Why is that even when the girl have strong feelings towards a guy, they never replied?

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From all my experiences. I had learned that a lot of girls who had caught feelings for me and made it so obvious. Don’t tend to reply when I text them and never replied after months.
I know that there are some girls who do
it for the fact that they are insecure and don’t want to bother the guy thinking that they might say something that can offend the guy, but it is so annoying that they don’t even replied for so long and worst of all when they already made obvious that they got feelings for me and gave obvious hints.

I just don’t understand why they so scare to replied to a text message?

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JustTheTrue | 56 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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@btbc92 you know that some girls are shy that they don’t make a move at all and only tend to give signals and hints, so their crush make a move? I had talked to multiple girls and learned a lot of things. I met one that asked me for my number and didn’t text me at all. Met another one who pushed me away, but stalked me for months then she opened up to me and is just shy. Only reason I asked about my current situation is because she confuse the shxt out of me. That’s what I mentioned that my university is full of introverts because people are shy and don’t socialize as much as I do.

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btbc92

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Because it's just FEELINGS. That doesn't mean they want to date you. they stopped because they didn't want to lead you on, and also to prevent themselves from attaching emotionally to you because they will get hurt. That's why you do NOT pay attention to hints. It's often misleading. It's about what they want. And if they don't want to date you because of certain things, then respect it.

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On_the_other_hand

1 y
Do people get together without FEELINGS, for practical reasons? If it is just feelings and they don't want to date you then why give hints in the first place? Girls are always asking "I showed I liked him, why doesn't he get the hint?" So if a girl shows interest, a guy is supposed to know to do nothing? So if they attach to someone they WILL get hurt, or is it just him, how do you know?
Asker

1 y
Maybe I didn’t explain myself well, but they had made really obvious hints that they wanted to date me. The thing is even though I had texted them, they never replied.
There was one who was so desperate for me to confess and she never replied when I texted her.
The one right now is a little different, but it is so obvious that she is into me.
What I’m trying to ask is why they never replied to a text when in person they can’t resist being around me?
JustTheTrue

1 y
@On_the_other_hand that’s my question exactly. What’s the point in showing interest and give obvious hints that you like a guy if you don’t want to date them?
It is so stupid and her answer gave me a headache lol
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On_the_other_hand

1 y
Girls complain about this exact same thing. I think your effect is more effective when you are in their presence. They probably are too anxious they don't know how to text with you and will blow it. Or you will have all their receipts.

If you can kissthem good when you meet them, it will relax and simultaneously motivate them to participate in texting in the future.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
@JustTheTrue I think the girl is just feeling the moment but is too inexperienced and too anxious to interact. Sometimes when girls meet their idols they run away. That is why you have to get closer to them sooner, if they are giving hints, so they don't go hide.

And I'm sure some of them are afraid of getting fuckboyed.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@On_the_other_hand holy shxt that’s the description of one girl that doesn’t text me at the moment. Well give me a few min if you want to see a brief of the story between me and her.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
@JustTheTrue Sure
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 @On_the_other_hand since the question is a little related to me. I want to know what you guys think. I met a girl years ago, she was so shy around me, but gave signs that she was interested in me. The next semester came and luckily I had a class with her. I came earlier so she came a couple of minutes before classes started. Then as soon as she notice my fabulous presence. She gave a huge smile and walked so fast to seat next to me. She ignored me one week then talked to me the next one. The next semester I have her a teddy and she assumed I wanted to confess she rejected me mind you she bombarded me with question if the teddy was for someone else and not her. Basically, she assumed that she was my backup which is why she lie about dating someone else. The semester after she was sure, so she gave me obvious hints and wanted to be around me then the other semester came and Covid came, so there wasn’t that many moves that we could make. I was going to give her a teddy this Valentine, but I didn’t because of the previous valentine day when she made a lie. She tried to get me jealous by saying she was going to get a massage with a friend (a girl) as a couple to this massage place. I didn’t talked to her for a few weeks until she did lol. Anyways everything went back to normal, so she still gave hints that she was interested but covid came and I haven’t been on contact with her since then and I recently decide to text her and she didn’t reply, so I deleted the message on the app. Either way I’m annoyed that she doesn’t even reply. I had also see her get jealous one time I was waiting for a friend. I know she wants to date me, but no contact since spring break is just too much lol.
Just a little info about me, I’m a charismatic person at my university which is full of introverts. I’m a extrovert and I socialize a lot. Also, I’m good looking so a lot of girls tend to have a crush on me. Which is why I feel a lot of them are insecure about me. Not trying brag here.
JustTheTrue

1 y
Just wanted you guys to get a picture of my situation which is why I added the last part.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
@JustTheTrue I take it you want her. So lets assume that. First I will say this is possibly going to be a relationship filled with games, unless she gets the feels hard, then MAYBE she will, drop the facade. Anyhow.

The secret to both situations is to get her to drop her defenses. Yes she might be playing games out of nervousness and not wanting to feel like a fool.

There are two ways to go, either tell her straight out you like her and you are not seeing anyone and don't want to play games or embarrass her and tell her you are willing to tell her in front of the world you are single, so she knows for sure.

The other thing to do is get past her defenses. Ask her if you can have a really long hug. Hugs release a lot of tension and actually release oxytocin. Her just being in your space can get her to stop overthinking the situation. This, just like alcohol, helps her chill tf out. A long, long, long SILENT hug that lets her feel comfortable in your space can go a long way to making her feel an honest and genuine connection. Then just be honest and kind and SLOW. Then ask her if she wants to take a walk and sit on a bench or something. She doesn't even need to face you, she could just sit in your lap facing away and talking about nothing. Soon she will lean into you, then your nose is in her hair, breathing on her neck and soon she will face you. With this girl go slow, if she is going this slow with you probably means you might be special to her, just hope she can let the games go.

I don't know if I'm answering your question. Let me know if there is something else you want to know.
btbc92

1 y
@On_the_other_hand Feelings are not practical. If you want to get to know somebody it is still a choice. You can feel all you want, but it can be anything. Many girls don't know what they want because we have been taught to go by what we feel and that is how they end up with regrets, with the wrong guy, blame the guy for HER feelings, and still end up miserable and unhappy, while potentially lead the guy on. It takes maturity to be rational with their choices.
btbc92

1 y
Asker, you can't go by that. If she wanted to date you, why didn't she date you? Actions speak louder than words. I can feel all sorts of things. But if I don't personally want to get to know a person, I wouldn't get to know a person. Intuition is not the same as feelings. Feelings are often based on hormones. That is what most of you people don't get. You don't know these girls. Their strangers. So remember why you do what you. Most of these girls don't even KNOW WHY they like you. That's why when you ask them rational questions, they cannot give you a rational ANSWER.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
"Practical" relationship are boring and empty. Nothing will kill a relationship more than one that is primarily practical.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue Stay away from girls who are not sane. If they want to get to know you they would. Period.
btbc92

1 y
@On_the_other_hand Relationships have always been practical. Think about what you're saying. It's boring, right? That's why women can play with your emotions and enjoy the entertainment you give us. Women loved to be entertained. If you want a relationship, be serious, or get hurt.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
You need to feel something. Just like discovering you are gay. You can be practical and have the nuclear hetero family, but you will be miserable. Feeling the person is the most important part of a relationship. Think of the practical family in American Beauty.
btbc92

