Is friendly flirting with the other people that doesn’t result in action afterwards ok in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, maybe; if your partner is okay with it. Obviously, attraction is inevitable. It doesn't matter if you have a solid ten at home who fucks you right and is a top of the line chef. Other people are still attractive and it doesn't go unnoticed. You're bound to look. You're bound to think about it. It's what you do about it that tells us who you are as a person. If you are one of those people who have a boyfriend/girlfriend at home, see some random smoking hot number and immediately spark up a conversation with that person based off how hot they are while knowing it would destroy your partner; it's pretty much guaranteed that you either lack the ability to ever respect your partner or you have commitment issues and probably shouldn't be dating anyways.

However, then there are individuals like myself. I find people who are not my boyfriend attractive. He finds women who are not me attractive. We both have an understanding where it's obviously a look but dont touch and we keep the flirting to a minimum if we can help it. Both my boyfriend and I are serial flirts and we dont even recognize it while we are doing it. Therefore, our relationship comes based off a mutual understanding. Neither of us would ever cheat but flirting isn't really something that's necessarily "frowned upon". We can easily take these scenarios and apply it to our own sex life in role playing positions. Sure, we could get pissed off at eachother because it can and sometimes does come off as entirely disrespectful but what's the point in that?

It's all down to trust and communication. That's literally it. Dont trust your partner because they flirt with other people? That's 100% okay! Leave them because you deserve to be happy and there is someone out their who fits your needs. You're like myself and my boyfriend and flirting is okay with minor exceptions? Perfect! Go all out. Do what you are comfortable with and find a partner who fits into that comfortability. If you start dating someone and simply can't trust them because they dont fit those needs? You're settling and you will be miserable until that relationship runs its course.

[Anonymous]

It’s a fine line tbh, that’s down to the individual couple I think as many complex factors will influence this.

[Aethereal]

In my opinion, flirting with someone else while in a relationship is never okay. That it doesn't result in "action" (whatever that is) is not enough. By that logic, we have to place value in the excuse some cheaters give that if they don't have feelings for their AP, it's not a big deal.

Theoretically, it should be okay if you don't know that it's coming across as flirting; but that leaves the matter too open to subjectivity (this person thinks you flirted, that person doesn't, etc.). You also have to consider that different people will have an opinion on what might be considered as "action" that makes flirting more than friendly.

It's just best/safest for all sides to avoid it as much as possible. Unless, of course, that is something you've discussed and okayed with your partner in advance.

[R3DthatDude]

Can you walk through a wall of fire and not get burned? Then why try, I find it disrespectful to flirt when you have someone already. It’s not about intention even though I think that’s BS excuse, but let’s say you don’t have any motive at all but just flirting. That means you have no regard for the person you with feelings, and that’s a red flag.

[hahahmm]

No. The short version is: People who want to cheat flirt. I have seen people go from flirting left and right when they weren't sure about their SO to never flirting when they're fully committed.

It's like asking, "Is it okay if I play with matches at the gas pump as long as I don't start a fire?"

[Hangry22]

To me, flirting is cheating

[hermione19]

Absolutely not okay. That’s most definitely cheating.

[devil_8888]

Flirting is flirting. It’s not ok...

[Agem123]

Would you do it in front of your partner?

[Anonymous]

How can flirting be okay bruh hahHaah

[joeldalton]

Yes. We're in relationships, not dead.