If a woman is dressed very provocatively, is she "asking for it"?

Some people argue that if a woman is dressed very provocatively, that is a form of sexual consent. What do you think?If a woman is dressed very provocatively, is she

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  • To be honest... the situation depends. First, anyone should feel safe and secure to dress any way they want. So if a girl wants to wear a half shirt and booty shorts, she should be able to without the concern of getting assaulted or touched. However, like many given rights, freedom of speech, equality, etc. There are consequences to our actions. And wearing stuff like that is sadly one of them. For no matter the argument, dressing like that will always attract attention. Good or bad, no matter how you cut it. And being that mankind is just a bunch of crazy right now, there will always be that one creep or weirdo that will escalate things with said person. ALWAYS. You don't even have to dress sexy to attract these kinda people. So while she certainly isn't "asking for it", or deserve being approached, she is increasing the risk of enticing weirdos to approach. So she should take into consideration wearing such things, and take precautions when out like that (be with friends at all times, have police on speed dial, stay sober, stay in big crowds, dont go out to late, etc.) . The sad truth of life really... and it happens with guys too!! Whether a guy is working out, on a jog, at the beach, etc. There are always chances he'll get approached by that one insane girl or guy who thinks just because they are cute and or shirtless or something, that they want to be approached. When in actuality, the dude just wants to chill, and is annoyed by their insistent gestures, or inappropiate touches. Heck, sometimes being with a s/o or child isn't even enough to persuade them to leave. I'd even say that they have it a little rougher, seeing as to how a person would be more inclined to help a women in this situation out more than a guy. Which often causes him to fight back against their advantages more forcibly, and risk getting arrested or attacked by people around who read the scene wrong and thought he was just abusing a women or man publicly... So in conclusion, people in this world suck, and it's wise to remember that and take precautions when out in public. No matter if you're in a cute outfit or not. For even if your not dressing for attention, and you just want to feel sexy for yourself, people will be pervs and try to do something. So be safe, and be careful.

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  • No. I like my skirts extra short and you can sit and admire all you want but touch me and I will grab you by ya neck quick.

    But at the same time, I also understand why people "assume" that.

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  • I mean I think to awnser bluntly no she isn't asking for it. I would say she is asking for attention and with that attention one must be aware of the risks. For example I'm very much a grower not a shower, so if I where to run naked down the street I can't complain and say people people laughed at my dick. Now if some woman grabbed it I she has crossed the line.

    Basically if a guy hits on a girl and she doesn't want that but she is dressed provocatively I have no sympathies. If she is then touched etc. The guy or girl who touched has crossed a line.

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    • I'm suprised I got 3 likes, I may not have explained well, you need to still take care. I and most guys think like this but some the ones who have different cultures or religions that treat women as more like disposable objects then they won't think the same so you still need to be ready to defend yourself.

      And I do agree with that other guy location matters. What is going out attire here is an invitation somewhere else. Italy and Greece i've not heard great things from also the obvious middle east etc.

  • Why is the girl always blamed for her dressing, what about guy's thinking, i think they are pervert who like she is asking for it, every girl should be free to wear anything she likes without the fear of getting misjudged

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  • That partly depends on if she's dressed like a slut. I don't blame women for dressing the way they like, but I guess guys are low on self control so a little concern would regarding what you wear would be appreciated. Like yesterday I saw a girl w sticker on her nipples to make it legit, public nudity should be banned (which is another case clearly, I'm just saying)

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    • I will be facepalming myself all day after reading this "argument" lol

    • I mean no offense to the woman I mentioned here, its just an example

  • No. Maybe it is because the weather is hot, or maybe it is her kind of fashion. If she was asking for it she would ask men directly.
    However I am not a fan of "too revealing" clothes myself I would never wear them in public. I am just saying that women don't always dress up to attract men, maybe they feel beautiful that way.

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  • That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard anyone say. It's even sadder that it's 99.9% of the time a male saying it. I don't care what a girl is wearing or not wearing how is that in any way her asking for it. Some people need to learn to think with their bigger head. Ask those same guys the question "if your sister was dressed provocatively would she be asking for it?" And I'm sure after they give you the usual "my sister would never dress like that" their answer would absolutely be no.

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    • I'm asking a question that has been viral for along time among my community. I don't think it's "ridiculous" but quite serious because women around the world get sexually assaulted only because of the clothing their wear.

