Sorry wasn't 2012 it was 2010 is when I start in college.
That doesn’t sound to bad. At least you had a friendship before you made a move. In my situation she was just using me for attention or just to have someone to talk to. She never wanted to hang out
This is a great way to look at is. I knew it was a mistake to stay involved but I kept answering her text. I didn’t get what I wanted which frustrated me. She kept texting me but wasn’t interested in anything. Long story short we don’t talk anymore and there is resentment on both sides
I have really good news for you. Every single woman you met in their 20s you won't want them about 30-35. It's a truly dumbfounding experience bc you think you'll always want till you get older. Then when women 25-29 want you it just drops off a cliff and you say I'm okay I'll just date later 20s bc they don't have kids and the above I said. It's a teeter totter in my experience. You have a hard time in 20s. They have a good. Then older it switches. It just happens. I prefer 20s bc had more energy but whatever it's a nice gift.
For what’s it worth I don’t see her pretty face or hear her voice because she keeps everything to text and we never hang out. I honestly don’t think we were friends in the first place. I was just some guy.
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I mean she didn’t want to hang out before I said anything. I don’t even know what we was doing till this day. I tried building a connection but I just was some guy she came to when she was bored or needed attention
yeah so forget her man, i know that feeling all too well of girls doing that to me in the past, girls like that are not genuine they are a waste of time.
She is one of the most beautiful woman in the world
Exactly... One of them.. Not the only one. There are millions of them out there.
Well the girl was doing exactly what you said. I was talking to other girls but she in particular would text me but wouldn’t be interested in hanging out
Don't let yourself get used like that. Relationships (all of them, not just romantic ones) need some sort of balance to be healthy and if she is just using you, you are bound to feel bad eventually.
Exactly I stayed in it so long that I hurt myself and should’ve walked away. Can I ask you if hanging out should be apart of any relationship?
Not necessarily, you can just text but if you want to hang out and she does not, it might end up hurting you in the end.
That is what I’m saying if I’m texting and trying to make plans but she isn’t receptive why are we texting? It looksLike I’m just giving her attt
Some people are fine with just texting but, if you are not, don't torture yourself by staying with her and tell her that this is not going to work out because you want someone to hang out with and she is not that person apparently.
You’re right. It is just weird since we live in the same city
This is true. Why would she want to be friends if I like her yet isn’t being a friend?
She doesn't like you in romantic way so she has no problem being friends
Okay so if she want to be friends why she doesn’t want to hang out?
Because she knows you like her and doesn't want to give you false hope
Okay so why be friends?
To have fun with eachother just not one on one
She doesn’t want to hang out in groups either
How are you friends then?
Great question. Only she knows the answer. This tells me there is reason she keeps In contact with me and friendship isn’t it.
Attention she gets from you?
That is what I think or she is bored. I honestly feel used.
Stop giving her attention and see what happens. If she stops reaching better for you.
I tried that but she comes back. Then I try to make something happen and it is the same thing
The ask her staight what does she want from you. You have right to know
I did an variation of that and asked where do you see this going because clearly you don’t want friendship because you don’t want to hang out and this weird texting dynamic we’re doing. She got defensive and it led to an argument.
Just stop answering to her texts. If necessary block her if it's bothering you
We stopped talking so the problem took care of itself. She sees nothing wrong with her actions. Let me ask you something. Why would she text me after midnight saying I’m thinking about you? Clearly she likes playing games and fucking with my mind for her own entertainment
Yes, she is not a good person if she's doing that
She only did that once but still. She just loves attention. When I think we never had a friendship anyway. I was just some guy that she engages in text conversations with.
Dude, take control ask her out and be 100% crystal on your intentions.. Let her reject you. Move on knowing you have your answer..
I did but I didn’t get an answer. She continues to initiate contact but stupid enough I answer
Thats your answer... 🤦♂️🤷♂️
You haven't changed whatsoever. She wants you to change. OK listen, 30 days no contact and focus on your life, goals and purpose. If you have no idea what I'm talking about, look up Jessica J on YouTube and GL..
This is 100% true. I just went through this. She was just texting me but had no interest in anything but I kept answering so it is my fault.
I don’t know if we were friends in the first place. It’s clear I don’t have a place in her life. We don’t hang out or spend time together. It feels like I’m just some Guy she comes to when she wants attention or is bored. That isn’t something worth having.
Is that all you think you're worth?
No but this is the reality of the situation
Gut feeling just by the way you're describing it it sounds like she's using you. Go out with her if you like. But i wouldn't put too much energy into a relationship with her until you know she's willing to do the same. Just my opinion.
She won’t even hang out.
Then ignore her drop her flat. Make her start every conversation. Smile, flirt, and objectify other women in front of her. And be completely oblivious to her prescence. And no matyer what she does don't be phased by it all. This is a power game.
The point I’m trying to make is we don’t hang out at all. I haven’t seen her in years. I try to make plans and everything but she won’t come. She text me and it frustrates me because why are you texting me if you are doing this. There is no respect. Either she has a boyfriend or she only hangs out with guys she is attracted to
I'm thinking it's because you'll still want to try to get with her.
That is irrelevant
I mean everything you said makes it a mistake. It isn’t worth it because she won’t want to hang out
If that's how you see it, then it is a mistake. I just think it's normal but difficult. Not a mistake.
Okay let me ask you if you knew the guy liked you would you hang out and still be friends?
Of course. And I have multiple times in the past.
Even if you didn’t feel the same?