1 y
@On_the_other_hand No, you do NOT. I don't think you fully understand what it requires for a relationship. If a woman feels like cheating, should she cheat? Might as well, or else it's boring. If a person feels like stealing, should they steal? A person feels like raping, should they RAPE? You do not have to feel anything. If you have a natural desire to get to know a person, it has to be based on rational choices. Without it, you end up in a situation that could have been avoided.
btbc92

1 y
Misery have to do with what is not working for you. And it can be from anything. A lot have that problem because of what you're saying. If you're not straight as a person while single, you lose yourself in it for the wrong reasons and be stripped of everything that makes up your identity. You have to have a PURPOSE for a relationship. It is not a game nor a joke. Relationships are NOT about you, but about the other person. That means you sacrifice your wants and needs for the wants and needs of the other. It is self-sacrifice into servitude. In the end, you have to work towards something and build with them. What should make you feel something is the desire to build with another. Not for selfish purposes. And that's all you people have. This is why divorce is prevalent, why many hops into hookups, can't wait for marriage for sex or children, etc. Some people have certain dynamics personality-wise, mentality, etc that works for them. We're not talking about personality. We are talking about standards, morals, principals, and rules - steps I should say, that leads to a solid foundation of a relationship. You will not connect and be with everybody. It is a soul connection with a person. It's not flesh, it's spirit. This is what connects people. The flesh will be fed you temporary substances that never fill the void. You have to be certain about what you doing. Without it, you can not only hurt yourself, but you're also ruining other's lives. And nobody delivers that. Remember this at the end of the day: nobody is going to give a damn about you. YOU have to give a damn about you. Learn to love yourself in a way where you can freely give that love back to another. Not just accept it and take it. But to give equally. And not everybody is equipped to handle it.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
You don't get it, natural desires ARE FEELINGS
On_the_other_hand

1 y
Relationships ARE about you AND the other person, if you focus solely and lose yourself identity for the other person you are doing a disservice to BOTH of you. Definitely not a game or a joke.

You can have "standards, morals, principals, and rules" and still be miserable. You can have a solid, faithful foundation and be miserable the rest of your faithful like.

SOME people give a dam about you. All those spouses that were cheated on and were a 100% team player gave a dam. Those same people who ended up happy with someone like them the second time around. All you need is two team players, not just one. But you still need to FEEL them first and foremost. You FEEL someone first, THEN you see if they fit the rest. You don't pick the "safe" person first and then see if you feel anything, that would be a MUCH longer road.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 you know that some girls are shy that they don’t make a move at all and only tend to give signals and hints, so their crush make a move? I had talked to multiple girls and learned a lot of things. I met one that asked me for my number and didn’t text me at all. Met another one who pushed me away, but stalked me for months until she opened up to me and she was just shy. Only reason I asked about my current situation is because she confuse the shxt out of me. That’s what I mentioned that my university is full of introverts because people are shy and don’t socialize as much as I do.
btbc92

1 y
@On_the_other_hand Keep thinking that, this is why so many have miserable relationships and cannot even keep 1. Feelings are toxic and driving people to do certain things. You must be healthy with your emotions. And people are doing things for all the wrong reasons.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@On_the_other_hand yes I want her lol and thanks. The thing is because of Covid I can’t see her on campus. All classes are online and only like 10% offline, but haven’t see her so I know she isn’t taking offline classes.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
@JustTheTrue Yes and if you want it to happen you are going to have to make it happen and that means interacting with her in person as she is electronically paralyzed. She needs to be able to do practically do nothing, her effort in the relationship is resting the urge to run away.
btbc92

1 y
Yes, people do care like myself. I care enough to tell you that you cannot afford to do that the way you want. I'm sorry. Relationships ARE NOT just about you and them. It is about the other person and not you. And the same applies to them. It's a partnership, but you must sacrifice yourself for the other and they to you. They do their part, you must do your part. 100/100% every day of your life. Not 50/50. Ask other married for decades. It has 0 to do with feelings. Even those that are married that I am friends with and those who were married, it's NOT what you think. It doesn't work that way.
Asker

1 y
@btbc92 you don’t get it. Yes we got to talk and get to know each other. The thing is you saying, “if they wanted to date you why didn’t they date you.” I haven’t said that I confessed, so I don't know where you getting that. Also, it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out or confess to them, so don’t expect them to do that. Girls always expect the guy to make the move and I haven’t done it and she does know more about me than what I know about her, so yes we got to know each other. I just don’t get why you assuming a lot of things and being a little aggressive about it.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@On_the_other_hand what you mean by, “her effort in the relationship is resting the urge to run away.”
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue

"you know that some girls are shy that they don’t make a move at all and only tend to give signals and hints, so their crush make a move?" I am a shy, and I can tell you why that is. It is because they are uncertain about what they WANT. And their crushing based on feelings and limited information. And they do nothing because it's out of personal wants, desires, and selfishness. And when the guy doesn't meet their unrealistic expectations, then their disappointment.

"I had talked to multiple girls and learned a lot of things. I met one that asked me for my number and didn’t text me at all. Met another one who pushed me away, but stalked me for months until she opened up to me and she was just shy." A lot of them are just fickle as the wind. They expect things from you based on their own perceptions. It's a FANTASY. You don't meet their fantasy they don't want to further invest. They can't handle reality.

"Only reason I asked about my current situation is because she confuse the shxt out of me. That’s what I mentioned that my university is full of introverts because people are shy and don’t socialize as much as I do." Don't worry about it. They are in their own little world and you have nothing to do with that. They are not yet mature enough to make their own choices. This is what I am talking about with the other user. If they have rational reasons to talk, they would. They don't because they either want to be entertained or not attracted to you anymore, or they just seek attention. Once they have the attention, they bounce.
btbc92

1 y
@Asker, AGAIN. You want a person you don't even KNOW. And now your confused about what she wants. I am a woman. LISTEN to a woman who KNOWS. A woman who just wants you etc is based on hormones. If she really wanted you, she would need to know WHY. Women need to know. And we often don't know and again, we do things and sadly blame you for the things we did. It takes MATURITY. And plenty are not mature emotionally, etc to handle it.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue He is saying that she is basically coward and too gaurded and afirad to go after what she wants. But what HE doesn't realize and understand is that there is a GODO REASON to run. Intuitively, if we are not supposed to be with a certain person because they can hurt or harm us, it is a warning. And we dodged bullets by heeding and listening. Not everything is fear, however. God has protected me from a lot of crazy guys who wouldn't take care of me and do me harm. So just respect it and move forward.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 oh I know about those indecisive girls. I had cut them off so fast they didn’t even saw it coming. They gave me good drama worth writing a book about it. Lol

Oh trust me I know the girls who only wanted me for attention, I cut them off well I played with their mind until they caught feelings for me. I had to teach them a lesson lol. Anyways, I know that some girls play games to make sure the guy likes them because they are insecure. I remind you that I’m one of the top 10 most handsome guys at campus. Even girls with boyfriends wants to cheat on them with me and a few girls here and there has asked me for either my Snapchat or number lol. Girls had loved my personality because I’m charismatic and talkative and sometimes annoying. They had said that to me and the girl who I talked about early. She told me while stuttering a little that that’s what she likes about me. I just don’t get why she never texted me back then and now. She never texted me, but loved to be around me and invade my personal space. You know..
btbc92

1 y
@On_the_other_hand

Do not assume. I never said he wasn't worthy. I had said about needing to have rational and logical reasons to be dating. People are taught to have sex, lose yourself, do what feels good, it's normal, etc, right? Then why are people still miserable in their relationships? Why all these cheating? Divorces? Why STDs are prevalent? Why are you told to get an abortion? Or the person leaves you for somebody else? Abandonment?