    • I didn't mean the question was ridiculous I meant when people say she was asking for it is ridiculous

    • Ohh okay

  • If a woman is dressed provocatively, it could mean many things. She simply could be making herself more approachable for a relationship, wearing something that she believes to make her look more attractive and confident, wearing something to keep her feeling cooler in hot weather, and so on. However, what a woman wears is completely irrelevant to sexual consent. An obvious difference exists between making yourself more attractive towards men and actually allowing men to have sex with you. For a woman to consent sexually, she must give a person permission to have sex with her. Simply because her clothes might sexually arouse a man does not give the man the right to engage in sexual acts with her without her permission. Doing so would be rape. Men are not sexually entitled to sex simply because the woman that they are interested in is wearing clothes that make her appear more sexually attractive. Men have every right to approach her after being drawn by her choice and clothing and appearance with the hopes of forming some sort of relationship, but the woman also has the right to reject them for whatever reason. From there, those men should move on to the next woman. If you know any sort of man that has this mentality where he believes that revealing clothes is sexual consent, I recommend staying far away from him because he is simply looking for an excuse to commit rape.

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    • Women dress to impress how man translates that in his mind is his problem. If a man dresses provocatively I don't see women jumping up and down rape him. What's wrong with men seriously.

  • Depends. If she's wearing clothes like these, for instance, it's hard to see how anyone could claim she isn't "asking for it":
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    If a woman is dressed very provocatively, is she "asking for it"?If a woman is dressed very provocatively, is she "asking for it"?

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    • Amusing pink downvote. You've got all the women above wearing clothes (stretching the term very liberally to classify the last one as 'clothes') which are literally demanding "fuck me" ("or fuck off"). How are their clothes not 'asking for it' when they're all explicitly 'asking for it'?

    • When a person jokingly says "kill me." Are they requesting somebody kill em?

    • @Jackblue Technically, yes, they have requested that. And the arm of the law is tone-deaf, with no sense of humor nor time for 'jokes'. "It woz just a prank bruv, innit" isn't going to wash.

  • Nope. No, she's not asking for it. Women who are not provacatively dressed have it happen, too. Guys have it happen to them, and they're rarely dressed provacatively.

    There's a bit by Dave Chappelle that kind of goes with this, though that seems more to do than oggling and hitting on her, not full on rape. "Just because I'm dressed like this does NOT mean I'm a whore!" "Yes, but you ARE wearing the uniform."

    I'm a guy. when I'm heading back home from a night time event, my keys are out, I'm usually on my phone - I carry stuff safely. I park under lights, if possible. I check my car. I get in, lock the doors. Doesn't mean I won't get robbed. I don't flash my money. I rarely carry credit cards. I even have a dummy wallet.

    Nobody should do that to anyone. It's not an excuse. However, it can't hurt to try to be as careful as you can and not do anything that might invite it.

    Like a drunk person doesn't invite getting raped or getting robbed, and shouldn't be (in an ideal world, etc)... not getting completely plastered while alone and out of it MIGHT make things easier in that it will increase the chances of a criminal (or potential criminal) thinking twice before trying to mess with that person.

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  • Sadly that's exactly the message you are sending to anybody. It does not mean that it is a form of sexual consent. But that's simply that you have no respect for yourself and you would rather take the risk is stead of being mindful of your surroundings and the type of attention you're receiving. I know because that's exactly what happened to me when I was younger, and a lot of lustful men are not going to have respect for you. It makes no sense to try to make yourself look more approachable for the type of man you want to sexually attracted to you, when you're basically going to be attracting everything to you because they simply want sex and that's it. Sadly a lot of girls and women do not wake up to that fact into God forbid they are seriously hurt, raped, or God forbid killed. And it's worse when you're the one that's dressing modestly like I always do, and you still get the wrong attention, because they expect you to dress how all the women in girls decide to dress which is inappropriate. I can't blame everything on men, when it's women and girls choosing to do dumb things and put the rest of us who believe in Morality, and modesty in danger. And if you are ready to look attractive naturally like I know I do according to a lot of people, you're going to get a lot of attention if you're not careful. I feel very ashamed a lot of women don't want to heed and listen to men's plea's concerning with these things, but then blame men for everything they tell you why they end up doing what they do. This is why a lot of men grow hatred for women.

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    • There are Wise Women, and then there are foolish women. These days you got to watch everybody that goes the same way for you too.

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    • Porn should be banned*

    • Bad intentions *

  • Of course she is asking for it.
    She is walking like a public vagina and full make-up to simulate sexual excitement. She is desperate for the D.
    When you dress like a ho expect to be treated like a ho as well. You're not a princess. So tell me how much it costs and spread your legs.

