He wasn't a vegan last summer so I asked what prompted this change.
He responded by saying that that was the most judgement he'd gotten from anyone yet.
Our conversation literally went:
Him: Yeah, I'm vegan now.
Me: Oh. What prompted this change?
Him: Wow, that was the most judgement I've gotten after I've told anyone yet.
It was just a question. He wasn't vegan last summer. He hasn't been vegan ever in his life except apparently the last six months.
I don't see why my question was rude or judgmental. If I were to make a fairly drastic diet change I'd expect people to wonder why.
Oh, and just so you know... his reasoning is because he met a girl and SHE'S vegan.
Also he's a very bad vegan. He ate a quesadilla, buttered popcorn, and chocolate chip cookies today lol
But anyway... was my question somehow rude?
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It was probably the word choice. I know it's probably just your normal speech patterns, but a lot of people perceive formality under casual circumstances as sarcasm. He probably thought you were mocking him.
In other words, the phrase "What prompted this change?" sounds a lot more sarcastic than say... "What made you change?" or something of the sort.
I'm sure it's nothing a little clarifying won't fix.