"So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?" Many of them don't even know WHAT is good for them. Many of us don't have fathers like you, and therefore doesn't know what a good man looks like, what to look for or desire. They don't KNOW. We learn from the media and our peers and toxic adults. This is why there is a problem. So they go based on that programming and can't think for themselves. I am one of those rare people who can think rationally though I am a feeling person. BUT I do NOT let my feelings dictate everything in my life and I succeeded in many areas while others did not because they did exactly what you said. They often don't understand what or why they want it. They just do and end up in trouble with the wrong guys. Hence the 'bad boy's' - all the girls want 'bad boys'. It's not true. It's certain girls with a certain programing to desire them. The same for you men. You have to get out of the programing.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue You still not getting it. Females want attention. But it's how, WHY, and WHAT kind of attention they are seeking. AND THE REASONS IS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT SECURE in their hearts and minds. What these girls that your describing wants are not because of your personality, etc. But your genes. That's it. They want you for their own purposes. Not because they love you or just want you. They want what you have. You have to be careful. I had guys do the same with me, and I had to cut them out because their desires was impure.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 not to be rude, but you sound a little bit salty. All I did was ask a question why she haven’t texted me since not a lot of people are paranoid about covid and a lot of them are scare to go out. I wouldn’t care about a girl texting me or not if I see her, but in this occasion I at least want a text you know. That girl since the day she met me. She always invaded my personal space and just mine not anyone else. I haven’t see her invading a guy or a girl personal space and she had been doing that all the time. Also, the way she look at me. You can see it is her who caught feelings and the way she always find a way to be around me doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. All I’m saying is because of covid I haven’t see her for 5-6 months. She could easily send a text, she knows I hate texting, but I send her one to see how she was doing and no reply. It pissed me off because even though I don’t like texting. I wanted to know how she was doing you know.
btbc92

1 y
What you have to understand what does being beautiful or handsome MEAN? You think it's all about physical and sexual appearance and it's not. I have met many handsome men and they weren't appealing to me because of who they were in their soul. It was polluted. A polluted soul attracts other polluted souls.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 I know that every girl likes attention. The thing you don’t get is that I know when a girl wants me because they want to date me. They even get mad at me because I don’t make a move and I’m talking about the 27+ girls who felt I was leading them on lol.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue I am not being salty. I am only telling you how it works. She doesn't know what she wants and she is doing this not knowing what is the purpose. It's not you, it's her.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
Ok then, are you assuming the reason she is not replying to his messages is the exact same reason you wouldn't be?

"Then why are people still miserable in their relationships?" Is everyone miserable? Are the only ones not miserable the ones who live life like you?

" Why all these cheating? Divorces? Why STDs are prevalent? Why are you told to get an abortion? Or the person leaves you for somebody else? Abandonment?" None of that happens to people who go date per your standards? They are all "happily ever after"

Many people don't want to date to marry. We don't all have the same end goal.
On_the_other_hand

1 y
"So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?" Many of them don't even know WHAT is good for them. Many of us don't have fathers like you, and therefore doesn't know what a good man looks like, what to look for or desire. They don't KNOW. We learn from the media and our peers and toxic adults. This is why there is a problem. So they go based on that programming and can't think for themselves. I am one of those rare people who can think rationally though I am a feeling person. BUT I do NOT let my feelings dictate everything in my life and I succeeded in many areas while others did not because they did exactly what you said." So all of your friends, including yourself are success stories when it comes to your partners?

This girl not responding isn't because of YOUR values.

They often don't understand what or why they want it. They just do and end up in trouble with the wrong guys. Hence the 'bad boy's' - all the girls want 'bad boys'. It's not true. It's certain girls with a certain programing to desire them. The same for you men. You have to get out of the programing.

So the people that get into you programming are "happily ever after?"

How do you know what new foods you are going to like if you only look at pictures?

AGAIN, none of this proves that this girl's reasons are the same as yours. And saying you know better because you are a girl suggest that all girls offering answers to his question, will agree with your reasoning... I highly doubt that.
JustTheTrue

1 y
You know that for a girl to be interested she have to find the guy attractive.
Then it is the personality that girls decide if they want to stick around the guy.
I match both because even the most toxic girl I had met in my life who never caught feelings for any of her boyfriends and used a lot of guys. Got so obsessed with me to the point that she stalked me, yelled at me if I talked to other girls. Shxt she even confessed her love to me when she was dating someone.
I don’t got a shitty personality as a lot of girls like talking to me and being around me. Most guys hate me because they jealous about how lucky I am with the ladies.
btbc92

1 y
But as I asked you WHY do they want to date you? What is the intent? What is the purpose? I AM TRYING TO MAKE YOU think. USE YOUR HEAD. WHY do they want this? They don't know. It's just sexual hormones. That's all. They know they don't really love or like you, only what you have physically. It's a fantasy. They want to project the fantasy on you because of your availability. Don't have yourself be treated like a thing. You're a human being with emotions, feelings, and desires too. They have no desire to know you. Just like the energy and emotional attention you give. That's it. You don't excite them anymore.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 what’s love to you? In your eyes, What’s a relationship supposed to be? I want to see your point of view.
I will remind you, I got 2 sister happily married with kids. I got a few friends married with kids too.
I want to know your opinion and I will give you mine.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue

I am 28 years ago. I know what it really requires.

"You know that for a girl to be interested she have to find the guy attractive." Again, what does that really MEAN? I want YOU to answer this. I already know. I ask you because you're the one with women problems. The attraction has to be spiritual, not physical. What you have inside radiates to the physical. And they don't understand this. This is why they end up the most sexually attractive-looking men and still get hurt and used and abused or with a child they don't want. It's about conception to reproduce. And to reproduce with WHO and WHAT? That's why you have to know the iNTENT. Before you end up with the wrong kind of person. Like I told you before. I have seen and been asked by attractive men, but they didn't have what I needed. Personality, material, etc didn't matter. IT is a soul connection.

"Then it is the personality that girls decide if they want to stick around the guy." That has 0 t do with it. There is a good reason why I have listed the importance of compatibility in this order:

1. Standards-morals, principals,
2. character traits, virtues,
3. ambitions-desires
4. Personality
5. lastly LOOKS

And I will tell you WHY.

You just said you meet the looks department and personality [whatever your MBTI is]. BUT you can't get them anymore invested. You know why? Because that is NOT important. 1-3 is the most important. Not 4-5. Do you believe in waiting till marriage to have sex? Do you have X amount of partner? Do you have a reputation that is undesirable? Family background, etc? Money? Where are you heading with your educational goals? Travel goals? Family? Do you even want a family or marriage? What are your virtues? Courage? Justice? Mercy? Wisdom? These MATTERS. You can have all the money in the world, be the most handsome, most desired by others, and still be unwanted.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue

"what’s love to you?" It's not about what is love to me, it is about what is love to GOD. Love is to sacrifice. A desire to give, a desire to be patient, and kind, and gentleness, it is innocence, and purity, and righteousness.

