If women want equality, then why do you expect men to pay and to approach you?

Question

Do you expect your girlfriends to pay just because they invited you out to a movie?

Do you expect your other friends to pay for your way just because they invited you?

So then its only because he has a p****?

How is that fair?

Answer 1

avella_Dec

Xper 3

Whew! That's a lot of questions. I don't think all women want equality as such, some just want to be appreciated. I will approach a guy if I think he is the type of guy I am interested in and would not be offended by a girl approaching him. I am self-sufficient. And yes, If my girlfriend invites me to a movie, I do expect her to pay unless stating otherwise. Just as if I would invite one of my daughter's friends, I would pay unless I stated otherwise. His penis has nothing to do with it, except that he at least has the right parts for me to be attracted to him. ;) How is that fair? Everything is so mixed up these days... I think that is why it is important to communicate together what you both expect from a relationship. Fair is compromise. Some men want to take care of their women and statistically, on average, men still make more then women and also women can't take care of young children and do everything else. That is just fact.

Asker

+1 y
"Yeah joe this really hot woman approached me, and asked me out."

"what an incosiderate rude BITCH!"

"i know I was totally offended by it!"

I don't think that's going to be the conversation later with his buddies.
avella_Dec

+1 y
lol.. I like that.. even as I am an outgoing, self-sufficient women, it is still difficult. I am scared to approach some men because of the attitudes in your best answer. It seems that men hate American women in general and I do not want a hater, and I do not want someone to pull out my chair, that's just lame. I want a real conversation with a real man who doesn't want a 20 year old girl at the age of 40. Trust me... it is difficult for women like me as well.

Answer 2

Asker

"Yeah joe this really hot woman approached me, and asked me out."

"what an incosiderate rude BITCH!"

"i know I was totally offended by it!"

I don't think that's going to be the conversation later with his buddies.

Answer 3

avella_Dec

lol.. I like that.. even as I am an outgoing, self-sufficient women, it is still difficult. I am scared to approach some men because of the attitudes in your best answer. It seems that men hate American women in general and I do not want a hater, and I do not want someone to pull out my chair, that's just lame. I want a real conversation with a real man who doesn't want a 20 year old girl at the age of 40. Trust me... it is difficult for women like me as well.

Answer 4

selfishstars | 553 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

I prefer to share in the costs of dating. I prefer to go dutch and always come prepared to pay my own way. Sometimes a guy will insist on paying for both of us, but then I'll insist on paying for both of us on the next date. If we're going on a "two-part" date (i.e. dinner and a movie), then sometimes one of us will pay for the first part, and the other will pay for the second. If it's a guy I've been seeing for awhile, we usually end up taking turns paying for dates.

In terms of approach/asking out, my view on it is that if you're interested in someone, approach them/ask them out, regardless of your gender. I don't see it as the guys' role. If a guy is interested in me, then yeah, I'd like him to approach me/ask me out, but I do the same if I'm interested in a guy.

Answer 5

pineappleshortcare | 745 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

I can only speak for myself, of course.

I would prefer to split and also to keep it low key (a few drinks or coffee and chatting). The only thing that sucks is that the asker controls the venue, so you end up paying for stuff you don't like to do a lot of times. As for friends, I will offer to pay if I know they're broke or we're doing something I know they don't like much and I just want a companion.

Answer 6

amameninas

Yoda

They do not want it to be fair. They want to be advantaged. In they want what b*tches have always wanted: Control with men paying the bills. We created these monsters by deferring to their feminist politics bribed with easy p*ssy. They want all the rights of men and all the privileges of traditional women and so long as we are willing to swallow the political load to indulge our designed in addiction to p*ssy, we get what we deserve. Not me.

Here's my view. If you need to, take the easy sex and nod appeasingly through the politics until the sex gets old. Do not marry them and for G0d's sake, don't let them raise children. When you are ready to settle down, meet and import a Phillipine or Thai, who love men, accept traditional roles and are family centered. Cost altogether? $10.000 or so. Far cheaper than a divorce and you get happily ever after.

Answer 7

happyhappy1983

Xper 3

I agree , everything in life has its positives along with the negatives. A lot of feminists have argued this , but in the long run not wanting the negatives shows weakness. An example of this I have to lift 100 lbs since I'm a man to get this job, but you only lift 40 lbs since your a female for the same position. I like to think of it as a child wanting to be an adult so he could have privileges of staying out late at night, go any where you want when you want , but not wanting to work 8-12 hours days to pay your bills.

