post though ^
You can do better he's negative and won't even try
I bet I'm even more negative to be honest. Anyone I look at it convince myself they are already dating. I don't think I'm that attractive to begin with. My pfp is the only picture I have of myself, and it's a senior photo. I'm a normal guy but really shy and anxious. While that picture makes me look like a jock douche.
Well maybe try changing your hairstyle around and try to be more positive enough to show on your face or dress little bit different it also depends on how your weight is as well
Continue to assume that girls are already taken. Just befriend them, even Friendzone some of them, and they will see your lack of interest toward them as attractive (it is largely generalized but you get the point) .
I'm not overweight by any means.. I normally just have dinner even. 1 meal a day. I drink lots of water and somehow have some abs from it, I don't work out and have no interest in it. I also don't know how to make friends anymore. I can't walk up to a table with a girl and ask if I can hang with her can I? It's going to be my 3rd semester there and I do not know any girls. But there are way more at the cafeteria than at the tech building I'm in. Sorry if this is hard to picture. I feel like I'm so far behind already..
just keep hanging in there and don't give up and eventually you'll find yourself a girlfriend and remember you're still young yet
I feel like I've got a year left at most to find someone before everyone is taken I'll just continue to sit in my room and be a good boy doing all my work on time and never really living life. It's a big fear.
That's not how things work you have the rest of your life to find a girl and I'm sure if you keep working hard at it you'll find one eventually. Try to be more positive
It's hard to be positive when everyone around me is dating or has dated a lot before. I have 0 experience. I feel like I'm not even trying and just beat myself up. I haven't talked to a girl in any way in a year and a half now. I don't know how to have literally any interaction. I've tried bumble and tinder and have only gotten the bots to match me. No one real, doesn't really help the 0 self esteem
You have to change your outlook on the dating world, stop beating yourself up start being positive and approaching woman more often if not two years from now it's going to be the same old story
Can I ask how to approach women? I literally know nothing and break down in my head thinking of ways to try and start something. I'll definitely hang out in the cafeteria at college throughout the day as this semester I have big breaks between classes. I'll probably notice some girls sitting alone on a daily basis. How would I go about talking to anyone there? Sorry to ask this, you can just leave me like everyone else does.
Look for a single from the girl. If you think she looks interested Approach her and introduce yourself and bring up conversation about what are you you majoring in things like that and discuss life and laugh and be upbeat and smile
That's quite an amazing dream... I'll put myself out there by being in the cafe, but I doubt anyone will give me time of day. Thank you for the advice.
don't quit don't get discouraged keep pushing forward
Just go online or randomly approach them
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