A relationship is supposed to be those who are CALLED into a 'ministry'. It is a mission and a duty that must be fulfilled, and not EVERYBODY IS CALLED to that. Everybody has a designation in life where they have to fulfill a certain task, or some have multiple tasks to do in this life. Where you have a man and a woman join together for a PURPOSE, and that purpose is to benefit everyone and not just themselves. You have to have the makings for it. Not just the ability to have sex or bare children. This is why some succeed, and others fail. It is a process. Even though your sister is married, it is whether or not she is called. The same applies to your friends and even my friends. Some succeed, and others failed. Any and everybody can get married and have kids. BUT it doesn't mean anything. What does matter is the calling in the person's life and not everybody is equipped to handle it, and now everybody is affected. That's why some people already have the makings of a mother or father, and they can't get married. Meanwhile, there are others who aren't yet they do. And ruin it for everyone else. That's why I said you must have logical and rational reasons to be involved. You can have desires and all but if it's not pure in intent, you will screw yourself up.
JustTheTrue

1 y
@btbc92 I see your point. Not to be ride, but you sound like someone I don’t want to be with and this is coming from a Capricorn who are knows for being hardworking and have a lot of values. Anyways, I only asked about why not texting since the Asker question relate a little to me because of covid. You are already judging and assuming things without knowing me. Lol

I’m just going to say that with that mindset you got, I will probably end up being single the rest of my life.
by the way of you didn’t know when people know to get someone personality it is because by their personality they show their values, belief, etc.
I’m a bold person, so I say what it is on my mind and don’t care what people think. Girls know that too.
btbc92

1 y
There is a reason why I always remained single because many men are not where they need to be. They're ill-equipped. Not serious, not loyal except to their feelings, etc. Not prepared to sacrifice. Not ready to grow or mature. If you don't have a friend in your partner and a partner who is loyal and ready to be a team player, not just a companion, your screwed.
btbc92

1 y
@JustTheTrue No, your selfishness and stubbornness will leave you single. Because regardless of what you think of me, you don't have a partner. I am telling you what you need to do and you don't want to hear that. I am not judging you. You can say what you want, but none of these girls are investing. I am only giving you reality. If you don't change the mentality, you will continue to get duds going nowhere, or those who run away from you. There is again a REASON. And I told you what those reasons are. You want to succeed to getting the right partner, you have to invest to knowing who you are as a person FIRST. BEFORE you seek a partner. This is what singlehood is. It is a stage, not a curse. Until you learn it, then yeah, you may end up being single forever God forbid. But it's again your CHOICE. Not mine. I made my choices.
btbc92

1 y
Trust me. Your not somebody I have a desire for because you're not on my level. And I doubt your equipped to do what is expected for you in a relationship by what you talking about. This is why your attracting these girls. You are who you attract.
JustTheTrue

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@btbc92 there are like 8+ girls who are waiting for me to take them on dates because they want to date me. Only reason I haven’t made a move on them is because I have feelings for the girl that I been talking about, so your point that I will be single because I don’t follow on what you telling me to do is irrelevant and also the. One who seems selfish it is you. Just because you aren’t happy or successful doesn’t mean you know everything. If I wanted to be a fuckboy or a manwhore. I can be if I want it, but I’m not doing it because I like that one girl.
Tbh you sound like those toxic people on reddit giving advice without having that much experience in dating.
btbc92

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@JustTheTrue Really? Whoever said I was miserable or unhappy? You would be dating these girls by now and your not. At any time if I wanted to DATE I would. But I am not dating without a purpose and there is no purpose for me. You have 8+ strangers you know nothing about yet you're not with any of them. If they so much desire you, then why not have them? The only one who is embarrassing themselves in not me, but you. Experience isn't always the best teacher. I am not being selfish in thinking of my genetic line, family the welfare of another man and even unborn children that would come from me. I know better not jut date anybody.

"Only reason I haven’t made a move on them is because I have feelings for the girl that I been talking about, so your point that I will be single because I don’t follow on what you telling me to do is irrelevant and also the." Yet you have feelings for a girl who is not investing. SHE gets to decide when and IF she wants to date you. You do not get to decide that. And you don't even really know her. So please do not use that excuse.
JustTheTrue

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@btbc92 do whatever floats your boat. Like I said I’m not dating those 8+ girls because I’m focusing on one. It seems to me that you are letting your emotions get the best of you since I said I won’t be following your advice. Meaning that you are probably a controlling person. I doubt someone like my great self will stick around you. I like my freedom and being controlled isn’t my thing lol.
btbc92

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Plus. Let me ask you something. Did you ever stop to think that the girls you claim you have feelings for is not investing much in you because you have a 8 + girls already wanting you themselves? Because I can guarantee you, you have all that going on with all these women chasing after you, that girl is not going to want you.
btbc92

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Listen I don't care if you follow my advice or not. It's not my advice, it's what's meant for you. Ain't about me controlling you kind of like I said if all these girls want you so badly go get them. You act like somebody cares about what you choose to do. At the end of day nobody gives a day. I don't worry about people like you. And I am not a controlling person. I am a focus person who knows what it is that she wants and what she needs in her life. I am a person that is organized and I know how things should go. That doesn't make me controlling. That makes me Focused. And from what I'm seeing this has nothing to do with you liking your freedom. You just don't know what the heck to do with yourself because you're not stable minded. Because you're not stable mind you doing exactly like I said with these girls do. Blame somebody else for your unstableness. It's not my fault you're not happy with what you have. That's on you. Your Reckless Behavior is what's going to make a lot of these girls see the real you and not going to want to bother.
btbc92

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You don't see you doing the very thing that makes a lot of women become unattractive to you. Nobody wants to hear about how many people want you. It's unattractive. And it makes you a narcissist. And you're blind to see yourself.
Asker

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I don’t think you understand what @justthetrue was saying. He said that a lot of girls want to dates him not that his brag about how many girls want to date him to another girl. I will be honest with you, I think you lack more dating experience than I do.
btbc92

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No I understand exactly what he's saying and that's what I highly disagree with him. Dating is not about experience, it's about the intent and being serious about what it is that you choose to do. He is not a woman, so therefore he cannot be commenting about what is okay and not okay. Just like I'm not a man, it's not for me to comment what is okay or not okay for a man if I'm not a man. I can only talk from what I know that God has laid out for a man to do, and what other men have to say about it.

What a lot of you guys are not getting it's not about how many girls want to date him. He's about him picking one that he really would like to get to know, befriend the person, and see if they're compatible, and see what else they can do. If they not going to be able to do anything else further, then he moves on to another person that he can. That's all it is about. And it's not that hard. I know for a fact that I would not be with a person that I am not serious with. And that has to be somebody already see a future with. So dating experience have zero to do it. I don't believe in running through men like paper. I don't want my feelings hurt, and I'm not going to hurt someone else
btbc92

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And again I know exactly what it is that he's saying. Like I told him before nobody wants to hear how many women wants them. Nobody wants to hear that. So I highly suggest you don't take after him before you end up in a serious dating rut and it's bad enough you already got problems. A lot of you guys don't understand that women are not going to be waiting for you to shape up and get your act together. Everybody has their reasons why they are not interested in the person. And he have to learn to respect that the girl that he's claiming that he wants to pursue is not interested in him. And one thing I refuse to do is sugarcoat the answer for him. As much as it hurts me too tell him the opposite of what he wants to hear, I have to tell him the truth. Because the truth is what's going to set people free. you have to understand that when you decide to pursue a person they are the ones that get to be the judge.

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On_the_other_hand

Do people get together without FEELINGS, for practical reasons? If it is just feelings and they don't want to date you then why give hints in the first place? Girls are always asking "I showed I liked him, why doesn't he get the hint?" So if a girl shows interest, a guy is supposed to know to do nothing? So if they attach to someone they WILL get hurt, or is it just him, how do you know?

