My ex boyfriend has an online dating profile?

[samantha39]

I have posted here recently. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago when he said he had an emotional void towards me. Please read my other posts to get a good idea of my situation. He wanted to remain friends however and continued to call and ask me to hang out. I never went. I felt it would only make me feel worse. I talked to him but gave excuses as to why I could not go. A couple of days ago I found his dating profile. He has pictures posted from our vacations! Pictures that I took myself! He says he is looking for someone special to spend time with, someone caring and intelligent. He's looking for and describing someone just like me. How could he do this after being with me for over 5 years, talking about marriage and children? A month and a half ago we were looking at homes together, and now he has an online dating profile. Again, prior to me he has never had a relationship and now I feel as though he is testing the waters. But the guy is 38 years old. I did everything for him. Why is he looking online? Is he really looking for another relationship? Is he trying to get over me? I am so hurt and disappointed, I cry every day. Please help.

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[HotPepper302]

My answer is probably not what you want to hear, but I'm just trying to keep it real. Okay, I know this is difficult for you... Of course it's going to hurt, to see someone who was such a big part of your life trying to move on. However, your relationship is now over, and he has the right to look for someone new, regardless of his reasoning. You didn't want to hang out with him and work things out, so I'm not sure what to say! Whether the online dating thing is to help him get over you, or whether he genuinely wishes to pursue a new relationship with someone else, I don't know. But it doesn't matter. Your relationship is over; your future will not be with him. So although it's easier said than done, you need to stop crying over something that you can't change. While it may have been slightly insensitive for him to have set up this dating profile, I doubt that he expected you to find it, or that his intention was to hurt you. Everyone wants someone special in their life -- someone to love, cherish, build a family with... So of course he'll keep looking for it until he finds it... As will you, I'd imagine, once you get over this bump in the road. Cheer up; you're no longer wasting your time with the wrong guy, and you have the door is now open for you to explore your other options :) Good luck! Sending you a big cyber hug!

[nehajain]

i m under 18 and its really annoying cause I've found my ex-boyfriends online hook-up profile too.. itz heart-wrenching.

the truth is he will break up with you most probably in 2 months. it has happened with me. sorry.

remember if a man loves you he will do anything to be with you and at least try not to let you hurt. GUYS ARE CHERRY ON THE CAKE AND IF YOU DONT HAVE THE CHERRY.. YOU STILL HAVE THE CAKE. BE PREPARED. AND I WILL GIVE YOU SOME TIPS CAUSE I DONT WANT PEOPLE TO MAKE MISTAKES ,HOW I DID IN LAST 2 MONTHS.. ADD ME UP.

[Anonymous]

Of course he's looking online. He's probably looking offline too.

He broke up with you a month ago. What is he supposed to do? Sit at home and cry for a month? Two months?

He's a guy. That's not what we do. He's looking for a new girl, probably to get over you if he hasn't already got over you. I'd put money on him already being over you. It sounds like the "emotional void" thing means he was already over you when you broke up.

[Cantremember]

Why do you bother? He's your ex.