If a guy friend flirts but never hangs with me alone or text me, does that means that he's playing with me?

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If a guy friend shows signs of attraction (locking eyes, being awkward, standing close to me, touching my hand, teasing me, and saing sweet stuff like "I want you next to me", or "i don't care about others" .. and acting totally different than other guys around you) torwards you, but never hangs alone, or text in private inbox... never make obvious move, does that means that he's just playing with you?

He is playing with you

He is interested in you

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Answer 1

btbc92 | 294 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

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I don't know why you women always assuming that the person likes you. The guy just wants sex. And he's telling you that and non subtle ways. That's not a friend. That's somebody that always wanted sex with you. Forget what a night if he's playing with you or not. Flirting is always with the intent of manipulation. Sexual manipulation I should say.

At the same time. Just because a person does all that that doesn't mean they're flirting with you. If your overall good friends, you tend to behave that way with those that you are comfortable with and close to. However if he does not like hanging out with you alone is because he likes the idea of either having sex with you but doesn't like the idea of actually having a salt relationship or to have people assume that you both are dating. Let alone if you don't feel the same way. And he and he's trying to test the waters to see if you feel the same way or if you're interested in having sex. I can't tell you what to do but I know for myself I will not be involved with that kind of person. For you however you decide what step are you going to take for now on. At least I told you based on what I'm reading and Gathering from your description.

Asker

1 mo
Well, I met his best friend and him 3 months ago, and with his besty it was allways nice, but with him awkward af. He stared at me and smiling, but when I would ignore him, he would become mean to me. When I would talk and laugh with his besty he would come and like stand between us like he's jealous. He needed 2 months to come to me and talk, and still it's not like normal like with other guys, you know.

He seemed like nice guy, that maybe he wants something more, but does not how to do it, but I guess I was wrong..
btbc92

1 mo
All he wants is sex. And not even friends with this guy. You're just in communication with him because you met him through your friend. All it is is just physical and sexual attraction and wanting. But he does not know if you want the same thing. He's not going to do anything until you confirm if that's what you want also otherwise he's going to fall back and possibly try to post you in the meantime. They only come to a woman for one thing and one thing only either you're going to screw with them or they want to find somebody else to screw with. Sorry to call it for what it is but it ain't like the old days where a friend is truly a friend, and they don't have any hidden intenr. This guy is his making his intent very clear that he is interested in you dating or should I say again having sex. Because if he was interested in getting to know you he would not have any problem at least speaking to you one on one. Or at least with other people.
btbc92

1 mo
And first of all he has no right to be jealous. You are entitled to speak and communicate whoever it is you desire to speak and communicate with. So I highly suggest you be careful with this one. Those type of guys I live alone for a reason because they cause drama, hearted, and then accuse you of something that you didn't even do. What's even worse is that they want you on a sexual level, and if you are not willing to go that route then they feel like you are not deserving of anybody. Fair warning. I had enough of my fair share which is why I'm glad I cut the cord.
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Asker

1 mo
I hang with them 2-3 times a week (me, him, his besty, and my friend mostly, and sometimes more people). Four of us been 2 times on coffe and he asked a lot of question about us.. what we do, what we like and stuff. They both we really open about everything. I knew he googled me before last coffe. He was really nice to me, and always wanted to help. We were hanging and my mum was passing and he was really happy to meet her (his besty was like nah) and it was weird.
Two weeks ago my friend after his "i want you next to me" sentence said that he's "great friend" and it become really awkward in group. Few days ago I asked them to hang (they needed to get out of apartment and walk for 30sec to meet me) and he said that they are lazy to go out. That they were outside already few hours before that... it didn't sound like tham, they are usually really nice guys but i don't know anymore
Asker

1 mo
Feel you sis... had been with one guy 2 years on-off... he was playing with me for long time and after i quite that circus he started to insult me and stuff over messeges.. like i worth nothing... he just wanted sex but he didn't want me to see any guy but him and dance he wants
btbc92

1 mo
Again, you two aren't friends. They just want to see you two hook up for sex. That's all. You're a target. And it was done on purpose. I don't trust certain people on those levels.
Asker

1 mo
I know, we just hang time to time.. but i guess I need to start to ignore him and hang with rest of group more.