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Asker

Maybe I didn’t explain myself well, but they had made really obvious hints that they wanted to date me. The thing is even though I had texted them, they never replied.
There was one who was so desperate for me to confess and she never replied when I texted her.
The one right now is a little different, but it is so obvious that she is into me.
What I’m trying to ask is why they never replied to a text when in person they can’t resist being around me?

Answer 5

JustTheTrue

@On_the_other_hand that’s my question exactly. What’s the point in showing interest and give obvious hints that you like a guy if you don’t want to date them?
It is so stupid and her answer gave me a headache lol

Answer 6

On_the_other_hand

Girls complain about this exact same thing. I think your effect is more effective when you are in their presence. They probably are too anxious they don't know how to text with you and will blow it. Or you will have all their receipts.

If you can kissthem good when you meet them, it will relax and simultaneously motivate them to participate in texting in the future.

Answer 7

On_the_other_hand

@JustTheTrue I think the girl is just feeling the moment but is too inexperienced and too anxious to interact. Sometimes when girls meet their idols they run away. That is why you have to get closer to them sooner, if they are giving hints, so they don't go hide.

And I'm sure some of them are afraid of getting fuckboyed.

Answer 8

JustTheTrue

@On_the_other_hand holy shxt that’s the description of one girl that doesn’t text me at the moment. Well give me a few min if you want to see a brief of the story between me and her.

Answer 9

On_the_other_hand

@JustTheTrue Sure

Answer 10

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 @On_the_other_hand since the question is a little related to me. I want to know what you guys think. I met a girl years ago, she was so shy around me, but gave signs that she was interested in me. The next semester came and luckily I had a class with her. I came earlier so she came a couple of minutes before classes started. Then as soon as she notice my fabulous presence. She gave a huge smile and walked so fast to seat next to me. She ignored me one week then talked to me the next one. The next semester I have her a teddy and she assumed I wanted to confess she rejected me mind you she bombarded me with question if the teddy was for someone else and not her. Basically, she assumed that she was my backup which is why she lie about dating someone else. The semester after she was sure, so she gave me obvious hints and wanted to be around me then the other semester came and Covid came, so there wasn’t that many moves that we could make. I was going to give her a teddy this Valentine, but I didn’t because of the previous valentine day when she made a lie. She tried to get me jealous by saying she was going to get a massage with a friend (a girl) as a couple to this massage place. I didn’t talked to her for a few weeks until she did lol. Anyways everything went back to normal, so she still gave hints that she was interested but covid came and I haven’t been on contact with her since then and I recently decide to text her and she didn’t reply, so I deleted the message on the app. Either way I’m annoyed that she doesn’t even reply. I had also see her get jealous one time I was waiting for a friend. I know she wants to date me, but no contact since spring break is just too much lol.
Just a little info about me, I’m a charismatic person at my university which is full of introverts. I’m a extrovert and I socialize a lot. Also, I’m good looking so a lot of girls tend to have a crush on me. Which is why I feel a lot of them are insecure about me. Not trying brag here.

Answer 11

JustTheTrue

Just wanted you guys to get a picture of my situation which is why I added the last part.

Answer 12

On_the_other_hand

@JustTheTrue I take it you want her. So lets assume that. First I will say this is possibly going to be a relationship filled with games, unless she gets the feels hard, then MAYBE she will, drop the facade. Anyhow.

The secret to both situations is to get her to drop her defenses. Yes she might be playing games out of nervousness and not wanting to feel like a fool.

There are two ways to go, either tell her straight out you like her and you are not seeing anyone and don't want to play games or embarrass her and tell her you are willing to tell her in front of the world you are single, so she knows for sure.

The other thing to do is get past her defenses. Ask her if you can have a really long hug. Hugs release a lot of tension and actually release oxytocin. Her just being in your space can get her to stop overthinking the situation. This, just like alcohol, helps her chill tf out. A long, long, long SILENT hug that lets her feel comfortable in your space can go a long way to making her feel an honest and genuine connection. Then just be honest and kind and SLOW. Then ask her if she wants to take a walk and sit on a bench or something. She doesn't even need to face you, she could just sit in your lap facing away and talking about nothing. Soon she will lean into you, then your nose is in her hair, breathing on her neck and soon she will face you. With this girl go slow, if she is going this slow with you probably means you might be special to her, just hope she can let the games go.

I don't know if I'm answering your question. Let me know if there is something else you want to know.

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btbc92

@On_the_other_hand Feelings are not practical. If you want to get to know somebody it is still a choice. You can feel all you want, but it can be anything. Many girls don't know what they want because we have been taught to go by what we feel and that is how they end up with regrets, with the wrong guy, blame the guy for HER feelings, and still end up miserable and unhappy, while potentially lead the guy on. It takes maturity to be rational with their choices.

Answer 14

btbc92

Asker, you can't go by that. If she wanted to date you, why didn't she date you? Actions speak louder than words. I can feel all sorts of things. But if I don't personally want to get to know a person, I wouldn't get to know a person. Intuition is not the same as feelings. Feelings are often based on hormones. That is what most of you people don't get. You don't know these girls. Their strangers. So remember why you do what you. Most of these girls don't even KNOW WHY they like you. That's why when you ask them rational questions, they cannot give you a rational ANSWER.

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On_the_other_hand

"Practical" relationship are boring and empty. Nothing will kill a relationship more than one that is primarily practical.

Answer 16

btbc92

@JustTheTrue Stay away from girls who are not sane. If they want to get to know you they would. Period.

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btbc92

@On_the_other_hand Relationships have always been practical. Think about what you're saying. It's boring, right? That's why women can play with your emotions and enjoy the entertainment you give us. Women loved to be entertained. If you want a relationship, be serious, or get hurt.

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On_the_other_hand

You need to feel something. Just like discovering you are gay. You can be practical and have the nuclear hetero family, but you will be miserable. Feeling the person is the most important part of a relationship. Think of the practical family in American Beauty.

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btbc92

@On_the_other_hand No, you do NOT. I don't think you fully understand what it requires for a relationship. If a woman feels like cheating, should she cheat? Might as well, or else it's boring. If a person feels like stealing, should they steal? A person feels like raping, should they RAPE? You do not have to feel anything. If you have a natural desire to get to know a person, it has to be based on rational choices. Without it, you end up in a situation that could have been avoided.

Answer 20

btbc92

Misery have to do with what is not working for you. And it can be from anything. A lot have that problem because of what you're saying. If you're not straight as a person while single, you lose yourself in it for the wrong reasons and be stripped of everything that makes up your identity. You have to have a PURPOSE for a relationship. It is not a game nor a joke. Relationships are NOT about you, but about the other person. That means you sacrifice your wants and needs for the wants and needs of the other. It is self-sacrifice into servitude. In the end, you have to work towards something and build with them. What should make you feel something is the desire to build with another. Not for selfish purposes. And that's all you people have. This is why divorce is prevalent, why many hops into hookups, can't wait for marriage for sex or children, etc. Some people have certain dynamics personality-wise, mentality, etc that works for them. We're not talking about personality. We are talking about standards, morals, principals, and rules - steps I should say, that leads to a solid foundation of a relationship. You will not connect and be with everybody. It is a soul connection with a person. It's not flesh, it's spirit. This is what connects people. The flesh will be fed you temporary substances that never fill the void. You have to be certain about what you doing. Without it, you can not only hurt yourself, but you're also ruining other's lives. And nobody delivers that. Remember this at the end of the day: nobody is going to give a damn about you. YOU have to give a damn about you. Learn to love yourself in a way where you can freely give that love back to another. Not just accept it and take it. But to give equally. And not everybody is equipped to handle it.

