Lets say you are still in love with your ex girlfriend, but you try to look at a new girl, is it hard to feel for the new girl? Is it hard to be attracted to her? Is it because they are not good or just because you're feelings for your ex are blocking a clear view? Have you ever looked at a great girl who was perfectly normal and fun to be around but just couldn't feel anything for her because your heart was still wanting someone else? I THINK this is happening to me with the guy I like and I keep blaming myself for his disinterest.