Thanks :)

Answer 2

Asker

Well, I met his best friend and him 3 months ago, and with his besty it was allways nice, but with him awkward af. He stared at me and smiling, but when I would ignore him, he would become mean to me. When I would talk and laugh with his besty he would come and like stand between us like he's jealous. He needed 2 months to come to me and talk, and still it's not like normal like with other guys, you know.

He seemed like nice guy, that maybe he wants something more, but does not how to do it, but I guess I was wrong..

Answer 3

btbc92

All he wants is sex. And not even friends with this guy. You're just in communication with him because you met him through your friend. All it is is just physical and sexual attraction and wanting. But he does not know if you want the same thing. He's not going to do anything until you confirm if that's what you want also otherwise he's going to fall back and possibly try to post you in the meantime. They only come to a woman for one thing and one thing only either you're going to screw with them or they want to find somebody else to screw with. Sorry to call it for what it is but it ain't like the old days where a friend is truly a friend, and they don't have any hidden intenr. This guy is his making his intent very clear that he is interested in you dating or should I say again having sex. Because if he was interested in getting to know you he would not have any problem at least speaking to you one on one. Or at least with other people.

Answer 4

btbc92

And first of all he has no right to be jealous. You are entitled to speak and communicate whoever it is you desire to speak and communicate with. So I highly suggest you be careful with this one. Those type of guys I live alone for a reason because they cause drama, hearted, and then accuse you of something that you didn't even do. What's even worse is that they want you on a sexual level, and if you are not willing to go that route then they feel like you are not deserving of anybody. Fair warning. I had enough of my fair share which is why I'm glad I cut the cord.

Answer 5

Asker

I hang with them 2-3 times a week (me, him, his besty, and my friend mostly, and sometimes more people). Four of us been 2 times on coffe and he asked a lot of question about us.. what we do, what we like and stuff. They both we really open about everything. I knew he googled me before last coffe. He was really nice to me, and always wanted to help. We were hanging and my mum was passing and he was really happy to meet her (his besty was like nah) and it was weird.
Two weeks ago my friend after his "i want you next to me" sentence said that he's "great friend" and it become really awkward in group. Few days ago I asked them to hang (they needed to get out of apartment and walk for 30sec to meet me) and he said that they are lazy to go out. That they were outside already few hours before that... it didn't sound like tham, they are usually really nice guys but i don't know anymore

Answer 6

Asker

Feel you sis... had been with one guy 2 years on-off... he was playing with me for long time and after i quite that circus he started to insult me and stuff over messeges.. like i worth nothing... he just wanted sex but he didn't want me to see any guy but him and dance he wants

Answer 7

btbc92

Again, you two aren't friends. They just want to see you two hook up for sex. That's all. You're a target. And it was done on purpose. I don't trust certain people on those levels.

Answer 8

Asker

I know, we just hang time to time.. but i guess I need to start to ignore him and hang with rest of group more.

Thanks :)

Answer 9

SandandWaves

Xper 5

he would show ya more interest if he likes ya (that way)

Answer 10

Vviiccttoorr

Xper 4

Honestly in my opinion, he could be doing that stuff to see if you’ll text/contact him first because, he wants to know if you feel the same way; he might want clarity before he goes too far. However, if he’s that touchy feely but, doesn’t make a move then he could be a guy playing games because, if he seems confident like that then he most likely doesn’t care about getting clarity if you like him or not. its honestly a tough one, I’d say that you should get more info on him before you make a proper judgement. Just please be careful he’s not a guy who plays the game of “I love you” but I’m going to push you to have sex with me kind of a guy. Because he honestly doesn’t love you or respect you at all if he does something like that.