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  • it's not sexual consent, no way!
    A woman can walk around naked and not be asking for it.

    Women who are assualted raped I understand are often not dressed that way, I know a 75yr old that was raped by a 19yr old... she wasn't asking for anything.

    But there is no way around if a woman looks good, it draws eyes, triggers chemicals in the guys brains. But that's true just because of her shape as well.

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  • No, she isn't asking for it but she's potentially putting herself at risk. No clothing or lack of clothing sanctions rape. However, we cannot divorce ourselves from the reality of the dangers of the world just because they don't match how we want the world to be. People should take responsibility for their safety based on the reality of how the world is. If you dress like a stripper and walk the streets on your own late at night then you're putting yourself at risk.

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    • Most rapes don't happen late at night on the street. They happen inside by a man the woman knows.

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    • @Jackblue He forced her to shower afterwards to try and wash his DNA off.

    • @Goodwifie It seems he learned a few things about evidence from watching Law and Order or something.

  • Well, I don't think that dressing provocative gives any kind of right over her.
    But it's obvious that you are overacting because of something, what would you make if you find a man showing his cock behind a coat to some schoolgirls?
    It's obvious he lacks something in his life.

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    • We are not talking about being naked, showing private parts, but wearing "provocative" clothing which still cover the basics.

    • May be you must define "provocative"

    • That's the issue, you can't put one unique definition on what's "provocative" because this is subjective, for some provocative is just the fact you are wearing high heels.

  • That's not the right question. The real question is why would a woman wear revealing clothing? Is it comfort? Is it vanity? Or is it part of a mating ritual? Can they afford modest clothing?

    It's not like women who wear bikinis at the beach are asking for it. That is why this is a bad question.

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    • *facepalm alert*

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    • Well I hope you reported it. And if you didn't you clearly aren't over it. Either report it or get over it. Your biased crippled crusade questionnaire doesn't help anyone.

    • I have reported it and I'm not over it. My question is helpful don't worry. Byee

  • I wouldn't call it "consent" but provocation in any form is asking for something. (e. g. If I provoke a guy and he hits me of course I was asking for it... I think provocation is actually a usable defence against assault & battery charges in some countries)

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    • Provocation is one thing. Acting on because of being provocted is another. If a person cannot control themselves, they pretty much are being primitive and low.

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    • I assume you are referring to the wording "dressed very provocatively" which in your head is very strictly defined however to me is entirely ambiguous.

    • It's a border less definition problem. We know what is and isn't porn but not strictly where the line is, we know what is a human and an ape but not strictly where the line is, similarly we no what is and isn't indecent dress but not strictly where the line is.

  • It is not exactly consent, but it is however, taking away her right to complain, if she being objectified by men. Yes, she is absolutely allowed to wear whatever she wants, but she has to take the 'heat' that comes along with it.

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    • Why would you objectify a woman because of her fashion preferences? Is this what it takes to make you want to lower someone's worth in your mind and give her "heat"?

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    • And how is a woman going to rape the guy if she decides to objectify him and because he is being too provocative it's a sexual consent?

    • Did you read my original post? I said that it is 'not exactly consent'... I never said that it was consent to rape... I said that even though it is NOT consent to rape, but she waives her right to complain about how men will stare at her chest, if she walks in with a low-cut top to show her cleavage.

  • No. It is not a form of consent. She might be dressed that way because it makes her feel good about how she looks or make her feel confident. The consent is only consent unless they verbally give it to you or sign it or communicate it in a definite way just before doing anything.

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  • It's not sexual consent, but lets use some common sense here. If a person (male/female) wears clothing specifically designed to accentuate and showcase our sexual assets, then people are going to look at you in a sexual way. I don't know why this is so hard from some feminist to grasp, but it's just truly ridiculous to me that people can't even recognize that.

    It would be really nice if we lived in a perfect world where guys don't grope girls dressed like this, but we don't. I believe that a girl should be able to wear whatever she likes, and not get sexually assaulted. But again, we don't like in a world like that.

    It's the same concept of me parking an unlocked Mercedes in the hood with the keys in the ignition. If I do that, it's going to get stolen. Do I support car thieves? Absolutely not. Could I have used some common sense to prevent that situation from happening? Absolutely. And that is my point right there.

    Cliff notes: If you really don't want sexual attention from strangers, then don't dress in a sexually provocative way.

