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I think it's tough... I think everyone has flaws. But it's good to take both into consideration but being fair to a guy by allowing them to prove themselves personality wise but you also can't judge a book by its cover either. I know they are out there but I think it's fair to give guys a chance to prove themselves too. It is possible to grow to like the way a person looks over time with their personality as the main attraction
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If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, why shouldn't you have dreams and wishes? Whether you find one is a different story. And attractiveness is subjective.
Thank you @AuroraRoseat. You have been kind throwing these MHOs at me. 🙂
The only way it would be unreasonable is if you were looking for him to be the Sexiest Man with the Perfect Personality. Nobody is perfect and I personally would want a Human over an Adonis...
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nah, its jus greedy and conceited to want both, what ur talking about is a perfect guy,not every guy is perfect, and not every gurl is perfect, but every girl who i below perfect or ugly wants a perfect guy,there's not enough perfect guys to go around.. like maybe 35 percent are perfect... and where does it leave the rest of us guys who aren't perfect?1s who look good but personality is average... or looks average with amazing personality/we jus get left in the dust? thats kinda unfair
Interesting. What if she knows that that all men have flaws and yet wants one she is sexually attracted to and appealing in personality? Does that change your thoughts?
hmmm, yh... i wonder if personal opinion can make every girl attracted to at least 1 guy (that may not be perfect)or if the perfect guy is the same in every guys eyes... if that makes sense... cos then if theyre all going for that 1 perfect guy the others get left in the dust...or can a not perfect guy be seen as perfect jus from a certain girls personal opinion... i wonder..
but without a doubt it is kinda egotistical... cos she may be only average looking and average personality... yet she wants a hot guy with great personality... i think if ur not so great urself u should look for someone in ur own league... and not think u deserve the best of the best when u ur not even that great ur self... thats kinda cocky in my opinion.. i would only ever aim low and never expect to get a hot girlfriend
unless she is 10 in looks and personality herself i dont think she should be aiming that high lol
The thing is though your perception of her looks has nothing to do with her situation. Those guys she wants might actually find her to be a 10 while you think she looks worse than a beluga whale. I understand what you're saying about having realistic expectations BUT other people do not decide that for her unless if she is pursuing them, if you understand what I mean.So if a woman wants a perfect 10 and she approaches you because she thinks you are that (physically) while wanting to get to know your personality, and you find her to be less than a 5? Then you would tell her that you don't find her desirable and maybe she should find someone else that is meant for her (in a nice and tactful manner). This is imperfect though because some men who she finds are 10s might think she's cute.The gist of my whole diatribe is that I'm wanting to know what people think of a woman (subjectively realistic expectations or not) who wants a subjectively attractive man with a genial personality. Thanks!
hmm... i guess ur right actually... there never is a risk to aim high and its always worth a try... cos like u said that person may have a bad judgment and find u hot when ur actually ugly asf... ur right lol
maybe i will aim high n try n get a hot girlfriend even tho im ugly asf... maybe she needs glasses and has bad judgement heehee >:)
No, but she should equally have the same traits. It's usually either the unattractive or the terrible personality ones that want both in the other gender. While the true gems understand that everything is a work in progress you will get one trait and the other will develop over time.
How interesting. In my experience, it's those who have both who want and get both. I don't see how attraction will be a work in progress unless if someone is hefty and I don't feel someone should get with someone seeking to work on their personality.Interesting, nonetheless.
I'm a firm believer that anyone can become attractive once you spend more time with them. Now that isn't always the case, but I know on many occasions, where my close friends thought a girl in our circle was ugly and unattractive, but throughout the times we all kept hanging out, their thoughts and attitudes changed over time. A couple of them actually got married. Even I fell into that once, thought a girl was very unattractive, but over the times spent working with her, she become more and more attractive. So it does happen.
So their personalities and quality time changed your outlook on their physical appearance? I haven't ever heard of that happening with anyone that I know. That's good though.
Yes. It made me see her in a whole different way which changed her Perception of appearance for me. I guess I'm different lol
I think this is not unreasonable though the reality check might be actually needed, I mean, if you are not attractive yourself or you are not having anything to offer, then the man like this is out of your league.
Whether or not she is attractive is not determined by you if she is not seeking you. Someone will find her beautiful and ugly. The point is do you think it’s unreasonable for her to desire someone who is attractive to her and who has a personality she likes?
Given the condition, no, this is not. We have to have some standards I believe.
Why would it be unreasonable for a female and not a male or vice versa? Shit... just go to any dating site and most those women want all that shit and my money.
LOL you can try to find one, but usually you'll be dissapointed.
No. I’ve found plenty.
Yeah okay... I mean why ask 🙄🃏
Because I’m wondering why so many men think this is an unattainable feat when they desire similar.
Lots of people with good looks tend to overcompensate on it.
Why is it unreasonable for a person to choose who they want to be with? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One person might like one person but another person might prefer someone else. Whay are a person's choices criticized?
Sounds like what most people ideally want in a partner. I don't think anyone wanta to be with someone they find unattractive long term, and a good personality is always attractive/appealing.
We live in a free society nothing is unreasonable as long as it stays within the game guidelines of the law
No, that's not unreasonable. It's only unreasonable to expect 100% in both areas right away. Some people may need some work. (Not A LOT of work; just some.)
Lmao of course that not unreasonable. You're allowed to have whatever preferences you want.
I mean, if you can pull that and lock it down good for you. I'll just settle for sane and passable looking
Its unreasonable to want both unless she has both herself and just as much to offer the man.
As long as she's willing to put in the effort/work to make herself look attractive, its not unreasonable.
Yes it is unreasonable to want both.
I’m curious as to why you think so or are you joking... lol?
Not at all
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