(a quick Sparknotes of the video: Basically he says that telling guys to be confident is useless if they are ugly because it gives them false hope. They will get rejected anyway, because they are not attractive. He also states that in order to have confidence, you need to succeed in that area you want to have confidence in.)
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Girls won't respect a guy that simply puts up a false exterior of being strong. It doesn't matter how good a guy looks. A girl will never stay with him if he's fake and relies on a facade. Girls want confidence in their men. That doesn't mean a guy isn't allowed to have insecurities, simply that a guy that covers his insecurities isn't trustworthy and girls will never respect him. Quite frankly being in a relationship where you aren't respected is far worse than being single. Feeling a constant condemnation from someone you care about is far worse than having no girlfriend. The status isn't worth it. Not even sex makes that kind of thing worth it.
Never forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A quick google search of "mismatched couples" showing pictures of super model women who are literally super models (as in that's their job and they're rich because of it) in relationships with very average men. Your looks mean nothing. If a girl likes you for/despite your looks then it doesn't matter if you're "ugly." If only to them, you are genuinely handsome. Confidence and a genuine lack of insecurity in your looks can make you VERY attractive to a woman no matter what.
Looks matter only so far as initial attraction or the pettiness of the sorts of females you're better off avoiding anyway. Initial attraction (for the record) matters very little because physical attraction is something that women build up along with emotional attraction. The more they connect with you emotionally the more they find you physically attractive. That's just how life is. Thus... it's more so the genuinity so to speak (I know it's not a word but you know exactly what I mean), of a man than his appearance that matters to a woman.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
It's not a lie. The trouble with guys like this is that they go too far to the extreme. The truth lies somewhere in the middle.
Looks matter to an extent. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lying, and that's the other silly extreme. The thing is most guys can work on their appearance and become decent looking. You can eat good food, hit the gym or even just do bodyweight exercises and become muscular/athletic. You can dress well without spending a lot of money.
Confidence is important also. A good looking shy guy will have a lot of trouble getting women too. Sometimes, guys who aren't that good looking but who have huge confidence can also attract women.
Guys like this obsess over silly things. They say that in order to attracted women you need to be 6 foot or over, be good looking, have lots of money. None of this is true.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE