no he's refusing to tell her what is bothering him & ignoring her. that's not solving anything on his own. when I solve things on my own, I tell people I need space to think. I don't ignore them,hes being a baby- the opposite of taking care of things. can anyone answer this question without talking about genitals.
@toulouse, I agree to telling people I need space to think and not ignoring them, so what should I do when he does it to me
this was not about me being upset, it was about him being upset and pushing everyone away. he has a tendency to do this when something is not going right like at work or financial, I just wanted to know why
Oh, if he does this to many people ..then he's abusive. You shouldn't be staying with him. He'll drive you crazy & you'll lose your self-esteem. I've been there, dear.
what kind of abuse are you referring to, please explain
Emotional abuse. When are being punished for ..you dunno. When he gives you the silent treatment & you keep crying because you miss him & don't know what you did wrong. When he doesn't care about what annoys you, it's all about him..more & more. Crying alot, feeling lonely, confused, etc..are some signs you aren't happy.
could I ask you something else may I message you
ok well apprently I have to be a expert on level three or something, sorry I'm new to this
@Guys don't deal well with drama@Probably, you've become clingy or depressed or..? lately & he couldn't deal with it. So, an easier reaction is to shut you up.how is that not drama.. refusing to tell someone what is going on but acting like something is wrong, is exactly what creates drama. he is her boyfriend not her neighbor.& t is not that guys like to solve things, that's a character trait not a gender trait. I know plenty of women who solve things on their o& plenty of guys who dont.
bullsh*t. so not true. you like the 'idea' of that. but it does not work that way in real life.
he tells me it ain't me and then apologize for ignoring me. he says he got a lot going on, so I give him his space and leave him be.
Well, when he comes back or opens back up or whatever, that would be the time to ask him about what all he has going on. IMO.
yea I do and he eventually tells me. it just gets to me sometimes when he shuts me out. he did that to me yesterday, and it was my birthday. He didn't even call me to say happy birthday. so I finally got in touch with him a few minutes ago, ain't say nothing about my birthday, so I just hung up, and then he texts me saying sorry about yesterday, oh and happy birthday
Well, there's two problems here. One is that he's inconsiderate (forgetting your birthday) which is unacceptable and you need to tell him just that. The other is that he's a male and that's what we do. It takes YEARS to get to the point where we can feel like we can open up. If you ever just watched a bunch of boys hanging out and not talking about feelings, boys who have been friends for a long time, you'd see that and be less concerned. Address the issue that's fixable.
funny thing is, he didn't forget cause he has a older relative with my same birthday. we even talked about my birthday the day before. he didn't forget. I just don't know what to do anymore
Without my talking about my feelings.. all the guys I know talk to me abut their feelings.. it does not take years. Maybe a few weeks--if even.
I can only speak from my experience. Just like yourself toulouse
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