What does it mean when you have to plead with a girl to hang out and she still won’t hang out?

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Answer 1

MissDawn7961 | 497 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

it means that she is not interested in you and to find some other woman worthy of your interest in her

Asker

22 d
She keeps texting me so does that mean anything?

Answer 2

Asker

She keeps texting me so does that mean anything?

Answer 3

Anonymous

Plead? In what way? Maybe she is interested in you but has some stuff going on that she needs to deal with first. People who haven’t lived it won't understand it but from my own experience this can be a genuine issue.

Asker

21 d
Two excuses is understandable but more than that clearly she is avoiding it. She doesn’t want to do it but won’t be honest. I guess I have to take the hint. Nobody is that busy
Opinion Owner

21 d
Well if you’re sure. Yep.
Asker

21 d
Let me ask you if you cared about someone or was interested in them would you avoid them for years?
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Opinion Owner

21 d
Depends on the situation. Are you both king distance working schedules that rarely align? Are you local and able to easily meet up etc? Too many variables to answer in such little context.
Opinion Owner

21 d
*long
Asker

21 d
We both live in the same city not too far from each other. We can make it work.
Opinion Owner

21 d
Then unless she’s explaining why I’d move on. Can still talk as friends if you want but don’t put your life on hold for her.
Asker

21 d
She is avoiding it because I like her
Opinion Owner

21 d
Either she has commitment issues but values your friendship or she just likes the attention.
Asker

21 d
I know I’m being annoying asking too many questions but I’m guessing she doesn’t want to lead me on which is ridiculous.
Opinion Owner

21 d
I’ve no idea since I don’t know enough about your situation. You have the best guy instincts on this one, so go with that! What does your guy tell you? Not fear, your gut. And if it’s really split 50/50 without any protective delusions going on then she’s likely just as confused.
Opinion Owner

21 d
Gut instincts not guy
Asker

21 d
My gut tells me she is just bored and likes the attention which is why I had to address this with her. I feel she isn’t interested in anything but keeps me hooked with a occasional text for her own interest. She takes advantage of the fact I like her. She can’t be that naive. She doesn’t want to be friends because you don’t treat your friends like this.
Opinion Owner

21 d
What do you mean naive? Oh believe me people can be! Women always complain about how dense guys can be. If you’re not communicating clearly in any kind of relationship you’re ALWAYS going to run into these kinds of issues. Have you SPECIFICALLY told her you like her? If not I suggest you do so you can get the clear answers you need from her. Playing guessing games is just a ridiculous waste of time. She could be equally frustrated with you for all I know. Just put your big boy pants on and speak clearly. At least then one way or the other you’ll actually know.
Asker

21 d
I told her I liked her directly and she never responded. She just started acting weird which told me everything
Opinion Owner

21 d
So then why are you asking us if it told you everything?
Asker

21 d
Obviously I don’t have all the answers. It told me everything in regards to why she was acting this way.
Opinion Owner

21 d
So then stop dwelling on it and do what you need to do.
Asker

21 d
If it was that Easy I wouldn’t be asking questions on here constantly.
Opinion Owner

21 d
You’re so confusing. You say she’s told you everything you need to know. Then say you don’t know. You’ve lost me. Stop wishing, and just be honest about the whole thing as best you can be and go from there. Time will reveal all. Open yourself up to meeting others too.
Asker

21 d
Okay thanks

Answer 4

Asker

Two excuses is understandable but more than that clearly she is avoiding it. She doesn’t want to do it but won’t be honest. I guess I have to take the hint. Nobody is that busy

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Well if you’re sure. Yep.

Answer 6

Asker

Let me ask you if you cared about someone or was interested in them would you avoid them for years?

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

Depends on the situation. Are you both king distance working schedules that rarely align? Are you local and able to easily meet up etc? Too many variables to answer in such little context.

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

*long

Answer 9

Asker

We both live in the same city not too far from each other. We can make it work.

Answer 10

Opinion Owner

Then unless she’s explaining why I’d move on. Can still talk as friends if you want but don’t put your life on hold for her.

