Yeah that’s true about pride, good and bad intent. But guys can sometimes be too much for girls. It can definitely be seen as intimidating
Gender has nothing to do with it, I tell you now as a person on both sides of the spectrum. I am highly intuitive and know when a person is being real or is just being fake. I can care less about a man spray for boasting. Regardless if he's confident or not. But at the same time I respect people who chooses to forgo their fears in order to try to communicate with a person. The same way I have always been presented as shy, intimidating, Etc, I still learn to love and be myself while also going to respect other people. I can tell the difference between conference, and somebody who's just using it as a way of being prideful. But again it has to do with the energy that's being presented. For not everybody has good intent. But if somebody is only coming to me because they want something out of me, I would not want to be involved with that kind of person anyway. Regardless if it's a male or female. It has nothing to do with it being too much for girls. I have to do with upbringing, culture, personality type, and who they are as people. But not everybody is the same. It is never wise to assume and speculate.
Well then not at all girls are like it. But very interesting. I’ll take a read
Not all girls can appreciate everything. You know that, right?
That’s what I mean by “too much”
But what does appreciation have to do with anything? The truth is nobody owes you anything, and you don't owe them anything. It all once again boils down to intent. If your intent is to try to date a person, and you're doing it solely out of selfish reasons, denying that is 10 times of course they're going to be intimidated because they don't want to be dealing with constant arguments with guys who can't handle their rejection. You have to understand that we're the ones that have to deal with this every single day. Not you. If you're looking to be a friend, nine out of 10 times they're not going to feel that way they just want to weed out guys who are just out for what it is that they want for themselves. Nothing more. So you cannot blame them for being apprehensive.
Yeah, but that’s not me and a lot of guys.
So what are you saying then? Because what you're talkin about sounds a lot more to do about dating relationship between a man and a woman or trying to ask a girl out and nothing to do with just confidence at all.
What does a man's confidence have to do with intimidating girls? Because I am certain there is no relation to it when anybody can be intimidated by anything or anybody.
Well women say that confidence is what’s most important for a man. I hear that all the time. Confidence can be seen as intimidating.
But you guys can tell confidence. So you always know whether I’m being confident or not.
But again. what is the intent? You still did not answer about the intent, and neither did you answer about what does that have to do with us? You are an adult. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It has nothing to do with us.So why listen to us about having confidence? Confidence is what's important in everybody. Because well confidence you have what? depression, oppression, social anxiety, anxiety period, miscommunication, and all sorts of problems. Again it has to do with the intent. But I will tell you what you're not want to say. Your intent is to try to date random women. You're trying to pick up women. When you are encountering a woman that you want to try to pick up, your pick in a woman is directing your energy at her. She feels your energy. She doesn't need your stair. She sees your body language. She's picking up every single you're single. And it freaks her out because she knows why you're approaching her. But here's the real question? Does she want you to approach her? And does she even agree with you approaching her for your reasons are? The truth is no she does not. It has nothing to do with it being intimidating it's because we know what you want and we are not looking for what you want. And because we know we're not looking for what you want, we know what the end result will be. Exactly what I said before. You getting hostile with us God forbid if we reject you. You have to remember that you are a stranger to this purse. They don't know you. You don't know them. They don't know your name, you don't know their name. Maybe you heard about them from somewhere, the same it can be for us for you. But at the end of the day we don't know you. Not everybody is open to speaking with strangers. Especially to guys on that level other than friendship. And I'm one of them.
So again who are you trying to impress? And who are you trying to pursue? And what is the attentions of you pursuing? Because the problem with a lot of you men and that you do these things all for the wrong reasons. It is common courtesy to introduce yourself and get to know a person. But it's another when it comes down to trying to date a person that you don't know. You do not have to adhere to rules that is not beneficial for either party.When we tell you about having confidence with talking about being wise with who you try to interact with. I have nothing to do about impressing us. It has to do with the fact of your intent behind it. Women will judge you no matter what you do or don't do. When I tell guys, in general how they need to have confidence, I'm telling them to be confident as a person period. I ain't there to be supporting them to be doing Reckless behaviors for all the wrong reasons. Especially when it comes down to harassment. Do you want to file with Society does, but you don't even know the real reasons why you even do the things you do. That's how a lot of you men end up in serious trouble with women. Because you know your intent is for the wrong reasons. And then when it doesn't work how you expect it to her, then you get upset for the choices that you yourself chose to make.
