She has a boyfriend but tells me she wants to break up with him?

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She has a boyfriend but tells me she wants to break up with him?

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So I asked this girl out , she said yes

we talked for about 6 hours on the date :p

but halfway trough she said :" I know I should not be telling this or be talking about it now : but I'm currently in a relationship... yeah.. but I don't fee also good in it , I want to quit him , but only after exams , otherwise he might have bad exams because of me. I kissed a guy from work , although I'm not interested in him , but he opened my eyes about my current relationship. But I do feel kind of bad , I would never never cheat on someone "

this was a very very very bad moment , not only did she had a boyfriend , but she told me about her problems with it , you could say that's positive , but I immediatly felt really friend-zoned.. :( we did talk about being honest , and we agreed to be both really honest people so maybe that's why she started talking about it...

she gave lots of positive body language ( Think we looked in each others eyes for about 5 and a half of the 6 hours ha ha :D , she did the leg changing thing a lot and she laid with her hair )

she said we should go out together after exams , and later that night she said we must go to a non-smoking bar next time ( for me because I'm a non smoker)

so without that part about her boyfriend and that other guy - I would have considered it a great date , but now I'm really confused... and I kinda physically hold back after I knew she had this deal with er boyfriend ...

so what do you think about this : am I 10 000 miles into friend zone already ? (Although I've only talked to her twice for a short time before asking her out on this first that , so we aren't really friends )

what should I do now ?

I just feel really bad and confused right now... :(

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silkshortshart
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Even if she's interested in you she's still in a relationship that she's not free of baggage from. She may be looking for affection and approval more than a full-fledged dimensional romantic relationship. I would give her the space to get over that relationship. You don't want spillover baggage from a boyfriend she hasn't quite gotten over (who she is still with). Bottom line: she's not ready to give you what you want. Unless what you want is rebound sex and lots of discussions about her ex.

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- rockingpianoman
  
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  yeah I think you might be speaking the truth , I can give her some time but we'll see if she breaks up with her Boyfriend ...the rebound stuf and discussions are things I'm not really longing for no :p
- rockingpianoman
  
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  still sucks though :p

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browolf | 138 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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You are technically friendzoned but in your favour because of her morals and not that she doesn't like you. However if you keep being too friendly whilst she's emotionally hooked into another guy it will become permanent. You got to keep your distance and avoid situations that could enhance your feelings about her or that paints you as as her "therapist". Steer clear until at least after the exams and then find out if she's single before getting into it again. If she wants to hang out you'll have to tell her honestly you can't because you like her and you respect her position but you want the opportunity to be more than friends and that's not possible at the moment with how things are.

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- rockingpianoman
  
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  yeah , that's actually really good advice ! I was planiing on 'ignoring' her for a bit till after exams and not talk to much about how the exam has been etc . because it's something friends do ... about the hanging out - she said to me that she like's things to go slow and flirting etc - so if I immedeatly say that I want more from her it might have a bad effect... so I think I would say yes when it's just the two of us ...?
- indian_empress_91
  
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  Yea this is exactly what I would put...great advice browolf =)
- browolf
  
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  You only need to say that if she wants to hang out before she's single.
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- rockingpianoman
  
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  allright , so when she broke up , and then asks me to hang out , or I ask her and she says yes - I don't start the conversation about the being clear on things etc :p perfect :D
- browolf
  
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  That is correct.
- rockingpianoman
  
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  thanks for your help !

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Been there done that I was in a relationship with my ex but meet my boyfriend and was cheating on my ex with my boyfriend, I feelt like my ex had to much happening to him for me to finish with him so I waited and waited and feelt like there was a never good moment to tell him so feelt like I was taking my boyfriend for advantage and knew he would wait for me but did tell him later than I thought I would and went with my boyfriend but even though we love each other and he's my world he keeps on thinking I'm going to cheat again but I would never dream of, so give her time and don't let her take you for advantage otherwise you risk of getting your feelings much more than there hurting now,good luck

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