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  • When someone, guy or girl, leaves their house in a tight shirt to show their pecks or boobs they can be doing it to attract someone. They can be doing it just because they feel good looking and confortable. Either way no one has the right to assume they want whatever from them because of it! Even if a girl uses cleavage because she like guys eyes on her, that is far from an invitation to sex.

    It's heartbreaking to see a girls underwear being used as an excuse in court. Passed around by the jury as if that proves that she is promiscuous. But even if she is that means she can't be abused? That means she can't choose who she wants and just has to accept any guy because she was asking for it? There is so much wrong in this I don't even know how to adress it.

    Was she asking for it just because she wanted to feel beautiful? How can that be a green card to random guy to ignore what she wants and force her? How can society accept that as an excuse? How can that even be proof presented in court by a FEMALE lawer? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

    Ladies, if you want to be a teaser or just feel hot do it! You are not asking for anything unless you explicitly say so!

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  • I don't agree that dressing provocatively constitutes consent to sex. However, there are situations that can sometimes be avoided by a proper measure of prudence. If you don't want to invite sexual attention, you can avoid it.

    Walking nude down the street does not constitute consent to sexm but you wouldn't let your 14 year old daughter entertain male friends in the nude. That's just common sense.

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  • No one has the right to grope or rape another person no matter what they are wearing. I dont think rapists rape a woman because of the clothes she's wearing, they do it because they find them sexually attractive and because they have the oppurtunity to do so. Guys who are rapists seek the oppurtunity to rape so it's important for women to try not to be in a situation where they could be potentially raped.

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  • When a woman wants to stroke her vanity and troll for sugardaddies by sexually provoking the public, she is disrespecting society and herself and More.

    It is not consent to forcible rape, but if she got stared at intensely and even groped it would be her own fault. Not that I personally would want to touch the slut.

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  • Asking for people to look, yes, asking for people to take her behind the dumpster and have sex, hell no.

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  • Of course. Why else would she do that? She's wanting the attention or she wouldn't do that in the first place.

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    • Attention, maybe, CONSENT, absofuckinglutely not!

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    • I don't want you to please me. Like i said i don't even want to talk to people with such kind of primitive thinking. You may stop commenting now. Thanks. Bye bye

    • Appease doesn't mean 'please'. You're not that bright either are you? And you don't get to make the rules. If you don't want answers then don't post. Or block me. That way I don't have to read your drivel.

  • Definitely not.
    Little girls are raped.
    Old ladies get raped.
    Nuns get raped.
    It's all about power and control.

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  • It's not consent but I mean someone who would rape someone isn't gonna be thinking the same way we are.

    That's like asking if letting women run around buck naked is gonna reduce rape rates.

    It may not be consent but it is provocation and provoking rapists to go after them.

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    • It really doesn't matter what a person is wearing.

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    • No but it does happen.
      There was also a guy driving around our night club district picking up men who were in a venerable state and pretending to be an uber driver.
      He would sexually assault them. Would you say that these men were dressed like sluts?

    • @Goodwifie

      Well it's a lot harder for guys to dress as sluts then it is a woman but it's entirely possible they were. Or the guy was just a gay or even bi rapist which is also entirely plausible.

  • When a girl dresses sexy, she is showing everyone she is a confident woman. She is NOT saying, "Let fuck."

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    • Amen brother ❤️

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    • "Confidence to show it" is not the real motivation, the desire to stroke vanity and gain advantage by being sexually alluring to strangers is.

      All the lies and nonsense aside, women who dress in what should be bedroom attire in public are simply displaying their most valuable trait because they lack anything better.

    • *facepalm alert*

  • No, that is not the case at all, and anyone who thinks that will hopefully soon be wondering whether they are "asking for it" from their cellmate.

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  • No. She might be dressing that way to make herself feel good, or to make a statement, I don't know...
    But unless she's a prostitute, or something like that, there's a high possibility that she isn't walking around in public, dressed provocatively, to get sexual attention from strangers

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  • No. Its an absolute stupid mentality most society have. People think if a girl is dressing in shorts because she likes mens attention. Thats the reason most people sexually harass girls in shorts. But decently dressed girls too face this. Its all an excuse people make.

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  • I think that people who believe this are a danger to the women around them, as they believe that there are alternatives to getting consent that don’t actually require communication.

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  • It’s a complex issue. She isn’t asking for it, but I believe girls should take proper precautions for their own safety

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    • How is it a complex issue? Would you rape a girl because she is wearing a short skirt?

    • No that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying that women need to take proper precautions like going out in groups, avoiding dangerous areas, etc.