The same thing I'm telling you is the same thing I tell two girls two. When they said guy that they're physically and sexually attracted to, that's the first thing that goes on their mind. Is whether or not if the guys going to be interested in them in that way, and if they can date them, what they say to them, and all the other stuff and they don't even know the guy. Then when they get to sexually involved in the first thing that they complain about is why they get themselves involved with that person in the first place, if that relationship doesn't even work out. Do you not see the pattern? It is more than just being confident. It's about having rational and logical reasons about doing what you need to do and if you even need to be participating and doing those things at All? The same rules apply to us. If we are not careful in who we interact with, we can be golf a bit putting ourselves in danger or get the other person in trouble. Lots of girls are Reckless, but men are even Clueless. That's what I always say. Because we women tend to do reckless things that not only jeopardizes the man, but compromises ourselves. And men are clueless when it comes down to who they are for themselves as men, and in trying to fit into a other Min doing because other men are sleeping around with x amount of girls, and the guy whether he wants to sleep around with many women are not, are only doing it because they don't want to be alone and they want to experience sex.
You are driven by your sexual desires. That's the only reason why you approach a female. But a woman is not like that. And it has less to do with us just being very selective. It's more to do with the fact that we don't want to end up committing to a person that is going to God Forbid end up hurting us is. bad enough that a person may get hurt by themselves also. Unless they also don't give a damn. You got to think wisely about whether or not if you should even be doing these things at all. But one thing is certain. You got to have confidence regardless because you have to be able to communicate and speak with people. Because if you don't say anything, others are going to assume that you don't even know what it is that you want.
At the same time, some of these women already have an idea of what type of guy that they want to be approached by. So they already judged you the moment that they see you. And if you're not somebody that they can find himself being sexually attracted to, they going to have a negative response and reaction to you anyway. That's why you don't approach strangers you don't know. If they're acting like they expect you to approach them because they're whatever, you don't have to do that if you don't want to. Just like I don't approach people I don't want to get to know. The same way you don't have to report people you don't want to get to know. But if you're just sitting there and act like you want to get to know them and you do nothing, then that is where we can judge and say that we cannot have any respect for you. Because we will respect you more just for having a parrot to talk, instead of sitting there and doing nothing. I don't agree with dating strangers for those reasons. I personally would not date strangers myself. But of all the guys that took the chance and the curse to even bother to talk to me I still had respect. Because they didn't sit there and do nothing. They showed me where they try to be a man and try to be a leader. If they did not agree to my terms, some at least respected that. Others were not so. How you come off to one woman, it's how other women will also perceive you. The same rule applies to me. The same way I rejected all guys that were strangers, other guys perceive me as somebody that just didn't want to date them overall and give him a chance when that wasn't true. I just do not believe in dating somebody I don't personally know it isn't compatible with. Especially as a Christian, I don't want to get hurt. And never do I want to hurt them. You have to remember that not everybody thinks like you just like I had to learn the hard way.
She's picking up every signal your signaling*
Having the courage to talk*
Interesting. Yeah, girls can do a lot. Doesn’t mean I have to go along with it.
Doesn’t make me any less confident either.
Thanks for the insight. But god you guys are depressing.
Women love fake confidence
They do. And guys know that.
To be ultimately confident. You have to take a step back first
I think true confidence is understanding your strengths and weaknesses and an understanding of how to apply those to get what you want. I can say I will be a star professional athlete but if I don’t know how I stack up to the requirements, and if I can’t find a viable path forward, then I’m just dreaming which usually ends badly. Some women will fall for a guy like that but he really doesn’t have a plan or a real assessment of himself vs the requirements. He just has to act like he is going to do it and even he may not believe it’s going to happen at all. But... it does get some guys into some panties, so there’s that. When a guy who meets the requirements and knows what he is up against for success, he understands that it may not work out even still... that thought to women is a turn off. But he understands the game as opposed to playing a head game. He plans for it, which is smart as there are no guarantees in life and having a good assessment is wise.
Nothing more confident than a guy that KNOWS. But especially a guy that has been wronged. Even just moving forward with 1 really confident strength is dangerous
I think many women also confuse socially awkward with not being confident. And conversely, if someone is socially adept, that can come off as confident with a high probably of being successful in a girls mind, especially an immature one.
