I haven't pressured him at all. He emailed my friend and told him that he was moving on but also asked if it would be a good idea to talk to me to let me get things off my chest. I emailed him saying that when whenever he wanted to listen to me it was OK with me but it didn't meant we would get back together. He emailed me saying he had been thinking about talking to me to not have "what ifs" but didn't know if it was a good idea to reopen the wound if nothing might come of it. What should I do?
ask him what he wants and go from there. just make sure You aren't the one pushing him into anything. let him come to you. If he wants to move on...so be it. You have to basically act as if it doesn't bother you. that will make him wonder if you are seeing other people thus creating interest in you. Basically play cat and mouse
I'm conflicted, when I asked him what he wanted he said he wanted me to have an opportunity to get things off my chest and wanted to tell me that it didn't work out before because he was not over the break up. He wants to clear all the misunderstandings and hear me out this time. I don't want to pressure him but I don't want to talk if he is just gong to listen to me and leave. He tells some people that he is moving on but he tells my friend he is not sure what he feels and has doubts. Thoughts?
he sounds like he's not sure what to do. Be careful with that because if he got back with you and met someone else, he may leave you. Let him make the decision so its OK to hear him out but let him do the work. if he wants you, let him come after you.he may also be trying to set things straight with you and get back with you or at least get things straight with you and still leave so he doesn't feel like he is heartless by hurting you without an explanation. hear him out and tell me what he says.
He said he feels bad for not listening to me before. That if I want to tell him what I had to say, he is all ears. To me it sounds like he feels he owes me the opportunity to speak. That is all he said before telling me it was my turn to speak. I couldn't talk at the moment, so we agreed to set up a time. I think I'm going to tell him that I don't need to talk and decline his offer. I want to talk if something can come of it. If it is just to make him feel better I dont. What do you think?
ok, what is it that you have to tell him? he may want to appear like he's a better man especially if he hasn't listened to you before. What you could do is be up front with him. Ask him what he wants. if he tells you umm I don't know this and that blah blah, then you say goodbye. he will come back to you once he figured out he may have made a wrong move. However, he may say he wants you again. My recommendation: ask him what he wants and don't linger on if he says something you may not want to hear.
Do I this in person or do I do it over the phone?
either way is fine. person is always better tho
I haven't talked to him yet. I still don't know if I want to do it in person. If he really is not 100% sure of what he feels. What can I do to define something, one way or the other? Anything I can say when we talk. Or is the not 100% things just bull? Thanks your comments are very helpful.
he sounds confused or something...just hear what he has to say...if he gives you what seems like bull,then back off from him. If he likes you he will come for you
add me as a friend so we can chat too
When will you be on. I'll add you. I need more advice.
Basically, this is getting dragged out. I told him that I didn't want to talk because it was pointless if we both decided to move on. He said that he would still like to hear what I have to say but does not want to set back either of us. I left the decision making up to him. He said he would sleep on it and get back to me. What do you think?
i think he is not seriously wanting to be in a relationship with you. Its not that hard to be with someone you actually care for.. seems like he is inbetween which is still dangerous because he can change his mind at any moment in the relationship. I wouldn't date him again;
Would you suggest I talk to him? It throws me off that for someone who is moving on, he still wants to hear what I have to say. If I was moving on, I would not. I'm just scared to close the door if there is a chance that talking to him might change things. I'm scared that if I close the door, he won't look for me if he later realizes he made a mistake. I know need to close the door. Talking might help, it may also hurt more than it needs to. I just don't see a point unless he decides.
ok so hear I'm out then decide from there. After the talk just leave it at that...dont try to win him...let him win you
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