Honestly I think this is a bad idea, I think it is preferable to make it clear that you're asking her out to coffee because you want to spend time with her. If you're going because you're cold, or because you're tired.. well, you've just "put yourself out there" asked a girl out and she has no idea. She thinks you're just being friendly. What a waste!Stand up straight and ask her out properly. She should know it is HER you want, coffee is the excuse. Not sleep. Or temperature.
I'm sorry Warren, but I don't think how you would say that it's a bad idea when I'm clearly telling him to literally tell the girl he wants for coffee for a specific reason and ask if she wants to come along with him.
I'm saying that it is far preferable to ask her out and make it clear why he's doing it (because he likes her!), than ask her out and make her think he is asking her because he's cold. Or tired. Mixed signals are bad. Friends take you out when they're cold. Potential boyfriends ask you out 'cause they like you. That "specific reason" should be because he likes her, and he needs to be sure she knows that or he'll be "friend-zoned". Fast. I was disagreeing with your "add a scenario" bit.
Oh. Sorry for the misunderstanding. I just meant maybe it'll be less awkward to randomly say "Lets grab coffee" depending on the situation, but now that I re-read it and thought about it to myself... you do make some sense. I don't know what I was thinking...
Well truthfully I don't like coffee so I would get a similar drink but...
Oh well that's fine! I go to this place called the Coffee Garden. But it has Italian sodas...coffee..tea..sandwiches..desserts. All sorts of stuff (: It's still just a small coffee shop though. Very comfortable, relaxing...free wifi :P Still ask her, and you can still say coffee, just order something else lol. As long as you get there you're golden (:
Yay what do I say to her
"Hey (name), you wanna go get drinks after class? I love going to this place (whatever it's called) they've got some really good coffee and (whatever you like drinking)"
Thanks , wish me luck I am scared
Don't be scared (: It's not likely she'll turn you down. If she says she's busy just ask another day :P Or plan right then for another day. Best of lucky you'll do fine!
I thought saying her being busy is code for no
Not always. I'm a really busy person. My friend alex keeps asking me to hang out and I never can. I'm not avoiding him or don't wanna hang out I just legitimately don't have the time.
Soo much I don't know
Just don't assume the worst (: Be optimistic. And ask (: And then let me know how it went!
How did he ask you
... well I asked him.BUT it was casual. He asked me out for our first date by just saying "hey, would you like to have dinner with me on Friday? I know this great place in Dupont" :)
That works how did you ask him.. How would you like to be asked
I just asked "Want to grab coffee tonight?" loland I like the way he asked me (stated above)
You make it seem easy
...because it is :)
Not really I have never asked a girl to hang out before
you can do it!*cheers on doctorwhofan23* :D
I hope I can I badly need to meet a nice girl
i'm sure you will :)
I wish I knew how the show interest
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You make it seem so easy
Cause I am an easy going type of person, so it seems easy when I say it like that. I know first time is difficult and you may feel it can be awkward. I can be queen of awkward, but girls also often times more than not like awkward.
Why would awkward be good she would just laugh at me
Who says laughing is always a bad thing? Look at Michael Cera, King of awkward! He is cute, he makes it work.
Who Is that and I want to be perfect
An actor, he is in a lot of movies where he plays a character who is pretty much himself. But he is goofy and awkward and people love him. Don't worry so mch about being perfect. If ya do that, then they may see you as a closed off kind of person because you will never think you are good enough and you will not seem like a person that is open for any girl to just come up and talk to you if you think that way. Perfect is something abstract. What is perfect?
I get you but I feel like no girl wants me
But if you keep feeling that way, are girls going to see you as an approachable guy? You gotta work on not being hard on yourself! It will help.
I know but I kind of wish a girl could ask me out first or ask me to ask her
Can it be any place is Starbucks a bad idea
can it be any place? yes. is starbucks a bad idea? no.
starbucks is fine
maybe offer to carry her books if she says yes, but that is it really.
ask her to marry you. no ask her to see this movie with you and some other people, then just show up alone, text her b4 saying they couldn't make it
1. Read step one. 2. Start laughing and can't continue reading for a good 10-15 seconds. :)
Hopefully victim is not the right word lol
does this apply to girls that we don't know prior to step one?
That seems to easy