If you are attracted for years to the same person, is it still a crush or could it be love?

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10 d

It has been 5years now

10 d

It has been 5 years now

Answer 1

Bella_Iris

Xper 5

What kind of attraction? there are a lot of different types of attractions... if it's sex then probably just a lust... but if it's a deep, deep, emotional, caring connection (kind of attraction) then it's very possible that it is love. It's important to not get these 2 confused.

Asker

11 d
I think it’s both from him
Asker

11 d
He has always looked at me very obviously and he has always told me and did things to show that he cares.
Bella_Iris

11 d
I mean, I guess another way to answer your question is maybe it started as a crush... that turned into a hard crush and then turned into love... Anything is possible :)

Answer 2

Asker

I think it’s both from him

Answer 3

Asker

He has always looked at me very obviously and he has always told me and did things to show that he cares.

Answer 4

Bella_Iris

I mean, I guess another way to answer your question is maybe it started as a crush... that turned into a hard crush and then turned into love... Anything is possible :)

Answer 5

R3DthatDude

Explorer

Time doesn’t justify a type of attraction. You could have a crush for years, especially if you don’t have access to them anymore. Just always remember love is a choice made based off of the fact you spend time with them and know who they are. If you can’t answer the reason you love someone other then the fact they look good, it’s not love.

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11 d
Totally agree. We know each other and he always seemed to have a crush on me. We did not see each other quite often. But when we meet it’s very unusual. So I was wondering.

Answer 6

Asker

Totally agree. We know each other and he always seemed to have a crush on me. We did not see each other quite often. But when we meet it’s very unusual. So I was wondering.

Answer 7

Kaneki05 | 95 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Guru

Usually attraction from limerence is 18months to 3 years, and then normal crushes tend to be around 4 months. This is all based of scientific studies. Most likely it's just limerence.

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10 d
And after 3 years what do your studies say?

Answer 8

Asker

And after 3 years what do your studies say?

Answer 9

Calgarydirty69

Xper 3

it's been one life changing car accident for me, one STD/abusive relationship for her, I tried to come help, but couldn't even talk yet, she ignored me for a decade, until I learned to talk, then she couldn't I just want her to be happy, so I wait, she WILL come back

Answer 10

jasco | 95 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Yoda

more then likely obsession is the word your looking for

Answer 11

boggboss | 768 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

Can easily be a crush attraction itself is not love lol

Asker

12 d
Even after 5 years?
boggboss

12 d
Yes attraction dont just randomly die lol
Asker

12 d
Usually mine dies if it’s only physical. When it’s more, I keep attracted and get some feelings for the person.
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boggboss

12 d
Then you know yourself better then others so you should know but as far as just attraction goes I would say no
Asker

12 d
I don’t know better. It’s only for myself. Other people think differently which is normal.
boggboss

12 d
Oh i only meant it in reference to yourself
Asker

12 d
Oh ok 👍

Answer 12

Asker

Even after 5 years?

Answer 13

boggboss

Yes attraction dont just randomly die lol

Answer 14

Asker

Usually mine dies if it’s only physical. When it’s more, I keep attracted and get some feelings for the person.

Answer 15

boggboss

Then you know yourself better then others so you should know but as far as just attraction goes I would say no

Answer 16

Asker

I don’t know better. It’s only for myself. Other people think differently which is normal.

Answer 17

boggboss

Oh i only meant it in reference to yourself

Answer 18

Asker

Oh ok 👍

Answer 19

t-bag_bagwell

Xper 3

of course love

Asker

12 d
Why do you think that?
t-bag_bagwell

12 d
let's talk this in private

Answer 20

Asker

Why do you think that?

Answer 21

t-bag_bagwell

let's talk this in private

Answer 22

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