Answer 21

On_the_other_hand

You don't get it, natural desires ARE FEELINGS

Answer 22

On_the_other_hand

Relationships ARE about you AND the other person, if you focus solely and lose yourself identity for the other person you are doing a disservice to BOTH of you. Definitely not a game or a joke.

You can have "standards, morals, principals, and rules" and still be miserable. You can have a solid, faithful foundation and be miserable the rest of your faithful like.

SOME people give a dam about you. All those spouses that were cheated on and were a 100% team player gave a dam. Those same people who ended up happy with someone like them the second time around. All you need is two team players, not just one. But you still need to FEEL them first and foremost. You FEEL someone first, THEN you see if they fit the rest. You don't pick the "safe" person first and then see if you feel anything, that would be a MUCH longer road.

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JustTheTrue

@btbc92 you know that some girls are shy that they don’t make a move at all and only tend to give signals and hints, so their crush make a move? I had talked to multiple girls and learned a lot of things. I met one that asked me for my number and didn’t text me at all. Met another one who pushed me away, but stalked me for months until she opened up to me and she was just shy. Only reason I asked about my current situation is because she confuse the shxt out of me. That’s what I mentioned that my university is full of introverts because people are shy and don’t socialize as much as I do.

Answer 24

btbc92

@On_the_other_hand Keep thinking that, this is why so many have miserable relationships and cannot even keep 1. Feelings are toxic and driving people to do certain things. You must be healthy with your emotions. And people are doing things for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 25

JustTheTrue

@On_the_other_hand yes I want her lol and thanks. The thing is because of Covid I can’t see her on campus. All classes are online and only like 10% offline, but haven’t see her so I know she isn’t taking offline classes.

Answer 26

On_the_other_hand

@JustTheTrue Yes and if you want it to happen you are going to have to make it happen and that means interacting with her in person as she is electronically paralyzed. She needs to be able to do practically do nothing, her effort in the relationship is resting the urge to run away.

Answer 27

btbc92

Yes, people do care like myself. I care enough to tell you that you cannot afford to do that the way you want. I'm sorry. Relationships ARE NOT just about you and them. It is about the other person and not you. And the same applies to them. It's a partnership, but you must sacrifice yourself for the other and they to you. They do their part, you must do your part. 100/100% every day of your life. Not 50/50. Ask other married for decades. It has 0 to do with feelings. Even those that are married that I am friends with and those who were married, it's NOT what you think. It doesn't work that way.

Answer 28

Asker

@btbc92 you don’t get it. Yes we got to talk and get to know each other. The thing is you saying, “if they wanted to date you why didn’t they date you.” I haven’t said that I confessed, so I don't know where you getting that. Also, it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out or confess to them, so don’t expect them to do that. Girls always expect the guy to make the move and I haven’t done it and she does know more about me than what I know about her, so yes we got to know each other. I just don’t get why you assuming a lot of things and being a little aggressive about it.

Answer 29

JustTheTrue

@On_the_other_hand what you mean by, “her effort in the relationship is resting the urge to run away.”

Answer 30

btbc92

@JustTheTrue

"you know that some girls are shy that they don’t make a move at all and only tend to give signals and hints, so their crush make a move?" I am a shy, and I can tell you why that is. It is because they are uncertain about what they WANT. And their crushing based on feelings and limited information. And they do nothing because it's out of personal wants, desires, and selfishness. And when the guy doesn't meet their unrealistic expectations, then their disappointment.

"I had talked to multiple girls and learned a lot of things. I met one that asked me for my number and didn’t text me at all. Met another one who pushed me away, but stalked me for months until she opened up to me and she was just shy." A lot of them are just fickle as the wind. They expect things from you based on their own perceptions. It's a FANTASY. You don't meet their fantasy they don't want to further invest. They can't handle reality.

"Only reason I asked about my current situation is because she confuse the shxt out of me. That’s what I mentioned that my university is full of introverts because people are shy and don’t socialize as much as I do." Don't worry about it. They are in their own little world and you have nothing to do with that. They are not yet mature enough to make their own choices. This is what I am talking about with the other user. If they have rational reasons to talk, they would. They don't because they either want to be entertained or not attracted to you anymore, or they just seek attention. Once they have the attention, they bounce.

Answer 31

btbc92

@Asker, AGAIN. You want a person you don't even KNOW. And now your confused about what she wants. I am a woman. LISTEN to a woman who KNOWS. A woman who just wants you etc is based on hormones. If she really wanted you, she would need to know WHY. Women need to know. And we often don't know and again, we do things and sadly blame you for the things we did. It takes MATURITY. And plenty are not mature emotionally, etc to handle it.

Answer 32

btbc92

@JustTheTrue He is saying that she is basically coward and too gaurded and afirad to go after what she wants. But what HE doesn't realize and understand is that there is a GODO REASON to run. Intuitively, if we are not supposed to be with a certain person because they can hurt or harm us, it is a warning. And we dodged bullets by heeding and listening. Not everything is fear, however. God has protected me from a lot of crazy guys who wouldn't take care of me and do me harm. So just respect it and move forward.

Answer 33

On_the_other_hand

So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?

Answer 34

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 oh I know about those indecisive girls. I had cut them off so fast they didn’t even saw it coming. They gave me good drama worth writing a book about it. Lol

Oh trust me I know the girls who only wanted me for attention, I cut them off well I played with their mind until they caught feelings for me. I had to teach them a lesson lol. Anyways, I know that some girls play games to make sure the guy likes them because they are insecure. I remind you that I’m one of the top 10 most handsome guys at campus. Even girls with boyfriends wants to cheat on them with me and a few girls here and there has asked me for either my Snapchat or number lol. Girls had loved my personality because I’m charismatic and talkative and sometimes annoying. They had said that to me and the girl who I talked about early. She told me while stuttering a little that that’s what she likes about me. I just don’t get why she never texted me back then and now. She never texted me, but loved to be around me and invade my personal space. You know..

Answer 35

btbc92

@On_the_other_hand

Do not assume. I never said he wasn't worthy. I had said about needing to have rational and logical reasons to be dating. People are taught to have sex, lose yourself, do what feels good, it's normal, etc, right? Then why are people still miserable in their relationships? Why all these cheating? Divorces? Why STDs are prevalent? Why are you told to get an abortion? Or the person leaves you for somebody else? Abandonment?

"So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?" Many of them don't even know WHAT is good for them. Many of us don't have fathers like you, and therefore doesn't know what a good man looks like, what to look for or desire. They don't KNOW. We learn from the media and our peers and toxic adults. This is why there is a problem. So they go based on that programming and can't think for themselves. I am one of those rare people who can think rationally though I am a feeling person. BUT I do NOT let my feelings dictate everything in my life and I succeeded in many areas while others did not because they did exactly what you said. They often don't understand what or why they want it. They just do and end up in trouble with the wrong guys. Hence the 'bad boy's' - all the girls want 'bad boys'. It's not true. It's certain girls with a certain programing to desire them. The same for you men. You have to get out of the programing.

