Raw, nerve alert. The reason I said intimidating is that. My neighbours have tried a variety of ways to get at me. Now the men are getting at me trying to get Intel on how I make my money. Obviously one breadwinner to another. They have their woman but I'm a man to them not a "woman" I think I have that masculine energy they talk about most men think I'm a lesbian, and the fact I've had some hook ups and 4 relationships since living here I think that confirms the man energy, I instigate and bin them of they're not what I'm looking for or get too controlling. Ugh!
Most masculine men aren't attracted to masculinity. I'm not and I dont give a shit about a woman's job. Using the word intimidated seems like another lie perpetuated by feminists. Less masculine men might very well be attracted to you.I have read some of your posts and you mentioned that there was also a question of whether your neighbors disliked you because of your race, but then you eventually thought that might not be the case. Things are rarely black and white, no pun intended. I can understand that it might be frustrating when people draw conclusions about us but we can't get upset when someone isn't attracted to us. They have the right to their own feelings even if we dont agree or like them
Listen, I ask questions to understand, I'm glad you looked at my profile to see my other questions because you will see that I'm trying to understand. I don't know what my neighbours issues are with me. But every now and then there is a new 'thing' with them about me.They are very very curious about me, that may be all it is. But the fact they seem to want to gain access to what I have I don't like. Most neighbours are friendly when you move in, they weren't nice. People may say just move, but where I am location and price its really exactly what I need. I've lived in the same road my whole life and never had as many problems until I moved out to here. (yea I know I was protected by my parents) but that weird energy I get from people, yea that's been happening since I was young. And I suggested it being a race thing as I'm the only single black female living in this building. I also have noted a conversation between two white residents referring to only the P. O. C here as snitches, when they're the ones gossiping about everyone else.
Actually I remembered you from reading your question before. I didn't just look at your profile. Your profile avatar of the silhouette is very distinctive. RegardlessI dont think that you are wrong for having your feelings. You're trying to make sense of your situation and gain insight into the motivations of your neighbors. I'm sure some of your conclusions are valid and some others may not be. It is certainly nicer to feel comfortable with your neighbors than the opposite. People are nosy and it sounds like they were asking you questions more out of nosiness than concern. It's possible that these guys feel less important if they can't provide more for their families than you can provide for yourself as a younger female. Maybe that is going on. I answered from a dating/attraction perspective in my original response.
I understand and I appreciate your response, I needed you to understand I wasn't making a fixed statement. I am always willing to listen and learn, tone isn't always heard here and what could be simple can often turn into an argument.Right now this is what I like clarity, and a willingness to express that.I'm finding it to be a rare thing these days and it's a little upsetting to me. Anyways I hear what you're saying x
I agree. The world has turned reactionary and anything can set us off. I am as guilty of that as many others and it's not good for anyone and for society in general. Good to talk with you
🙌🏾🙏🏾 Thank you brother.That's tight. I guess what's happening is just the realisation of how together I really got my "sh*t" this Covid thing although I'm not rolling in it. They're seeing well actually this girl isn't crumbling not like those around us. A lot of people been out there going stir crazy and I just been calm mostly.The only thing I will say is people really need to stop watching others. They always curious about me and my sh*t. I couldnt give a flying monkey about them.I also don't lend noooo body no money. No body!
(needed a separate note) I appreciate you and that comment. Thank you. I wish I was surrounded by other men like you. I find that the competitve stuff is a big deal with guys (I'm usually classed a lesbian). I also find that woman find me annoying too and do some shady sh... Just to bring me down.
Grandmudda, grandmudda?What do you have for us?Give us something good grandmudda.👵🏾💭mi get sum advice fi yuh yuh memba tuh mind yuh bizniz
🤭🤣😂😂Best advice evaAnd you're more than welcome,Salute 😉
Init... I literally cannot say that enough. Mind your own damn business ugh!I think it was buying my bike you know...What's weird though is people asking me when they live with someone, have two incomes, have a car, have a company vehicle. A child and don't seem to miss out on buying the latest Nikes... So tell me surely I should be asking them how they get their money!