Answer 11

Asker

She is avoiding it because I like her

Answer 12

Opinion Owner

Either she has commitment issues but values your friendship or she just likes the attention.

Answer 13

Asker

I know I’m being annoying asking too many questions but I’m guessing she doesn’t want to lead me on which is ridiculous.

Answer 14

Opinion Owner

I’ve no idea since I don’t know enough about your situation. You have the best guy instincts on this one, so go with that! What does your guy tell you? Not fear, your gut. And if it’s really split 50/50 without any protective delusions going on then she’s likely just as confused.

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

Gut instincts not guy

Answer 16

Asker

My gut tells me she is just bored and likes the attention which is why I had to address this with her. I feel she isn’t interested in anything but keeps me hooked with a occasional text for her own interest. She takes advantage of the fact I like her. She can’t be that naive. She doesn’t want to be friends because you don’t treat your friends like this.

Answer 17

Opinion Owner

What do you mean naive? Oh believe me people can be! Women always complain about how dense guys can be. If you’re not communicating clearly in any kind of relationship you’re ALWAYS going to run into these kinds of issues. Have you SPECIFICALLY told her you like her? If not I suggest you do so you can get the clear answers you need from her. Playing guessing games is just a ridiculous waste of time. She could be equally frustrated with you for all I know. Just put your big boy pants on and speak clearly. At least then one way or the other you’ll actually know.

Answer 18

Asker

I told her I liked her directly and she never responded. She just started acting weird which told me everything

Answer 19

Opinion Owner

So then why are you asking us if it told you everything?

Answer 20

Asker

Obviously I don’t have all the answers. It told me everything in regards to why she was acting this way.

Answer 21

Opinion Owner

So then stop dwelling on it and do what you need to do.

Answer 22

Asker

If it was that Easy I wouldn’t be asking questions on here constantly.

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

You’re so confusing. You say she’s told you everything you need to know. Then say you don’t know. You’ve lost me. Stop wishing, and just be honest about the whole thing as best you can be and go from there. Time will reveal all. Open yourself up to meeting others too.

Answer 24

Asker

Okay thanks

Answer 25

Anonymous

it means your about to be accused of rape soon, back off and find a girl that actually wants your dick

Answer 26

ItsTheNephilim | 471 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

It means that you have no self respect and she is not worth keeping.

Asker

22 d
I definitely have no self respect. She keeps texting me

Answer 27

Asker

I definitely have no self respect. She keeps texting me

Answer 28

joeldalton

Xper 6

It means you're a bitch. Never plead with anyone to hang out with you.

Asker

21 d
She text me and I just try to make plans
joeldalton

21 d
don't. She's not interested.
Asker

21 d
So why is she texting me?
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joeldalton

21 d
Because she probably fucked some guy then he ghosted her, so she's feeling insecure, lonely, and rejected. She knows you'll stroke her ego
Asker

21 d
Okay sounds about right. I think it is wrong to ghost her as she is a friend but I tried to see why she does this and I failed
joeldalton

21 d
You don't have to ghost. Just tell her that you've tried hanging out with her and she keeps refusing, so it doesn't seem like the relationship is working out for you.

Answer 29

Asker

She text me and I just try to make plans

Answer 30

joeldalton

don't. She's not interested.

Answer 31

Asker

So why is she texting me?

Answer 32

joeldalton

Because she probably fucked some guy then he ghosted her, so she's feeling insecure, lonely, and rejected. She knows you'll stroke her ego

Answer 33

Asker

Okay sounds about right. I think it is wrong to ghost her as she is a friend but I tried to see why she does this and I failed

Answer 34

joeldalton

You don't have to ghost. Just tell her that you've tried hanging out with her and she keeps refusing, so it doesn't seem like the relationship is working out for you.

Answer 35

On_the_other_hand | 166 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

She's just not that into you.

