When a female friend who recently broke up says this does that mean she wants something?

Question

Before we were set to hang out and get icecream. She mentioned that she just showered and shaved. Before that she was talking about really wanting a hug and cuddle. How ugly and worthless she felt so I told her that she was still very pretty.
About an hour before we met she starts talking about what she likes in a guy and his look.
I kinda got the feeling she wanted me to try and look that way for her, well still does. I brought 2 of our friends and we hung out and had fun. So nothing funny happened.

Though I get the feeling she wanted something more.

Answer 1

HypocriteJack

Xper 1

You are an idiot. Have sex with her and be her rebound, since you care about her. I read you don't want Friends with benefits but you have to understand she has physical needs. Why would she mention she shaved randomly to you. She might be lonely and needs to have meaningless sex and you could have had that on your first date, and you brought two people with you? You were about to get lucky you dog and instead you blew it with your stupid feminine thoughts. And pls don't even try to tell me you never thought of having sex with her. Men are dogs and you blew the chance of banging her and at the same time depriving her of something meaningless. Dumbass🤦‍♂️

Answer 2

TheDarkReunion

Xper 3

Maybe? Could be that she's looking for a new relationship to get rid of the pain of the old one. Leave it be and maybe it'll pass. I don't have good advice about this it's all pretty awkward when someone likes you but you don't have feelings for them

CuriousOverThinker

29 d
It is but I think it's more I'm being good to her. Which is not something she gets often from her bad relationships.
In time she will just be a friend again. Till then I won't be alone with her. I care to much to hurt her like that.
BaronLaCroix

27 d
OMG - you are a confused tangle of Freudian stereotypes. Firstly, you have no idea what she needs - sexually or relationship-wise. Being friends with a woman starts by learning not to man-splain their distinctly different path through the world. You talk, you listen, you'll get great benefits. And if a female friend needs some sex from you so she doesn't randomly hook up with one of your douche bag friends, then by golly you put on your big boy jock strap and beat the breaks off that kitty kat. She's got female friends to help her work through her emotional journey- past and future. Your role as a Male is to help her embrace the right here and now. Which means you need to get over your Madonna-Whore hang up and realize that maybe some friends with benefits sex would energize your masculinity and make you more attractive to that girl of your dreams. Trust me, the over thinking, dime store psychoanalysis you've shared here is a real turn off for any woman. Women turn to brothers, fathers, and Male friends for encouragement to get outside their heads and experience the now. She needs that. If you don't, won't or can't step up, she'll get what she needs somewhere else. And you will miss a chance to let her give you something that you so obviously need. Ever read Hamlet. You can call it thinking but your audience recognizes it as your fear and self doubt. Her calling you to action has filled you with a terror that makes you want to refuse the call and stay in what you think is a safe space. You're no different than all the heroes who have come before you. You're next move is to answer the call and begin the adventure - not knowing how it will end - but committed to participating with all that is best in you. Cowboy up. And, if you don't she'll give it up to one of your douch bag friends and then you'll have to sit and listen to her talk about that train wreck. Oh - I already said that.
TheDarkReunion

27 d
uh, what? he said he doesn't like her in that way. I don't know what she needs but it's not healthy to jump into a new relationship right after a breakup. if you don't want to have sex... don't. you don't owe anyone
i don't think you know what a madonna whore complex is or you've vastly misunderstood. I'm not talking about anything sexual here even though it is involved. She's looking for emotional relief, not sexual! you do not understand women at all!
everyone likes my psychoanalysis :-( I've been told it's very accurate </3 so mean. my girlfriend likes it a lot. she says it's something she really likes about me. </333
I hate freud anyway. he was an idiot and very incorrect about a lot of things. he got some things right but he was blinded by his own bias. I like to take bits from a lot of different theories and my own observations (because I am a genius). I specifically like CBT, it's very useful for people with and without debilitating mental illness. do some research and not on a guy from the 1800s who wanted to fuck his mom! there's been so much research in the past 100+ years, what a surprise! cheers!

Answer 3

CuriousOverThinker

It is but I think it's more I'm being good to her. Which is not something she gets often from her bad relationships.
In time she will just be a friend again. Till then I won't be alone with her. I care to much to hurt her like that.

Answer 4

BaronLaCroix

OMG - you are a confused tangle of Freudian stereotypes. Firstly, you have no idea what she needs - sexually or relationship-wise. Being friends with a woman starts by learning not to man-splain their distinctly different path through the world. You talk, you listen, you'll get great benefits. And if a female friend needs some sex from you so she doesn't randomly hook up with one of your douche bag friends, then by golly you put on your big boy jock strap and beat the breaks off that kitty kat. She's got female friends to help her work through her emotional journey- past and future. Your role as a Male is to help her embrace the right here and now. Which means you need to get over your Madonna-Whore hang up and realize that maybe some friends with benefits sex would energize your masculinity and make you more attractive to that girl of your dreams. Trust me, the over thinking, dime store psychoanalysis you've shared here is a real turn off for any woman. Women turn to brothers, fathers, and Male friends for encouragement to get outside their heads and experience the now. She needs that. If you don't, won't or can't step up, she'll get what she needs somewhere else. And you will miss a chance to let her give you something that you so obviously need. Ever read Hamlet. You can call it thinking but your audience recognizes it as your fear and self doubt. Her calling you to action has filled you with a terror that makes you want to refuse the call and stay in what you think is a safe space. You're no different than all the heroes who have come before you. You're next move is to answer the call and begin the adventure - not knowing how it will end - but committed to participating with all that is best in you. Cowboy up. And, if you don't she'll give it up to one of your douch bag friends and then you'll have to sit and listen to her talk about that train wreck. Oh - I already said that.

Answer 5

TheDarkReunion

uh, what? he said he doesn't like her in that way. I don't know what she needs but it's not healthy to jump into a new relationship right after a breakup. if you don't want to have sex... don't. you don't owe anyone
i don't think you know what a madonna whore complex is or you've vastly misunderstood. I'm not talking about anything sexual here even though it is involved. She's looking for emotional relief, not sexual! you do not understand women at all!
everyone likes my psychoanalysis :-( I've been told it's very accurate </3 so mean. my girlfriend likes it a lot. she says it's something she really likes about me. </333
I hate freud anyway. he was an idiot and very incorrect about a lot of things. he got some things right but he was blinded by his own bias. I like to take bits from a lot of different theories and my own observations (because I am a genius). I specifically like CBT, it's very useful for people with and without debilitating mental illness. do some research and not on a guy from the 1800s who wanted to fuck his mom! there's been so much research in the past 100+ years, what a surprise! cheers!

Answer 6

Iron_Man | 2.7K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

Why would you bring two friends on the first Time date?

CuriousOverThinker

29 d
It was a hang out not a date.

Answer 7

CuriousOverThinker

It was a hang out not a date.

Answer 8

Gwenhwyfar | 231 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Ask her out and see

CuriousOverThinker

29 d
The problem is I like her but not like that. I'm painfully single but I know we are not meant to be more then friends.
I don't want to do friends with benefits. She needs to heal and move on and that won't help.
Gwenhwyfar

28 d
She probably likes you likes you. You need to be straight with her.

Answer 9

CuriousOverThinker

The problem is I like her but not like that. I'm painfully single but I know we are not meant to be more then friends.
I don't want to do friends with benefits. She needs to heal and move on and that won't help.

Answer 10

Gwenhwyfar

She probably likes you likes you. You need to be straight with her.

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