Answer 8

pr3ttybr0wn

Influencer

if he wants to f*** me he has to play by my rules. simple as that.

#letthehatebegin

Asker

+1 y
So if he DOESNT want to f*** you, then he doesn't have to pay.

So its an exchange money for sex?

Are you a prostitute?
pr3ttybr0wn

+1 y
why do you youcare? are you dating me? I will always prefer gentlemen and chivalrous behavior over a guy who is so consumed with everything being completely equal. I like the gender role playing in relationships, sue me. that has no correlation with equality in the workforce because I'm not dating my employers or co-workers. 2 totally different things. if everything is equal then men like you should want to marry sluts and not care if the girl farts, burps or doesn't shave her legs either.
Asker

+1 y
I don't date whores.

But I like how you can pick and choose when and where you want equality.

Equality in the boardroom INEQUALITY in the bedroom.

If you are a prostitute, fine. just admit it and be honest.

I know, how would you like it if your boss gave all the men raises in the company except the women.

But then treated all women like goddesses who didn't work for him.

Hes picking and choosing too.

SO its fair.
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pr3ttybr0wn

+1 y
are you a whore? would you have sex with multiple pretty women if you were presented with the opportunities? if so, you are a whore too and you're being hypocritical by not dating whores. most women have no problem dating male whores, why aren't men wrong for not wanting to date female whores? trying to present workplace discrimination as being equal with having personal preferences in your dating life is ridiculous and just shows how far you will go to prove your non-existent point.
Asker

+1 y
A whore is not defined by how many women/men they sleep with. its doing it for the money and not for the sex.

And lets make this clear, a male whore is a gigolo, and there is a perfectly good reason why that is not looked at as a bad thing. its not a double standard at all.
Asker

+1 y
People value other people who attain things that are hard to get. Women play hard to get. Sex is HARD to get, for a man.

For a woman all she has to do is stand in the middle of a club full of men with a blindfold on and wait. The next morning she's going to wake up with her butt bleeding.

In general, a man has to be funny, tall, ambitious, confident, and have nice shoes.

Oh and according to you, pay her to sleep with him.

And THATS why its not a double standard.
Asker

+1 y
Youre the one who brought up the comparison between workplace and dating.

But in any case its still picking and choosing equality where and when you decide its OK to be equal.

So just because a person walks into a building and is given the title of "employee" suddenly equality is important.

Picking and choosing when and where you want equality is still ridiculous.

Are you also in favor of "separate but equal?"
Asker

+1 y
Separate but equal is the PERFECT example of picking and choosing where and when you want equality.

Look how good that worked out.
pr3ttybr0wn

+1 y
if you are frustrated with having to pay for dates and approach women, either stop dating women, or date women who have the same mindset you do. they are out there. you're not going to have much luck trying to compare social issues with personal dating standards. using your "logic", you should be willing to date men AND women in the name of equality. if it's wrong for a workplace to not hire both genders, then why don't you date both genders and truly prove your equality?
Asker

+1 y
My problem is that women have a problem spouting that they have a problem with equality.

and then simultaneously want inequality in dating.

i have a problem with their double standard.

My god, it would suck to be a lesbian, both of you would be pissed off that neither one of you wanted to pay.

Every partner they went out with would be labeled as "cheap".
Asker

+1 y
The moment women are willing to have inequality in the workplace, and stop complaining about it, and men are treated better (and they are not). And if they are fine with it, then ill be fine with the inequality of dating.

You can't have it both ways.
Skullsmasher

+1 y
And if you want to get HIM into bed, you have to play by HIS rules.

If you have a problem with that, then you're a hypocrite.

Society needs to stop treating sex from women as though it's a "grand prize" or a "gift." It's not.

And get over yourself.

Answer 9

Asker

So if he DOESNT want to f*** you, then he doesn't have to pay.

So its an exchange money for sex?

Are you a prostitute?

Answer 10

pr3ttybr0wn

why do you youcare? are you dating me? I will always prefer gentlemen and chivalrous behavior over a guy who is so consumed with everything being completely equal. I like the gender role playing in relationships, sue me. that has no correlation with equality in the workforce because I'm not dating my employers or co-workers. 2 totally different things. if everything is equal then men like you should want to marry sluts and not care if the girl farts, burps or doesn't shave her legs either.

Answer 11

Asker

I don't date whores.

But I like how you can pick and choose when and where you want equality.

Equality in the boardroom INEQUALITY in the bedroom.

If you are a prostitute, fine. just admit it and be honest.

I know, how would you like it if your boss gave all the men raises in the company except the women.