😂Right! There's a recession here with millions out of work, yet they can continue to buy the latest Jordan shoes. 🙄 When that pantry runs bare fill that refrigerator with those fucking Jordan's. Sure they"lo well on some rye bread 🤣
It probably taste like peanut butter.It's weird I truly believe people here think I'm rich. They're soo weird. You're medical and so am I, we see all kinds of people. I'm talking about "the projects" type.My neighbours have no sense of weighing up monetary value. Its weird like Brompton bikes you've heard of them maybe? Expensive... Mine, not even remotely close even if it is foldable.
Yes, those little fold up bikes usually run close to $300 USD here and the motor driven onesare even more expensive. I get all kinds of goofy looks when I'm in my car. The ghetto actors actas if they want to rob me and the middle-class whites look at me like,how could he afford such a vehicle? I mean, he is blackkkk.Must be a street drug consultant.No, I work hard and long for the little I have acquired in my life.
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I think I got what you are saying here. I'm trying to understand it as I think maybe auto correct messed up a few things in your response.But I think many people doing really understand life.I'm tired of having this discussion really. I'm bored of being dismissed. Having older guys treat me like a dumb little girl and peers use me to get ahead or try and sabotage what I already have. This world is tiring and the more affluent we become the further away we are from humanity. I will say this over and over again. This world is so focused on the material in life that they are soulless.
I don't want to be alone, but what I saw in my life growing up was a dysfunctional relationship between my parents whereas my grandparents maternal and paternal were a team. My maternal grandmother hurt her back really bad while working and was registered disabled so although she desperately wanted to work she couldn't. So she focused on running the house and taking odd jobs that didn't sabotage her benefits always supporting the kids and my grandfather. They today have been together 59 years and still laugh and show each other love and respect. My paternal grandparents met later in life, having my father and uncle at a later age in their 40s my grandfather having been in the army was tough but taught my father that there really was no obstacle in life, everyday life is easy but people complicate it too much which is why we end up in wars. My grandmother reinforced this by teaching the boys the importance of kindness, self care (cooking, cleaning, and so on) my grandmother was a little older than my grandfather and passed away in her late 80's my grandfather is still going at 94 In a care home in Jamaica. I believe he is here because much like my father he loved life.
Where can I find this for myself when everyone is focused on being a billionaire.
Your family sure has lived long lives and it's good to be independent on your own, I Completely agree
I find that to be really quite confusing, I thought those characteristics were attractive. I see that it seems to repel men. Unless I approach them they would pass me by. But I do think in more recent years due to a lack of confidence perhaps I have lost the art of relaxing and picking up the "I like you vibe".I sense someone likes me and recently I've received what feels like a slapping down...I don't usually go there at work but even on a friendship level people can be hella hierarchical.
those who are mentally weak! Of course. Some still living by the standards from the 1400's and can't accept the women can be self sufficient just like men are, it's lack of understanding and lack of respect (in my opinion)
But don't you think a lot of people in society seem to have lost respect for others. Men though I think are hurt and fed up with the new rules and standards. Don't open the door, don't offer me your seat, why didn't you open the door or at least hold it, you should have offered me my seat!
See these standards are still actual and the guys/men who does it without expecting something in return! Are the real gentlemen and I consider my self an old school gentleman , well mannered, have self respect, well spoken, very handy, can get low if i have to and don't expect anything in return and we are very!!! VERY RARE now days and the majority like you said is ''fed up'' and ''hurt'' who do things because the expect a lot in return and i have seen these people on daily basis and many ask me how to i stand up this and all what i answer is : It's not easy to be a real gentleman, if it was easy! you know the rest ;)
I can imagine myself with someone like that...
Are genders equal? It certainly doesn't feel that way at times and both genders will have a different perspective on what the perks are from both sides instead of finding ways to show each other respect.I have spent my life living and not showing others my wealth. I value people that value me more than my things and people attach themselves due to what they perceive, but disappear as they're chasing that celebrity lifestyle.So what I feel is that maybe intimidating isn't the right word I'm just not on their radar