    • Ohh i got your point now

  • Rapist go after girls that are alone and seem easy to access. Dress, skirt is easily push up. A Jeans is way more difficult and takes time. They go after girls that seem easy to handle. They want a victim that don't fight back or struggle too much. Wear whatever you want but don't walk alone at night

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  • It's not a form of consent, but it IS advertising. A woman wearing a skin tight cocktail dress in an alley isn't asking to be raped, she's just bringing needless attention to herself. Of course she is more likely to raped; men are simply going to notice her more than if she was wearing baggy sweatpants and a hoodie.

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  • No, you have to have "self-control," just because someone looks a certain way, it doesn't mean that they are giving you liberties to just do whatever you please to them. There is such a thing called, "Boundaries," when you cross them, there is no going back.

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  • She's not "asking for it" but she's not doing anything to give the message "I don't want it" either. If girls don't want male attention then they shouldn't dress in revealing clothes. People in any circumstance have a responsibility to govern their actions in a way that gets them what they want and deters what they don't want. This is no exception to that rule.

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  • No matter how short clothes a women wear any men or women don't have right to touch her.

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  • Women, like everyone else, want attention sometimes. The problem is controlling that attention. They want a certain kind of attention and admiration, but want to be able to draw the line at whatever boundaries she is thinking of. Men don't always know these boundaries. And, they often want certain people's attention, but not others. They can't always control that, either. But it is a matter of communication, on both the part of the male and the female involved so there are no misunderstandings.

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  • One can walk around naked on the streets and still not be asking for it.

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  • If a woman is dressed very provocatively, is she "asking for it"?

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  • No it don't mean she is asking for it that's stupid but i dont feel it's victim blaming when objectivly we know some people are assholes and will target women that wear said clothing because they feel they are sluts so if u want to reduce the chance off it happening don't go sketchy places dressed that way yes it's shit not being able to do or dress how u want and its not right but this just helps to reduce shit situations

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    • If a male can't control himself, why should the world conform around him. Men that look at that as say She wants it, are children, if not criminal.. IF a guy think that entitles him to a piece of her ass and uses that as consent, he should go to jail.. Period.

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    • And that's where we agree 100%they should be punished to the full extent off the law but the law is fickle as we humans control the law and bend it to our opinion

    • And that is true as well..

  • depends. if her intentions are to get hit on, get noticed then she's asking for attention but not to be assaulted! but if she's dressed up for herself, then definitely not asking for any recognition or anything but just to make herself feel good.

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    • No women should get hurt because she wants to feel good about how she looks. God created women to look beautiful.

  • For me, I prefer girls wear dress modest respect. When I saw girls wear very provocative like show her cheeks I lost all respect for them.

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    • You believe clothing puts value on people?

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    • Clothing don't put value on a person. A person's value is static and is could change only by his behaviour.

  • (this isn't directed at you...)

    But, I think one is an idiot if he (or, in some rare cases, she) thinks this is actually true. Like, balls to walls moronic times infinity!

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  • no, you could walk in the street naked and you would still not be "asking for it"

    but if you own a jewellery shop and you dont lock up at night you are also not asking to be robbed, but guess what

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  • I think if a woman is dressed provocatively then she can't stop guys from looking and be offended by it but guys can control what they do (touch or say) to that woman.

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  • She may be signaling that she is looking to have some fun, but whom she chooses to respond to is up to her. Nothing validates rape, especially not clothing.

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  • No. She could be totally naked and it doesn't give anyone the right to take advantage of the girl...

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  • No way nothing wrong with looking good! I'm currently doing a personal social experiment, I'm fit mucsly and I've been wearing laggings no underwear in public, no one has ever said anything yet, I'm well endowed and girls look but are sneaky about it, men with girls blatantly stare and gawk! From wearing normal cloths to the spandex girls want to talk to me more and flirt heaps don't know if this helps

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  • How you dress has nothing to do with it. People are fucking sick.

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  • I believe that there are consequences to all of our choices. It's not about what is just or fair, it's about what is realistic. People try to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex, or same sex, every day. Even if the intent isn't that. Even if it is simply that the woman just likes those clothes, the reality is that she is making herself more appealing to men, increasing her chances of being harassed by them. Those men are wrong for it, but it is what it is,. If I leave my money outside right now, chances are someone will take it. It's mine, not theirs, but they will take it anyway. It's not fair or just, but it's realistic.

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  • Absolutely not, that’s victim blaming and I would suspect only rapists actually employ that sort of rhetoric.

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