Well the thing is I have done nothing to these women and most of them hate me
Yeah I just get a strong vibe most of these women strongly dislike me
It might be your own negative self talk and not facts or maybe they dislike you because they are responding to your belief and expectation that they do not like you - people treat you the way you expect them to treat you unless they are racist or attracted to you or scared of you
But why hate someone you don’t know
How do you know they are?
It just seems like it I notice women are extremely cold around me this has nothing to do with being interested or even being friends. I’m very shy and I can feel it it’s like a feeling if I don’t want you here
Well dude, that's just you feeling it not what's actually going on; that's pretty much paranoia
Well no women ever talk to me doesn’t that confirm it
Not even a little bit, the fact that you state "I’m very shy" is why nobody talks to you, because they don't see a need too because you're basically invisible; it's not even close to hate and it's actually all on you.
Can shyness make women uncomfortable
Extremely uncomfortable yeah; it's not just women either. It still doesn't mean they hate you though.
So what does it mean
Hold up, I am confused here. Do you genuinely not see what you have to do to correct this issue you have caused for yourself? It's literally just the polar opposite of what you have been talking about.
No I don’t see it like not good at this stuff what do I need to do
Okay... fair enough.First off you need to stop assuming that women hate you just because they won't talk to you; you're extremely shy and, as I said before, you're basically making yourself appear as invisible -- you're ignored NOT hated. Shyness is not so easily overcome but you do need to start addressing it and pretty damn soon.
So if they make eye contact and intentionally avoid me that’s like dislike or hatred
No, that's just them moving around you and can be explained away a dozen different ways
Yeah I have naturally always assumed that was hatred like it makes me feel bad when women don’t want to be around me
Yeah I got that, but it really isn't that at all
So how do I make women comfortable around me
You need to work your shyness, it's more than just eye contact; it's posture, presence, conduct, how long or intensely you look at someone. It's really a job for a professional to tell you how to proceed.
So women can tell when something is off
Not just women, just about anyone can tell when someone is acting "off"
Yeah it makes me feel like shit and not want to leave my apartment
When you're wrapped up in such strongly perceived false negativity then it makes sense that you wouldn't leave.
Yeah it’s worse when I see these same women being friendly to other guys
Yeah but have you ever taken the time to notice how the guys behave?
Well they aren’t shy
It's been said many times before -- emulation is the key
Well I can try but I definitely will stand out not in a good way
At first, but do it long enough and it'll become the new normal
What if I said that wasn’t the only thing going on
Then you'd need to elaborate
What about if I’m on the autism spectrum
Doesn't matter all that much, you're clearly high functioning so you are still more than capable of learning how to properly act around women
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