Of course. If I like them as a friend and they're a nice person, I would like to be friends with them. It's not like they did something wrong by liking me romantically or being attracted to me. We can't chose who we feel this way towards. It's completely natural and if it didn't bother the guy, it wouldn't bother me at all.
Okay I see then you are very mature. I said it was a mistake because I just went through this and it didn’t work out. She tried to make me out as a creep as she wouldn’t come around at all. She didn’t want to hang out. She was distant and cold towards me on different occasions.
Yeah, that happens sometimes. Sorry you're going through that.
Thank you for sympathizing. It was a bad situation. Like she wasn’t interested in really being involved with me but still texted me. I’m confused by what her intentions were because she made me feel like a very low priority
She probably enjoyed the attention you were giving her.
I thought if she enjoyed the attention she would’ve texted me all day. We occasionally texted and usually it was about nothing. I remember when she had problems with other guys I was her best friend
I'd say just try to move on. She doesn't seem like a good person
I’m trying to move on just haven’t been able to. We don’t talk anymore which should help but it hasn’t. I wouldn’t say she is a bad person she just has issues. I apologized to her if I caused her pain but I’m expecting one as well but I didn’t get one. There is no accountability on her behalf
I totally get you
Yeah, like if I were you I'd want an apology as well. However, I'm also someone who doesn't dwell on other people who don't reciprocate the same energy I'm giving them.
The last thing you said is huge and that was my only problem. I was really wasting my time on someone who didn’t appreciate me. Sometimes I wonder if she was right because she probably didn’t want to give me the wrong idea.
Doesn't give her the excuse to be mean to you
Correct but sometimes we do stuff and we don’t know how it affects others
If that's how you see it
Sounds like I’m making excuses for her
I was hoping that would be the situation but she won’t hang out which means I don’t get the chance to see her female friends
Then it’s time to move on.
I just went through and although it was like this at first eventually it was a bunch of nothing.
All women do this to their Male friends
So it makes no to even be friends with girls because they are bad friends
Yea I learned the hard way. She was constantly texting yet wasn’t interested in hanging out or spending time together. That made me feel like shit because I don’t know if she was using me or she was just paranoid
Its really weird how women always ask if you guys can be friends after your break up or like not suited for one another. They just put ya on the backburner like you don't matter.
Exactly she saw nothing wrong with what she was doing. I admit I fucked up the whole situation being emotional. The right way to handle it was to stop answering her text but I kept doing and confronted her to see what was going on and it turnt into an argument. That wasn’t my intention but I stayed quiet for the longest and I had to say something. It was weak on my behalf but hey I will learn from this
I was like that too. But its okay at least you have learned from it.
Not necessarily. You could still find other girls and they don’t have to know about her.
They will find out
They probably will but if you are just texting and not flirting I don’t see the problem
It isn’t always about you. Your ex might still have feelings and can’t move on
I know first hand this is true. I’m going through this currently
Exactly. Don’t let her take advantage of you. Make her have the decency to respect her own decision of saying no. Did she wanna be your friend before she knew you like her? No? She’s using you. Take it away from her. You’re only making yourself a host to a parasite.
We were friends before she knew I liked her but it felt the same. It didn’t feel like a friendship. It felt like she just leaned on me for emotional support. Or she talked to me when she want attention or was bored. We never I mean never hanged out.
Ditch her homie. She's using you as an emotional tampon.
That was at first but it stopped. It eventually went to what I described
@Yads_Is_Back isn’t this how girls act when guys like them but they don’t reciprocate that
When she’s using you for attention, yes. If she had any decency she wouldn’t do that to you. She should consider that it only hurts you and doesn’t help, but she’s too into what she’s gonna get out of it. You’re only messing yourself up by staying that way. Let the girl go.
@Yads_Is_Back how I can be certain that she is using me for attention? That is just how I feel her intentions could be something else. I say it because she text me for the sole purpose of texting when she isn’t interested in anything like hanging out. Also she knows I like her why would she come want to come near me if it could lead me on? I don’t think it is right but I understand why:
That’s the point: she’s stringing you along. If it meant anything more then she would obviously make it more and go with you. You’re her buddy for attention from a guy
Okay so she gets attention from me which probably boosts her ego but the people she actually cares about she participates in their life?
Okay I wish I knew this before dealing with it for 3 years. I honestly had no clue and I’m so gullible that I believe she cared about me because she said it. I tried to give her the benefit of doubt but one I had to see what she was doing. Long story short we don’t talk anymore and she is playing the victim like she did nothing. I blame myself for allowing this to happen
Well don’t beat yourself up about it. We all learn from our mistakes. But now you know...
For sure. Thank you for your responses
I did to get to know her then develop a relationship.
Friendship doesn't have an ulterior motive. You lied to yourself
Sounds like she opened the door for you to kiss her at one point and you didn't.. So now she sees you as a friend she doesn't have to sleep with. Basically a cat playing with a string when its bored..
I see but the opportunity was never there to kiss her because she never wanted to hang out and we never had that 1 on 1 situation
Bro, your codependency is tragic.. There's an abundance of women out there that would love to join you in your life.. Just invite them after you've had a decent conversation starter.. 👊🙄
You’re right man. This situation wasn’t meant to be and there is someone out there for me
Watch some YouTube relationship advice and get a clearer mental picture of the mentality of this woman.. She is getting away with being a bitch to you with zero punishment. Why stop!!
Well we don’t talk anymore so none of this advice will work. I have to apply it for future prospects
I would honestly take the assault charge at this point... I'm done with you!! 🤣🤣🤦♂️