My cousin is 187 lbs for 5’2 inches, she eat a lot and refuse to work out, no matter how many times I tried to convince her to do this.
She have a crush on our neighbor, cause he’s hot and well toned, and she got extremely mad and sad when he started to flirt with me, I’m not gorgeous but at least I’m fit and I take care of my self, but when we are alone she told me that our neighbor must be too shallow if he didn’t fall for her, cause she have everything to be a good girlfriend for him.
I told her that it’s stupid since he’s fit so he want a fit girl, but she replied that I am as shallow as him if I think this, she thing a handsome boy can fall in love with her even if she’s fat!! Is she delusional or crazy?
If anything you are the delusional or crazy one. A man's own body type has zero correlation with what kind of girl he prefers. There is some underlying assumption here that fit people go with fit people and fat people go with fat people if they get anyone but that is not how the world works, it is a simplistic heuristic for people who want the world to be a certain way. This guy happened to like you, that means nothing about the next one. And there is a lot more to attraction than body type. Personally, I think 187 and 5'2" is cute on a girl. Your cousin will find the right guy for her in due time, and until then perhaps you should be more supportive and quit ridiculing her and pressuring her to change her body to appease society.
Many people are like this. They don't take care of themselves at all, they only become attracted to people who do, and then they call those people shallow for not wanting them.
If he's shallow for not wanting her, isn't she also shallow for wanting him because he's a fit good looking guy? These people are too stupid to understand how ridiculous this is. It's a waste of time trying to talk to them about it.
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Sad to admit but I think you’re right. I tell her many times that men aren’t attracted to her just like she’s not attracted to fat men. I mean... I would be happy for her if a fit guy fall in love with her, but she almost slapped me while yelling when I told her honestly that her dating pool is smaller than a slim woman cause she’s overweight
It's usually just about laziness also, wanting to have their cake and eat it too. If she were to hit the gym she could get a guy like that, and deep down somewhere she probably knows this, but she's too lazy to do that so instead she just gets mad or shames people.
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juicyjessie | 202 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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Rather deluded, I am afraid. I know it should not be like that, as personality is more important than looks.
Problem comes that anyone being very overweight is a reflection of their personality. In your cousins case, it shows she is not willing to look after herself, and may therefore be incapable of looking after a guy.
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WhiteShoulder | 125 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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Some hot guys like chubby girls or really do fall for a girl's personality, but most want someone fit.
She's not crazy, but her odds of getting someone hot aren't that high.
What does this feel to me like you are a chubby girl that has a thing for fit guys and you want others to tell you like you have a chance with them
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Nope, i truly won’t come here to find that kind of approval 😆. Fat girls with high standards are truly stupid for me cause weight is something that you have control over
No, different strokes for different folks. there's always going to be a guy who's into women you wouldn't normally see. a lot of really skinny white guys like plus sized women that if noticed lol. If she can pull him then let her try. The only bad thing though is if she builds herself up for it and then gets crushed but that's for her to think about. Bigger women can be sexy too. Most men prefer a girl on the thicker side contrary to what women think lol. Most Men dont need a skinny little break em in half kinda women. Plus no matter a person's looks or size there's a guy out there that is totally into them.
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buttcrackjoe | 74 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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I dunno I've seen some chubba wubbas with incredibly cute faces that are definitely dateable but there is a limit to body mass a slight bump is ok but if the gut sticks out past her boobs it’s a hard pass. You want to feel pride waking in public with your girl not embarrassed
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part of me wants to say beauty is in the eye of the beholder but in this case its complete bullshit. I'll give it to you straight. If a woman can't take care of herself physically how in the hell is she going to take care of the kids when she has one with him? or how in the hell is he going to get a hard on when she has a fat stomach? If it's pregnancy that's a different story because guys can still get a hard on knowing its from a woman being knocked up by him but if it's just fat then it's much much harder for a guy to be sexually aroused by that. also this is coming from A LOT of personal experience dealing with fat women they are much more nasty and mean than skinny or in shape women. This is NO exaggeration when I say this but EVERY interaction i've ever had with a fat woman she has been mean and nasty to talk to and extremely verbally hostile where as skinny or in shape fit women just ignore the shit out of a guy without the mean nasty attitude involved
She's delusional because this guy obviously has lots of options and doesn't need to consider her.
An ex's sister was clueless like that. She was obese and didn't care, saying a guy would have to accept that yet meet her demanding standards for men. Unsurprisingly, no one was interested and she had so settle for hookups with guys she'd never date.
I'd say not delusional but maybe expecting a little too much. But it's possible some men are So Thirsty those sleep worth whatever so for a woman she can probably get whatever she wants honestly. What pissed me off as my friend who is like 400 lb look at me one time and he told me I could never be with a fat girl and I wanted to punch him in his face.
I don't think anyone is delusional for having a preference in attraction. To each their own. Your cousin feeling he is too shallow for not being into her is another matter.
if they want a hot guy! why not they deserve to have one.,. and I know there's a lot of guys prefer the chubby girl.,. ^~^
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They don’t deserve to have one compared to women who sacrifice themselves to look fit, who avoid eating crap everyday and who workout regularly. It would be unfair
sometimes the problem it's not at them,, a something out of their own control,, and I'm not saying they deserve so that's mean all guys must get the chubby girl instead of the fit athletic girl., it's not a problem to have something u dream about all day,.
I know many people who are fit and good looking and still have ugly girlfriends, most of those girls are not even kind. There's hope for everyone, but the easier way would definitely to get in shape.
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genericname85 | 1.1K opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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i mean there are fit guys that like fat chicks, however their odds auf scoing such a guy are fairly low. even lower than the chance of a fat dude scoring a fit hot chick.
There are many more fit guys who date fat women than any woman who'd date a fat guy... that's just the truth. I hope my daughters don't end us as shallow as the majority of women are
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Thatsamazing | 230 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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Um... because they are. This is like asking why flat-Earthers are delusional-- because they are.
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