that is so true lol I often wonder if he's truly interested in me because he doesn't really initiate, I always do but the reason I do is because I'm afraid that if I don't then we'll end up stop talking or something but he has initiated before and whenever we talk its always for 3+ hours and we have to force ourselves to stop talking
How do your conversations usually go?
when we skype we're both laughing and smiling constantly and we talk about everything with no pauses or breaks in the conversation, no awkwardness at all, and lots of jokes...we've skyped 3 times and chatted on Facebook quite a few times (he is deployed in kuwait so it is sometimes difficult for us to talk so we don't talk every day) but yeah when we do its so enjoyable and like I said they always last for like 3 hours and we have to force ourselves to stop otherwise we'd just keep going on & on
Are you flirtatious with him at all? Sometimes, being the one to start the conversation may put them more at ease about talking to you, but it would help to make yourself seem even more inviting.
yeah I've flirted with him and he's flirted with me. as our skype was ending yesterday I told him he should initiate more and he said "but I like to know you're still interested ;) keeps you guessing too" and he also said "i like being hard to get when its almost clear that you may already have me. Or! you may not! lol" but if I didn't almost "have him" then some of the things he's said wouldn't make sense
The "hard to get" thing is pretty silly if you ask me. I think it's immature when anyone, guy or girl, does it. It seems as if he likes you, but he's trying to get you to do all the work, which should not be the case. If he wants you, he needs to come after you.
yeah I know lol I think the next time I talk to him I want to tell him to not play games or something but I'm gonna try and not initiate the next conversation and see what he does but some of the things he has said have been very suggestive of a future he has made comments about "if you and I were together" and talked about kissing and cuddling etc
How old is he? And I should have asked this earlier, but is he shy? He seems like it.
he's 22 and yes he is, when we skyped for the first time he didn't talk much at all and he kept on laughing and smiling randomly and he even said he was being shy. and I wanted to be honest and tell him that I really like him and that I would wait for him to come back from kuwait if he was serious he would wait for me but me telling him that wasn't to get it official it was just to be honest and tell him the truth and I did at the beginning of the skype
and when I told him he said that he kept laughing nervously and said he didn't know what to say and he kept saying that he didn't know what to say and kept laughing and he said his face was getting hot and he buried his face in his hands twice i didn't press it because like I said my point was just to be honest, not to make it official or anything so we changed the topic and talked for 3 hours and there was no awkwardness or anything
How much longer does he have in Kuwait? And even if he is shy, he shouldn't be playing these games. Yes, the next time you sign on, wait for him to talk to you. Then gently explain that you don't like playing these games.
he doesn't come back until may, so 5 months. and I think most of the "games" comes from the facts that Monday will be 3 weeks we've known each other and because he's deployed we haven't met face to face yet...just the skype but I think he likes what he sees and likes me, like my personality etc but probably feels like we need to talk a little more...our situation is different than most but despite that it hasn't been long, I have this weird feeling about him but a good one, its hard to describe
Regardless, these games need to stop. You two clearly like each other, but he needs to stop with the high school-style games and act like a man, especially with him being 22 and serving in the military. I know that may sound harsh, but I'm in the military too. Comes with the territory :) That doesn't mean he needs to be Prince Charming and charge in at the dragon by himself and rescue Fair Lady, but he needs to act his age.
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