How to become more confident about yourself?

[meowcatwoman]

To be confident, you must be comfortable after being put on the spot. To achieve this, you need to have more experiences, do things you wouldn't usually do (in reason) such as going out with friends more often, learning to play an instrument, find a new hobbie, join a group (soccer, taekwondo, karate, softball, band, etc) which will get you around new people and have a common interest to talk about, etc, etc.

To be confident, you must accept that you will make mistakes and not get all embarrassed about it, and be able to laugh at yourself.

Why should you be worried about talking to guys? They are only 'guys', not some scary creatures from the woods (or maybe...) The more the do something, the better you get at it. Same with talking to guys. Just talk to them, and don't stick to the same type. Talk to dorks, nerds, egotistic, funny, popular, and any guy out there that you have a chance to talk to. They won't bite and if they aren't interested in talking to you, then so what? You lost nothing and they weren't worth getting to know anyway. So get out there girl!

Know lots of general knowledge and what is happening in the world around you. If people are talking about a topic you have no clue about, you aren't able to contribute much, right? The more you know, the more you can add in a conversation.

Don't take yourself so seriously. Be down to earth and have fun, not always being serious about everything.

Love yourself. If you have bad aspects about yourself, try and improve yourself if you can, and let the good aspects shine through more. If you can't love yourself, it is hard for others to.

Lastly, don't worry about what other people think.

[washize]

You need to establish a self in order to like yourself. This means that you have to develop a personality and hobbies.

What do you like about yourself at the moment?

Are you smart?

Are you sweet?

Are you creative?

Are you athletic?

What are you lacking THAT YOU CAN CHANGE, that would make you feel more confident in yourself?

Self esteem is the esteem of ones self. How you view yourself. What would make you view yourself in a positive light?

Would it make you feel more confident if you volunteered more?

Would it make you feel more confident if you exercised more?

Would it make you feel more confident if you took some type of class?

You're the only person who has answers to these questions.

As for approaching guys. Simply say Hi, or ask for help with something trivial, start a conversation from there. If they're interested then they will engage in conversation with you.

[Anonymous]

i became more confident once I started to wear things that werent in my comfort zone. they made me feel pretty and I started to like myself way more. After doing this guys would pay more attention to me and I was more confident around them.

[DanteSparda]

Learn and experience new things.Try to avoid yourself from being immersed inside thoughts of whether you're pretty or ugly. Keep yourself BUSY.

New things are fun, if you set NO LIMIT about how you deal with all the things in this world (dating is also included in this). Open up your mind. Don't be afraid to face any challenges. For example, you can do a new indoor & outdoor activities, try new fashion & outfits, learn how wear make up, etc.

As long as you can keep yourself BUSY...

Always think positively will change the way you think about the whole world. Everyone's so special and unique in their own way,my dear =)

[yaddayaddayadda02]

1) Stop giving a f*** what other people think about you

2) Realize that most people don't care about you. What this means is they have no vested interest in being horrible to you.

3) Realize that you are comparing the story of your life to the highlight reel of someone else's.

[Konnour]

Identify what exactly is making you feel insecure and then fix / eliminate it

Confidence is enough to approach but it's not enough to make a good approach, you'll need more than that - like positive signals from the person you want to approach... it all starts with eye-contact (remember that not everyone is single / ready to date, etc. so... )

[dressyguy]

I have no personal confidence. all of my confidence comes from the way I look and the way I smell! I only wear express clothing with is really expensive. also I only wear really expensive cologne I know that girls like. so why not try a cute outfit, a new perfume, a new lipstick color, new eye make up, or new jewelry. hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

Give yourself a make over, it will give you more confidence.

[Anonymous]

well you know that no one can give it to you right? only you can by changing- stop thinking negative about yourself and don't doubt.

[martyfellow]

Tell yourself they are all brothers of yours. Sure they are out of control sometimes, but not so different from your bratty little brother.

[Anonymous]

U don't need to approach them your young