Should I be putting in effort to talk to a girl who’s been ignoring me for a long while?

[bluetoblack99]

No. Don’t.

I hate when women do this crap. They are much more likely to test, pull back, ghost, etc.

But women don’t respect men who over pursue them. Our definition of “over pursuing” is different then there’s. They have much less patience for it.

The reason why is men are hardwired to be action oriented. To get results in school, sports and work we need to be persistent and be aggressive. This unfortunately isn’t true AT ALL when it comes to pursuing women. They like mystery and are more cat like. If they are not reciprocating you have to withdrawal. Act like you don’t care.

I think this the toughest thing a man must discipline himself with when encountering a girl he really likes but she’s not returning the attention. She usually doesn’t feel the same but sometimes she wants to test how needy he is.

[cruzzcarlos]

If its worth trying do it. Try to find the exact reason, of they have other commitments then let it go. U can have other opportunities if you stick on something which will never respond then u will end up losing beautiful times.
Other thing if u keep rejected by someone then take a gap and try other things. sometimes it will help the the one who rejecting you will understand your presence.

[Itsok2behapp-e]

Set the scene whilst you read this:

Listen to 'Last Call' by Notixx and picture the Grim Reaper as per the album cover then go ahead at your peril.

What's to stop her ignoring you for the rest of your life? Then what? You die!

When he comes to collect your life what'll be your biggest achievement? Being ignored by one girl all of your life, hmph!

Your life's worth more than that so the answer is no my friend.

[bob_anon714]

Nope. You'll just look desperate and pathetic. Instead, just pay her no mind & ignore her as much possible like you have just moved on (and you really shouystart to just move on). When you stop pursuing her, it may just get her curiosity going wondering why you stopped pursuing her if there was any interest at all to begin with. If she starts to pay you any attention, then it may be worth pursuing, but if not, you've already moved on and that ship has sailed... bon voyage

Just remember dude, be fun, funny adventurous (even on a small mini-scale). No chick likes a whiny little bitch unless they're gonna take advantage of him. Learn to tell great stories and be flirtatious. Keep it light & fun. Hit me back if you have any questions mang

[TruthBringer]

Like many others here have said. Why would you still pursue someone who isn't interested in you? Ah, yes. We humans want to have the thing we can't have. The fact remains, it won't make a difference if you keep putting effort, other than you turning her off even more. Grow a pair and move on. She doesn't want you. Put that effort in not only working on yourself as a guy by mentally and physically improving yourself, but also focus on girls who ARE interested in you.

I have been 'rejected' in the past. Now I'm with a girl who is far hotter physically and better on the inside than all those girls who have 'rejected' me. And I know they are missing out, complaining about why they are single.

I highly advise you to research the 'red pill' philosophy. It has changed lives for the better including mine.

[socksguy]

No. Move on. There's flirty pursuit. And then there's chasing. I refuse to chase. I've been told that she was testing me, playing hard to get, etc... I'm not into games that I haven't been told I'm playing or even the rules for them. She doesn't respect you enough for that... cut ties and walk away.

[ItsASecret26]

Well it really depends on why she’s ignoring you, but if you really want to talk to her and miss her or whatever then yeah put in effort once or twice but if she still ignores you cut her off it’s not worth it, it’s obvious she doesn’t want to talk, if you’ve already tried to talk to her a lot already and she has ignored you then don’t even bother trying again. Just cut her off and move on and out effort into some one who will return the same energy that you’re giving to them! Good luck.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I wouldn't give anyone the time of day who frequently ignored me, especially if it was an ongoing thing and not something out of the blue that was out of character for that person (in which case, I'd ask what was wrong). That's a huge sign of someone not being interested in you, even as a person (I've even had so-called "friends" ignore me except for when they needed something from me, and that really grinds my gears, so I just forgot about them).

[ManOnFire]

I think the more important question you should be asking yourself is: why should you be even thinking about putting effort into talking to a girl who's been ignoring you? Why would you want to spend time trying with a girl who is either ignoring you or not interested?

Unless this is someone you knew and she was talking before?

[MyHonest2Cents]

If she isn't showing any signs of interest then she clearly not interested in you. If she is, she would have.

You can't make her. Life isn't like in the movies.

That's the case, why would you want to spend time with a person that doesn't want to spend time with you?

You ideally want to give your effort to someone who wants you.

Keep chasing, and you will just keep pushing her away.

[SnowyOwl]

Whatever your background is with this person, I'd say no. Don't give your time to someone who doesn't value it. If you think you'll have trouble moving on from this person, just focus on yourself. Enhance those skills you always wanted to, take on that hobbie you always had in the back of your mind. Thats a way better use of your time. AND you'll be happier (:

[cc-catlady]

Yes, keep showing effort only if she's ignoring you for good reasons being busy with work, handling a tragedy or just being shy. Do enough effort to let her feel comfortable to be who she truly is around you.

[prettyboyjones]

No. If she's actually ignoring you, feed her to the orphans. She ain't worth messin with. Act likenshe dont even exist. Im not saying be mean. Im just saying forget her. If you have to deal w her treat her like any stranger off the street.

[jshm2]

Unless she owes you money, or you want revenge for something valid. Let that headache be someone else's problem.

Plenty more tasty dishes out there.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Dude can you guess who I ignore?

I'll put it like this, if some chick is trying to talk to me or bug me and I'm ignoring her... I probably don't even want her around.

[princessde]

You never know what she is going through. Ask your friend to check on her. And once you get to know through your friend as to what's wrong with her. Then text or call her. And this my boyfriend did to me. He also told his mum and his mum called me and also texted me

[samuel665]

No, you shouldn’t if you have been pursuing her more and text her much. I think it’s time for you to walk away instead of begging her. And I’m sure there would be no way that she didn’t read your messages... or she might need time so give her a bit space

[DressedtoKill]

Nope. Girls that like you don't ignore you. They try to get close to you and flirt with you for fear of missing out. Heck, they even go so far as to treat you, paying for your drinks/meal etc.

Dating isn't anywhere near as one sided as most guys think it is once they learn how to create value to those they meet and can attract girls properly. Learn to be funny and spontaneous, be able to create positive emotions rather than bore a chick, and you'll find they won't run away from you.

[Liam_Hayden]

No. Cast a wide net. Put in as little effort as possible till some girl bites. Then put forth enough effort to see if she might be compatible enough. If not, repeat. Do not expend effort and energy on a girl who is disinterested.

[Slartybartfast]

Should I give my paycheck to the guy who let's his dog crap on my lawn?

Seriously, don't humiliate yourself like that.

[Browneye57]

Tell us why you would want to do that. If she had any interest she would show it.
Why don't you go after one that IS interested? What are we missing here?

[321betterdays]

If you don't know why she's ignoring you then yes, otherwise who knows she could have changed during covid or she might not care about you