Do you sometimes feel low and insecure?

[Lynx122]

Yep, mainly because I'm 29, 30 in a few months and I still can't handle my life alone. It really sucks feeling incompetent and feeling like other people are just annoyed by me. I'm getting help nd orking on fixing it but I don't really wanna talk about it until I'm actually done. When other people ask what I'm doing and stuff I just feel like when I talk about the shit I'm working on it's so basic compared to other people's problems I feel like a kid or something. So I just rather not talk about that shit at all. Shit that's hard for other people is easy for me but shit that's easy for other people is hard af for me it's frustrating af.

I never even knew how handicapped I was until I lived with my housemates. They're all super active and independent and have their shit to gether and are really grown up even though they're all younger than me XD. I'm glad that I live with them cause I'm not oblivious anymore and stuck in a bubble and think the way I live my life is normal but at the same time it's not great for my self esteem sometimes ^^.

But there's this quote: "If you're the smartest person in the room you're in the wrong room." And when it comes to life skills and stuff I'm definitely the dumbest person in this house I think i am benefitting though. At least I know more specifically what I can work on. As for the feelings I just keep going and keep working on stuff there's no real benefit in feeling shitty. I do what I can on one day and then I relax and do whatever I like and then I try to continue on the next day etc. Everything will work out fine for me I'm just in a tough phase at the moment but a few months from now I'll be gravy :).

[Kaazsz]

Confidence = competence.

It’s always hard for people to understand confidence. But confidence is merely the result of competence. You study for the math test, you are confident you will pass because you have put the work in to become competent.

I don’t know what you’re insecure about. The path to competence may not be obvious. Me personally, I suffered social anxiety my whole life. The path to competence and this confidence with social situations was to talk to people all the time, everywhere. Talk to girls guys old folks kids and everyone else. But I didn’t know this most of the time. I thought I was just a worthless piece of shit. I thought people didn’t like me because I was just born scum and had a bad childhood so therefore I deserved to suffer.

So you have to see on one hand that you must become competent to become confident. But you have to realize that the path to competence may be hidden from you and you need to find out what actions you must take in real life to take steps towards competence and thus confidence.

And insecurity is a result of lack of confidence so yea... lol.

[Sarajp]

I think it is natural to sometimes feel low. Humans are complex beings.

What I do about it depends on what is causing it and how long I have felt low.

A couple of days before my period, I typically find myself crying over something I wouldn't cry over any other time of the month. So, I just ride it through and have a good cry. lol

When I was grieving - I talked about my thoughts and feelings with people who have grieved too.

When I was actually clinically depressed - I sought medical treatment, went to therapy, exercised, meditated, got enough sleep, and ate healthy. It got better eventually.

Having someone who I know well and trust to talk to and laugh and cry with helps me a lot too.

[laurieluvsit]

YES! ... once a month... lol

Hot water bottle and get a massage :)

[normalice]

To me, insecure is a relative word based on how secure one perceives others to be - which is based on how secure they perceive others to be, and so on. To that end, I can't really feel insecure as I am constantly aware of the desperation in everyone around me. There is a sort of psychological digestive track everyone has, and no one seems interested in a balanced diet. Just because its imaginary people assume appreciation is infinite. But it isn't. It needs to be cultivated like any other form of sustenance. I see the appeal of the fast food people get from things like fox news and organized religion, but it's all borrowed by taking confidence from someone else. To me, it's just emotional cannibalism everywhere I go. I do feel a considerable amount of despair and a pretty much constant sense of dread for how far my species yet has to go to get out of our funk, but I generally deal with it by video games, sex fantasies, or ranting about politics on the internet.

[ohshee]

Ask my self why I feel this way. ,, and then ask myself how long the doctor say u were going to be this way , so in my own way it's a choice to be ran down or to fix it because I know better when we feel like that we are talking ourselves out of being the best we can be ,, and if u do it enough times you start to believe your not good and I don't care who you are what you do. But all of us grow to become better people so I say SNAP OUT YOUR BEAUTIFUL SO SMILE NEXT TIME Take a smaller step forward. Handle it then take the next step

[InfobotsMom]

It's never a bad thing to be around people to whom you matter, to remind you of how you're accepted and how you're valuable and to remind you that there is a place in this world for you, where you fit and have purpose. We can't be all things to all people, nor should we try.

[DOGMA1954]

I think at many points is our lives we all feel this way. It happens for different reasons and even different seasons of the year. Christmas is the hardest for me. To many bad memories. What I do is get out and have dinner or maybe go see a movie by myself. Sometimes being alone and taking your mind off things helps and soon this moment will pass.

[Anonymous]

A lot of the time. I have depression, have had it for years, if not all my life. Sometimes it really gets ugly. I just try to get through it. Distract myself if possible.

Delve into work. Try to go to the movies, or go out. I don't do a lot of singles events because most of the women at these things are kind of mean to me (or guys like me, anyway) so I try to avoid it and go do stuff I might enjoy.

[beebella]

Yeah, when certain people say or do things to make me feel insecure.

I'm not sure if I actually do anything to try to deal with it, I just wait for the insecure thoughts/feelings to go away.

[cheapshotbob]

i write or play music but i always come out of it so i never get into it to deep

[interested70]

Yes it happens quite often. I usually try exercise or some mental type exercise. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't. I am trying to stay off medication if possible.

[Ripper_E]

We all have some insecurity,
I don't really pay much attention to mine anymore.

[Nik1hil]

I just shut any source of feeding me information.. STOP comparing myself.. Remember the brightest moment of my life... Enjoy some nice porn as I get lucky with myself..

[JustRollTheDice]

A good hike works or just some reflection time or some chocolate

[TheDreamer21]

Yes! I deal with it by reminding myself that I need to accept myself no matter what because no one else lives for me.

[Tomsta]

About twice a week. Comes with the teritory of depression and anxiety

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I have short waves here and there, but I just get my mind right and refocus and know who I am.

[Sambo22685]

I always feel low. My girlfriend always calles me small cock. At least I know she's not happy. To deal with that I've set up gaga to find out if I really am small or Its just her being hurtful.

[alance99]

I try to divert my mind from it and do something that will lift up my mood

[Anonymous]

I use affirmations and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).

Meditation helps as well, I started for self improvement but it also builds mental resilience which helps.

[Razal]

yes different days different feelings. some days am low, other days i feel better.

[Dolemite510]

Sure I think everyone does, i usually smoke weed or doing a bunch of exercise and it always helps my mood

[GreenGold1992]

sometimes yes, I just wait it out

[Guanfei]

Sometimes? 🤔
All the time I'd say.

[WhatTheHellAmy2]

God's my best friend

[eagle1951]

yeah it happens, the best i can

[Exorcist_Rampage]

I don't feel low or insecure.

[pigoat]

GaGit

[bklynbadboy1]

I never feel that way

[COMMODOREII]

Sometimes.

[oldoldold]

Pills

[Anonymous]

No, never do.