Asker

1 mo
Truly I can't say he was mean torwards me, except i ignored him (when he would come to stand next to me and i wouldn't notice him). He's always nice, try to help when i need it, smiling, teasing me.. and he intituate touch but not i bad way.. he tries to touch as much as he can with his hand my hand when he gives me phone back. I don't think that he's fuck boy.. at first he really have problem to talk to me.. it was awkward af torwards us and we needed month to talk.. but still is really awkward. He's always so jumpy around me, and when we talk he would come near me and look into my eyes.. really intense and he wpuld be smiling a lot. He's always teasing me and when i try to find out what he feels, does he care about me, he's always like avoiding answer.
Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
He sounds really nervous then, I’d say that you should try to initiate the first text/hangout (if you’re interested) and see where it goes. He could be doing this because he’s nervous and thinks you might not like him. I’d say if you like him then don’t let him get away and try to approach him about hanging out first. That is huge for a guy because it takes pressure off of them and shows that you have an interest so it might be less awkward since he knows you like him and he won’t have to try as hard. make sure he’s not just some creepy guy Though either.
Asker

1 mo
Well I added him on fb, ig, we have each other numbers but we don't text in private box at all.. just in group box but there we always tease each other and flirt. Once and accidently called him on ig and he texted me like is it accidently and we joked a little and conversation stopped after few messages.

2 days ago I was passing his best friend place (they were there) and asked them if they wanna hang out outside, it was 8pm, and he said like "im sorry but we are too lazy to go out, we were once outside already." Today we were hanging out (our group of people) and they said that they will come last minute and in one period I said that I want to go home and made some excuse.. his best friend and him came to me like "don't go.. lalal and stuff" and they were like sorry for bluing me off that day but I can't get him alone to talk and I'm not sute how he feels about me.. i don't want to make awkward situation in our group.
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Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
If you want to talk to him privately give him a text and say you’d love to hang with him; see what he says. If he’s down then see where it goes; one time me and this girl liked each other and we were texting for awhile it wasn’t until months when we finally hung out and even then; her mom was there with us but, we still flirted and liked each other beforehand so chances are os that he likes you even though he hasn’t said it or said to hang out alone. The girl I use to like was the one who asked me to go places and it was very flattering to me.

Answer 11

Asker

Truly I can't say he was mean torwards me, except i ignored him (when he would come to stand next to me and i wouldn't notice him). He's always nice, try to help when i need it, smiling, teasing me.. and he intituate touch but not i bad way.. he tries to touch as much as he can with his hand my hand when he gives me phone back. I don't think that he's fuck boy.. at first he really have problem to talk to me.. it was awkward af torwards us and we needed month to talk.. but still is really awkward. He's always so jumpy around me, and when we talk he would come near me and look into my eyes.. really intense and he wpuld be smiling a lot. He's always teasing me and when i try to find out what he feels, does he care about me, he's always like avoiding answer.

Answer 12

Vviiccttoorr

He sounds really nervous then, I’d say that you should try to initiate the first text/hangout (if you’re interested) and see where it goes. He could be doing this because he’s nervous and thinks you might not like him. I’d say if you like him then don’t let him get away and try to approach him about hanging out first. That is huge for a guy because it takes pressure off of them and shows that you have an interest so it might be less awkward since he knows you like him and he won’t have to try as hard. make sure he’s not just some creepy guy Though either.

Answer 13

Asker

Well I added him on fb, ig, we have each other numbers but we don't text in private box at all.. just in group box but there we always tease each other and flirt. Once and accidently called him on ig and he texted me like is it accidently and we joked a little and conversation stopped after few messages.

2 days ago I was passing his best friend place (they were there) and asked them if they wanna hang out outside, it was 8pm, and he said like "im sorry but we are too lazy to go out, we were once outside already." Today we were hanging out (our group of people) and they said that they will come last minute and in one period I said that I want to go home and made some excuse.. his best friend and him came to me like "don't go.. lalal and stuff" and they were like sorry for bluing me off that day but I can't get him alone to talk and I'm not sute how he feels about me.. i don't want to make awkward situation in our group.

Answer 14

Vviiccttoorr

If you want to talk to him privately give him a text and say you’d love to hang with him; see what he says. If he’s down then see where it goes; one time me and this girl liked each other and we were texting for awhile it wasn’t until months when we finally hung out and even then; her mom was there with us but, we still flirted and liked each other beforehand so chances are os that he likes you even though he hasn’t said it or said to hang out alone. The girl I use to like was the one who asked me to go places and it was very flattering to me.

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