Asker

22 d
Even if it’s a female friend?
On_the_other_hand

22 d
Yes?
Asker

22 d
Seems like a person not worth keeping in contact with
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On_the_other_hand

22 d
Definitely
Asker

22 d
I don’t know if I should just ghost her?

Answer 36

Asker

Even if it’s a female friend?

Answer 37

On_the_other_hand

Yes?

Answer 38

Asker

Seems like a person not worth keeping in contact with

Answer 39

On_the_other_hand

Definitely

Answer 40

Asker

I don’t know if I should just ghost her?

Answer 41

potatoiswhoiam | 178 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

She's not interested.

Asker

22 d
Even if it’s a female friend?
potatoiswhoiam

22 d
She's just not interested to spend time with you. You can't force it.
Asker

22 d
I’m not trying to force anything. I’m just trying to figure out why.

Answer 42

Asker

Even if it’s a female friend?

Answer 43

potatoiswhoiam

She's just not interested to spend time with you. You can't force it.

Answer 44

Asker

I’m not trying to force anything. I’m just trying to figure out why.

Answer 45

Lizzzzz288283

Xper 5

Sounds like she isn’t interested

Lizzzzz288283

22 d
Or she’s just super unnaturally busy
Asker

22 d
Even if it’s a female friend?
Asker

22 d
Nobody is that busy
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Lizzzzz288283

22 d
Yeah it sounds like she isn’t interested even if she’s just a friend
Asker

22 d
What you think I should do?
Lizzzzz288283

22 d
Just be upfront. Ask her if she’s still interested in being friends with you or if you did something to hurt her feelings. You may have hurt her feelings without even realizing it. A lot of times we bottle stuff up that people do to us and wait for the other person to ask us what’s wrong
Asker

22 d
This has always been the issue. She won’t hang out because I like her and she was like this before I said anything. She probably sensed it. That didn’t stop her from engaging with me
Lizzzzz288283

22 d
So you like her more than just being her friend? That may be the issue. She may not like you in that way, and just want to be friends. This may be a way that she’s trying to not hurt your feelings
Asker

22 d
I understand that but what kind of friendship is this? My thing is she never treated me as a real friend so why should I do the same?

Answer 46

Lizzzzz288283

Or she’s just super unnaturally busy

Answer 47

Asker

Even if it’s a female friend?

Answer 48

Asker

Nobody is that busy

Answer 49

Lizzzzz288283

Yeah it sounds like she isn’t interested even if she’s just a friend

Answer 50

Asker

What you think I should do?

Answer 51

Lizzzzz288283

Just be upfront. Ask her if she’s still interested in being friends with you or if you did something to hurt her feelings. You may have hurt her feelings without even realizing it. A lot of times we bottle stuff up that people do to us and wait for the other person to ask us what’s wrong

Answer 52

Asker

This has always been the issue. She won’t hang out because I like her and she was like this before I said anything. She probably sensed it. That didn’t stop her from engaging with me

Answer 53

Lizzzzz288283

So you like her more than just being her friend? That may be the issue. She may not like you in that way, and just want to be friends. This may be a way that she’s trying to not hurt your feelings

Answer 54

Asker

I understand that but what kind of friendship is this? My thing is she never treated me as a real friend so why should I do the same?

Answer 55

Jamie05rhs | 225 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

It means she ain't that into you, bro.

Answer 56

In_Trance | 725 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

it means she's not interested... wtf

Asker

22 d
So why keep texting me if she isn’t interested in the bare minimum?
In_Trance

22 d
because she's bored and you're available
Asker

22 d
Does that explain the occasional texting instead of her being consistent?
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In_Trance

22 d
of course it does
Asker

22 d
It’s crazy that some girls do this but I didn’t know they love attention that much

Answer 57

Asker

So why keep texting me if she isn’t interested in the bare minimum?

Answer 58

In_Trance

because she's bored and you're available

Answer 59

Asker

Does that explain the occasional texting instead of her being consistent?

Answer 60

In_Trance

of course it does

Answer 61

Asker

It’s crazy that some girls do this but I didn’t know they love attention that much

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