Doesn’t even have to be socially awkward. Some truly confident guys that don’t care about being socially adept are so confident that it’s insane. The world isn’t just but I hate seeing truly confident guys getting messed up by a girl’s decision. I see it really making them not care about anything.
They shouldn’t get messed up, they should move on. No worries.
They know that.
bro I see that you got a troll here invading your post, she seems butthurt all because you deleted her post. but that's a good move because she does have issues!its also funny how she's calling you a coward, hypocrite, etc. when she herself for blocking people to get the last word in arguments that dont work on her favor
That doesn’t surprise me. But she can’t do anything to me.
true, but just felt like pointing out that her personal attacks are nothing but projection
Thanks. Yeah. I just pressed “I don’t want to see this” because I felt like it. I wish her the best.
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I don’t think they truly can. Sorry
This user is ignorant with this idea, he even deleted my posts because he couldn't back up his own belief.
Yeah, but confidence. Some stiff and awkward people are some of the most confident people
i suppose it depends on how we define and perceive it as well as outward communication. if someone is fidgety on stage during public speaking and constantly stumbling over their words and looking over their shoulder as if they are looking for someone to help them, it dont look so confident to me. and thats all i can go by because i am no mind reader. meanwhile if someone shows up on the stage all comfortable and relaxed and their words just flow smoothly and even when they goof, they can make a joke on the spot and get people laughing, that looks confident. and looking confident is probably more important than being confident, although i have never really found a case where the 2 are so diff from each other
Looking confident is just expressing your skills. “although I have never really found a case where the 2 are so diff from each other”.. they are connected for sure. But they are different
I’m confident that they can’t always tell confidence. 😁
I'm confident you're confident about women's confidence in being able to spot confidence.
@HungLikeAHorseflyhe's ignorant my man. He deleted my post. Because he couldn't back up his belief with reason and actual merit. Not worth the typing if I were you.
Because you can’t see clearly. You weren’t worth the effort. And look what it’s proven. You’re spreading lies now.
Nope, you are. Even men where who started what I did, tou say the same thing. The only thing you did was show how ignorant and how much of coward you where.
Fact is, you can't back up your idea with actual liable information, or merit, and like to repeatbypurself because you have mo idea what your saying
Imagine being that ignorant. And annoying. And useless. And wrong.
@Mystic_Nova 95% of the things on GAG aren't worth the typing. I mean, you could kinda tell from the "real confidence" part of the question. I read that as "I have 'real' confidence and women can't tell that so I still strike out with them but it couldn't possibly because I lack confidence so it's obviously their fault, not mine".But who knows. Maybe he's 100% pure, unadulterated confidence and every woman he comes in contact with just shakes in her boots at the level of raw manliness they see before them.
Imagine beingtha that we we M you hide behind a anonymous post because you have no merit to what you say. Must be so easy being tou to hide behind all the blind ignorance. Might need to get you a seeing eye dog to help guide you through that darkness
OP, did you really delete her post? That's not very confident.
@HungLikeAHorsefly imagine being a hypocrite like yourself bud.
She’s not worth the effort bud.
@HungLikeAHorsefly I typed the last thing for him by the way. Lmao and trust me, he doesn't. If he did he wouldn't be posting this anonymously, as well as having merit to what he said in my post, instead of deleting it. But your nice to try and help this poor fellow. Lol
@HungLikeAHorsefly He really did. All because he couldn't give actual reasoning behind his idea of confidence. It's quite hilarious.
@Mystic_Nova I'm confident the OP is not very confident.
And see how he resorts to petty name calling once he runs put of saying the same thing. It's quite funny
@HungLikeAHorsefly He isn't at all. So before he deletes your post, I'll just laugh at him
I followed you before he deletes ya. You seem cool!
Cues but not confidence
This guy is just being ignorant. He deleted my posts because he can't backnip his own belifs with actual reasoning lol
That’s not why. But you sound like you have issues.
That's exactly why. All you did was repeat yourself and gave yourself no merit hut ignorant statements of women. That is fact. If you didn't, you wouldn't have deleted my posts.
It doesn’t work like that hun. And that’s not what happened
Fact my ass*
That's exactly what happened. Tou do what you did with ll the other comments, you repeat yourself and you dont back your statements up. Because you have nothing to bring up.
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