But then treated all women like goddesses who didn't work for him.

Hes picking and choosing too.

SO its fair.

Answer 12

pr3ttybr0wn

are you a whore? would you have sex with multiple pretty women if you were presented with the opportunities? if so, you are a whore too and you're being hypocritical by not dating whores. most women have no problem dating male whores, why aren't men wrong for not wanting to date female whores? trying to present workplace discrimination as being equal with having personal preferences in your dating life is ridiculous and just shows how far you will go to prove your non-existent point.

Answer 13

Asker

A whore is not defined by how many women/men they sleep with. its doing it for the money and not for the sex.

And lets make this clear, a male whore is a gigolo, and there is a perfectly good reason why that is not looked at as a bad thing. its not a double standard at all.

Answer 14

Asker

People value other people who attain things that are hard to get. Women play hard to get. Sex is HARD to get, for a man.

For a woman all she has to do is stand in the middle of a club full of men with a blindfold on and wait. The next morning she's going to wake up with her butt bleeding.

In general, a man has to be funny, tall, ambitious, confident, and have nice shoes.

Oh and according to you, pay her to sleep with him.

And THATS why its not a double standard.

Answer 15

Asker

Youre the one who brought up the comparison between workplace and dating.

But in any case its still picking and choosing equality where and when you decide its OK to be equal.

So just because a person walks into a building and is given the title of "employee" suddenly equality is important.

Picking and choosing when and where you want equality is still ridiculous.

Are you also in favor of "separate but equal?"

Answer 16

Asker

Separate but equal is the PERFECT example of picking and choosing where and when you want equality.

Look how good that worked out.

Answer 17

pr3ttybr0wn

if you are frustrated with having to pay for dates and approach women, either stop dating women, or date women who have the same mindset you do. they are out there. you're not going to have much luck trying to compare social issues with personal dating standards. using your "logic", you should be willing to date men AND women in the name of equality. if it's wrong for a workplace to not hire both genders, then why don't you date both genders and truly prove your equality?

Answer 18

Asker

My problem is that women have a problem spouting that they have a problem with equality.

and then simultaneously want inequality in dating.

i have a problem with their double standard.

My god, it would suck to be a lesbian, both of you would be pissed off that neither one of you wanted to pay.

Every partner they went out with would be labeled as "cheap".

Answer 19

Asker

The moment women are willing to have inequality in the workplace, and stop complaining about it, and men are treated better (and they are not). And if they are fine with it, then ill be fine with the inequality of dating.

You can't have it both ways.

Answer 20

Skullsmasher

And if you want to get HIM into bed, you have to play by HIS rules.

If you have a problem with that, then you're a hypocrite.

Society needs to stop treating sex from women as though it's a "grand prize" or a "gift." It's not.

And get over yourself.

Answer 21

goflipaburger | 268 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Guru

I don't expect either :p and I agree, it's not fair. That's why I approach the guys I want and I pay for myself (and I pay for him on special occasions)

I think the women who do want guys to do that traditional stuff aren't the ones begging for equality. Don't get us confused :p

Asker

+1 y
so you're not afraid of what other women may or may not think if you walk up to some guy?

Most women don't have those kind of balls.
goflipaburger

+1 y
Nope, I don't care. I'm not going to waste my life away just waiting just to please others. I do what suites me best in all directions; so far my method has a high success rate so I'll just keep it at that.
Asker

+1 y
that's a good attitude to have.

Answer 22

Asker

so you're not afraid of what other women may or may not think if you walk up to some guy?

Most women don't have those kind of balls.

Answer 23

goflipaburger

Nope, I don't care. I'm not going to waste my life away just waiting just to please others. I do what suites me best in all directions; so far my method has a high success rate so I'll just keep it at that.

Answer 24

Asker

that's a good attitude to have.

Answer 25

peace-love-couture

Yoda

If I answer this question, I'll get bashed. There is no correct answer other than "I love gentleman"

I'm not responding to any of your rants or boohooing comments, so don't bother, that goes for YOU QA and any other whiny dude on here

Asker

+1 y
What does the man get out of it? I'm not expecting the man get sex. I'm merely suggesting that there's obviously an imbalance here.

If he pays and she pays next time, then it would be balanced.

but that's not the case.
saphirasilverwings

+1 y
Who says it's not the case?

Answer 26

Asker

What does the man get out of it? I'm not expecting the man get sex. I'm merely suggesting that there's obviously an imbalance here.

If he pays and she pays next time, then it would be balanced.

but that's not the case.

If women want equality, then why do you expect men to pay and to approach you?

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