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That's a pretty shitty response.
For those women to take.
Ex? Who said it was an ex?
Well, I just assumed it was an ex, but I guess we're going with the infamous mistress scenario. In that case that's just adding insult to injury. No self-respecting, confident woman would go after a taken man. So I guess that makes them both shitty people. The guy treats his "mistress" and his "wife" that way because they allow it and because he sees women (consciously or not) as less, as a playtoy. But the true enabler here is the mistress, the one who's allowing this behavior, because the wife might not even be aware of it. That would only be a compliment to give a slut."You're so much hotter/prettier than my wife/girlfriend/fiance," implies no respect for women in general. Because if a guy doesn't respect that wife/girlfriend/fiance, what makes you think that he would any other? If the girl goes along with it, for sure it makes her a slut. Not because she sleeps around, but because she disrespects herself and others with her being proud of being a "man stealer" and whatnot. You can sleep around all you want, but becoming an interloper in someone else's relationship, specially when you know there's someone else, is just low on their part. So yeah, no way would that be a decent compliment. Comparison is the mother of all unhappiness, so just for that, this "compliment" is wrong on so many levels.
"No self-respecting, confident woman would go after a taken man" is incorrect, but anyway. Also your definition of "slut" is off.
Well, typically sexually promiscuous women are what is considered as "sults" (I know that), but then again if you've had a few partners, you're also "slut" to many people, so who's to say. I think that being someone's dirty little secret is being a slut however, because you're not treating yourself with any modicum of respect. As humans, we tend to give and/or find inherent value in things, what is considered trash or without value, is treated as such. Our self-worth is kinda like that. The innate value that you give yourself and project outwardly, is how people will treat you. Why do you say that "No self-respecting, confident woman would go after a taken man" is incorrect? If she were truly confident she'd definitely treat herself better and wouldn't standby and let this guy do whatever he wants. A self-respecting woman, would demand to be treated with respect, not to be in the shadows or as a backdoor, sneaky thing. A person that respects themselves wouldn't allow others to treat them with such little respect. But I'd like to pick your brain, why do you think otherwise?
Because love and attraction are more complicated than that.
But, isn't though? Because most of the times we want what isn't good for us. Girls go for emotionally unavailable or taken men, and guys go for the even-more-toxic-than-chernobyl chick, and it can get to be one blurry mess. However, do you think it's healthy to go after someone who has somebody else? Wouldn't it be better to just find someone to be as devoted as you to the relationship? In what sense is it complicated?
It doesn't matter whether it's healthy or not; people want what they want and don't want what they don't want. Love and attraction aren't always logical.
What if you liked the guy?
If he breaks up with her just for a prettier thing, I would seriously question my standards.
But you would acknowledge somehow that you were prettier, if he said so.
And also not all compliments are genuine. Also why would he even need to mention that in the first place? Isn't just a "you clean up nice" enough?