Answer 36

btbc92

@JustTheTrue You still not getting it. Females want attention. But it's how, WHY, and WHAT kind of attention they are seeking. AND THE REASONS IS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT SECURE in their hearts and minds. What these girls that your describing wants are not because of your personality, etc. But your genes. That's it. They want you for their own purposes. Not because they love you or just want you. They want what you have. You have to be careful. I had guys do the same with me, and I had to cut them out because their desires was impure.

Answer 37

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 not to be rude, but you sound a little bit salty. All I did was ask a question why she haven’t texted me since not a lot of people are paranoid about covid and a lot of them are scare to go out. I wouldn’t care about a girl texting me or not if I see her, but in this occasion I at least want a text you know. That girl since the day she met me. She always invaded my personal space and just mine not anyone else. I haven’t see her invading a guy or a girl personal space and she had been doing that all the time. Also, the way she look at me. You can see it is her who caught feelings and the way she always find a way to be around me doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. All I’m saying is because of covid I haven’t see her for 5-6 months. She could easily send a text, she knows I hate texting, but I send her one to see how she was doing and no reply. It pissed me off because even though I don’t like texting. I wanted to know how she was doing you know.

Answer 38

btbc92

What you have to understand what does being beautiful or handsome MEAN? You think it's all about physical and sexual appearance and it's not. I have met many handsome men and they weren't appealing to me because of who they were in their soul. It was polluted. A polluted soul attracts other polluted souls.

Answer 39

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 I know that every girl likes attention. The thing you don’t get is that I know when a girl wants me because they want to date me. They even get mad at me because I don’t make a move and I’m talking about the 27+ girls who felt I was leading them on lol.

Answer 40

btbc92

@JustTheTrue I am not being salty. I am only telling you how it works. She doesn't know what she wants and she is doing this not knowing what is the purpose. It's not you, it's her.

Answer 41

On_the_other_hand

Ok then, are you assuming the reason she is not replying to his messages is the exact same reason you wouldn't be?

"Then why are people still miserable in their relationships?" Is everyone miserable? Are the only ones not miserable the ones who live life like you?

" Why all these cheating? Divorces? Why STDs are prevalent? Why are you told to get an abortion? Or the person leaves you for somebody else? Abandonment?" None of that happens to people who go date per your standards? They are all "happily ever after"

Many people don't want to date to marry. We don't all have the same end goal.

Answer 42

On_the_other_hand

"So all shy girls staying responding guys is because the guys are (100% of the time) not good for them? What is it you know about this guy that makes him not worthy?" Many of them don't even know WHAT is good for them. Many of us don't have fathers like you, and therefore doesn't know what a good man looks like, what to look for or desire. They don't KNOW. We learn from the media and our peers and toxic adults. This is why there is a problem. So they go based on that programming and can't think for themselves. I am one of those rare people who can think rationally though I am a feeling person. BUT I do NOT let my feelings dictate everything in my life and I succeeded in many areas while others did not because they did exactly what you said." So all of your friends, including yourself are success stories when it comes to your partners?

This girl not responding isn't because of YOUR values.

They often don't understand what or why they want it. They just do and end up in trouble with the wrong guys. Hence the 'bad boy's' - all the girls want 'bad boys'. It's not true. It's certain girls with a certain programing to desire them. The same for you men. You have to get out of the programing.

So the people that get into you programming are "happily ever after?"

How do you know what new foods you are going to like if you only look at pictures?

AGAIN, none of this proves that this girl's reasons are the same as yours. And saying you know better because you are a girl suggest that all girls offering answers to his question, will agree with your reasoning... I highly doubt that.

Answer 43

JustTheTrue

You know that for a girl to be interested she have to find the guy attractive.
Then it is the personality that girls decide if they want to stick around the guy.
I match both because even the most toxic girl I had met in my life who never caught feelings for any of her boyfriends and used a lot of guys. Got so obsessed with me to the point that she stalked me, yelled at me if I talked to other girls. Shxt she even confessed her love to me when she was dating someone.
I don’t got a shitty personality as a lot of girls like talking to me and being around me. Most guys hate me because they jealous about how lucky I am with the ladies.

Answer 44

btbc92

But as I asked you WHY do they want to date you? What is the intent? What is the purpose? I AM TRYING TO MAKE YOU think. USE YOUR HEAD. WHY do they want this? They don't know. It's just sexual hormones. That's all. They know they don't really love or like you, only what you have physically. It's a fantasy. They want to project the fantasy on you because of your availability. Don't have yourself be treated like a thing. You're a human being with emotions, feelings, and desires too. They have no desire to know you. Just like the energy and emotional attention you give. That's it. You don't excite them anymore.

Answer 45

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 what’s love to you? In your eyes, What’s a relationship supposed to be? I want to see your point of view.
I will remind you, I got 2 sister happily married with kids. I got a few friends married with kids too.
I want to know your opinion and I will give you mine.

Answer 46

btbc92

@JustTheTrue

I am 28 years ago. I know what it really requires.

"You know that for a girl to be interested she have to find the guy attractive." Again, what does that really MEAN? I want YOU to answer this. I already know. I ask you because you're the one with women problems. The attraction has to be spiritual, not physical. What you have inside radiates to the physical. And they don't understand this. This is why they end up the most sexually attractive-looking men and still get hurt and used and abused or with a child they don't want. It's about conception to reproduce. And to reproduce with WHO and WHAT? That's why you have to know the iNTENT. Before you end up with the wrong kind of person. Like I told you before. I have seen and been asked by attractive men, but they didn't have what I needed. Personality, material, etc didn't matter. IT is a soul connection.

"Then it is the personality that girls decide if they want to stick around the guy." That has 0 t do with it. There is a good reason why I have listed the importance of compatibility in this order:

1. Standards-morals, principals,
2. character traits, virtues,
3. ambitions-desires
4. Personality
5. lastly LOOKS

And I will tell you WHY.

You just said you meet the looks department and personality [whatever your MBTI is]. BUT you can't get them anymore invested. You know why? Because that is NOT important. 1-3 is the most important. Not 4-5. Do you believe in waiting till marriage to have sex? Do you have X amount of partner? Do you have a reputation that is undesirable? Family background, etc? Money? Where are you heading with your educational goals? Travel goals? Family? Do you even want a family or marriage? What are your virtues? Courage? Justice? Mercy? Wisdom? These MATTERS. You can have all the money in the world, be the most handsome, most desired by others, and still be unwanted.

Answer 47

btbc92

@JustTheTrue

"what’s love to you?" It's not about what is love to me, it is about what is love to GOD. Love is to sacrifice. A desire to give, a desire to be patient, and kind, and gentleness, it is innocence, and purity, and righteousness.

A relationship is supposed to be those who are CALLED into a 'ministry'. It is a mission and a duty that must be fulfilled, and not EVERYBODY IS CALLED to that. Everybody has a designation in life where they have to fulfill a certain task, or some have multiple tasks to do in this life. Where you have a man and a woman join together for a PURPOSE, and that purpose is to benefit everyone and not just themselves. You have to have the makings for it. Not just the ability to have sex or bare children. This is why some succeed, and others fail. It is a process. Even though your sister is married, it is whether or not she is called. The same applies to your friends and even my friends. Some succeed, and others failed. Any and everybody can get married and have kids. BUT it doesn't mean anything. What does matter is the calling in the person's life and not everybody is equipped to handle it, and now everybody is affected. That's why some people already have the makings of a mother or father, and they can't get married. Meanwhile, there are others who aren't yet they do. And ruin it for everyone else. That's why I said you must have logical and rational reasons to be involved. You can have desires and all but if it's not pure in intent, you will screw yourself up.

Answer 48

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 I see your point. Not to be ride, but you sound like someone I don’t want to be with and this is coming from a Capricorn who are knows for being hardworking and have a lot of values. Anyways, I only asked about why not texting since the Asker question relate a little to me because of covid. You are already judging and assuming things without knowing me. Lol

I’m just going to say that with that mindset you got, I will probably end up being single the rest of my life.
by the way of you didn’t know when people know to get someone personality it is because by their personality they show their values, belief, etc.
I’m a bold person, so I say what it is on my mind and don’t care what people think. Girls know that too.

Answer 49

btbc92

There is a reason why I always remained single because many men are not where they need to be. They're ill-equipped. Not serious, not loyal except to their feelings, etc. Not prepared to sacrifice. Not ready to grow or mature. If you don't have a friend in your partner and a partner who is loyal and ready to be a team player, not just a companion, your screwed.

Answer 50

btbc92

@JustTheTrue No, your selfishness and stubbornness will leave you single. Because regardless of what you think of me, you don't have a partner. I am telling you what you need to do and you don't want to hear that. I am not judging you. You can say what you want, but none of these girls are investing. I am only giving you reality. If you don't change the mentality, you will continue to get duds going nowhere, or those who run away from you. There is again a REASON. And I told you what those reasons are. You want to succeed to getting the right partner, you have to invest to knowing who you are as a person FIRST. BEFORE you seek a partner. This is what singlehood is. It is a stage, not a curse. Until you learn it, then yeah, you may end up being single forever God forbid. But it's again your CHOICE. Not mine. I made my choices.

Answer 51

btbc92

Trust me. Your not somebody I have a desire for because you're not on my level. And I doubt your equipped to do what is expected for you in a relationship by what you talking about. This is why your attracting these girls. You are who you attract.

Answer 52

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 there are like 8+ girls who are waiting for me to take them on dates because they want to date me. Only reason I haven’t made a move on them is because I have feelings for the girl that I been talking about, so your point that I will be single because I don’t follow on what you telling me to do is irrelevant and also the. One who seems selfish it is you. Just because you aren’t happy or successful doesn’t mean you know everything. If I wanted to be a fuckboy or a manwhore. I can be if I want it, but I’m not doing it because I like that one girl.
Tbh you sound like those toxic people on reddit giving advice without having that much experience in dating.

Answer 53

btbc92

@JustTheTrue Really? Whoever said I was miserable or unhappy? You would be dating these girls by now and your not. At any time if I wanted to DATE I would. But I am not dating without a purpose and there is no purpose for me. You have 8+ strangers you know nothing about yet you're not with any of them. If they so much desire you, then why not have them? The only one who is embarrassing themselves in not me, but you. Experience isn't always the best teacher. I am not being selfish in thinking of my genetic line, family the welfare of another man and even unborn children that would come from me. I know better not jut date anybody.

"Only reason I haven’t made a move on them is because I have feelings for the girl that I been talking about, so your point that I will be single because I don’t follow on what you telling me to do is irrelevant and also the." Yet you have feelings for a girl who is not investing. SHE gets to decide when and IF she wants to date you. You do not get to decide that. And you don't even really know her. So please do not use that excuse.

Answer 54

JustTheTrue

@btbc92 do whatever floats your boat. Like I said I’m not dating those 8+ girls because I’m focusing on one. It seems to me that you are letting your emotions get the best of you since I said I won’t be following your advice. Meaning that you are probably a controlling person. I doubt someone like my great self will stick around you. I like my freedom and being controlled isn’t my thing lol.

Answer 55

btbc92

Plus. Let me ask you something. Did you ever stop to think that the girls you claim you have feelings for is not investing much in you because you have a 8 + girls already wanting you themselves? Because I can guarantee you, you have all that going on with all these women chasing after you, that girl is not going to want you.

Answer 56

btbc92

Listen I don't care if you follow my advice or not. It's not my advice, it's what's meant for you. Ain't about me controlling you kind of like I said if all these girls want you so badly go get them. You act like somebody cares about what you choose to do. At the end of day nobody gives a day. I don't worry about people like you. And I am not a controlling person. I am a focus person who knows what it is that she wants and what she needs in her life. I am a person that is organized and I know how things should go. That doesn't make me controlling. That makes me Focused. And from what I'm seeing this has nothing to do with you liking your freedom. You just don't know what the heck to do with yourself because you're not stable minded. Because you're not stable mind you doing exactly like I said with these girls do. Blame somebody else for your unstableness. It's not my fault you're not happy with what you have. That's on you. Your Reckless Behavior is what's going to make a lot of these girls see the real you and not going to want to bother.

Answer 57

btbc92

You don't see you doing the very thing that makes a lot of women become unattractive to you. Nobody wants to hear about how many people want you. It's unattractive. And it makes you a narcissist. And you're blind to see yourself.

Answer 58

Asker

I don’t think you understand what @justthetrue was saying. He said that a lot of girls want to dates him not that his brag about how many girls want to date him to another girl. I will be honest with you, I think you lack more dating experience than I do.

Answer 59

btbc92

No I understand exactly what he's saying and that's what I highly disagree with him. Dating is not about experience, it's about the intent and being serious about what it is that you choose to do. He is not a woman, so therefore he cannot be commenting about what is okay and not okay. Just like I'm not a man, it's not for me to comment what is okay or not okay for a man if I'm not a man. I can only talk from what I know that God has laid out for a man to do, and what other men have to say about it.

What a lot of you guys are not getting it's not about how many girls want to date him. He's about him picking one that he really would like to get to know, befriend the person, and see if they're compatible, and see what else they can do. If they not going to be able to do anything else further, then he moves on to another person that he can. That's all it is about. And it's not that hard. I know for a fact that I would not be with a person that I am not serious with. And that has to be somebody already see a future with. So dating experience have zero to do it. I don't believe in running through men like paper. I don't want my feelings hurt, and I'm not going to hurt someone else

Answer 60

btbc92

And again I know exactly what it is that he's saying. Like I told him before nobody wants to hear how many women wants them. Nobody wants to hear that. So I highly suggest you don't take after him before you end up in a serious dating rut and it's bad enough you already got problems. A lot of you guys don't understand that women are not going to be waiting for you to shape up and get your act together. Everybody has their reasons why they are not interested in the person. And he have to learn to respect that the girl that he's claiming that he wants to pursue is not interested in him. And one thing I refuse to do is sugarcoat the answer for him. As much as it hurts me too tell him the opposite of what he wants to hear, I have to tell him the truth. Because the truth is what's going to set people free. you have to understand that when you decide to pursue a person they are the ones that get to be the judge.

Answer 61

txsnara

Xper 1

a.) they dont want to seem desperate or "needy"
b.) theyre doing something
c.) theyre scared/nervous and thinking of what to say
d.) they dont wanna seem attached and make the boy run away

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1 y
This is a good answer.
Totally deserve the best answer.
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1 y
A-) that’s something that I guessed since guys tend to do that too.
B-) not sure what she might be doing, can you explain it a little bit more. My guess school work and her online job at campus.
C-) I always tend to forget that.
D-) true, I had see a lot of girls doing that

Answer 62

Asker

This is a good answer.
Totally deserve the best answer.

Answer 63

Asker

A-) that’s something that I guessed since guys tend to do that too.
B-) not sure what she might be doing, can you explain it a little bit more. My guess school work and her online job at campus.
C-) I always tend to forget that.
D-) true, I had see a lot of girls doing that

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