She keeps texting me so does that mean anything?
Two excuses is understandable but more than that clearly she is avoiding it. She doesn’t want to do it but won’t be honest. I guess I have to take the hint. Nobody is that busy
Well if you’re sure. Yep.
Let me ask you if you cared about someone or was interested in them would you avoid them for years?
Depends on the situation. Are you both king distance working schedules that rarely align? Are you local and able to easily meet up etc? Too many variables to answer in such little context.
We both live in the same city not too far from each other. We can make it work.
Then unless she’s explaining why I’d move on. Can still talk as friends if you want but don’t put your life on hold for her.
She is avoiding it because I like her
Either she has commitment issues but values your friendship or she just likes the attention.
I know I’m being annoying asking too many questions but I’m guessing she doesn’t want to lead me on which is ridiculous.
I’ve no idea since I don’t know enough about your situation. You have the best guy instincts on this one, so go with that! What does your guy tell you? Not fear, your gut. And if it’s really split 50/50 without any protective delusions going on then she’s likely just as confused.
Gut instincts not guy
My gut tells me she is just bored and likes the attention which is why I had to address this with her. I feel she isn’t interested in anything but keeps me hooked with a occasional text for her own interest. She takes advantage of the fact I like her. She can’t be that naive. She doesn’t want to be friends because you don’t treat your friends like this.
What do you mean naive? Oh believe me people can be! Women always complain about how dense guys can be. If you’re not communicating clearly in any kind of relationship you’re ALWAYS going to run into these kinds of issues. Have you SPECIFICALLY told her you like her? If not I suggest you do so you can get the clear answers you need from her. Playing guessing games is just a ridiculous waste of time. She could be equally frustrated with you for all I know. Just put your big boy pants on and speak clearly. At least then one way or the other you’ll actually know.
I told her I liked her directly and she never responded. She just started acting weird which told me everything
So then why are you asking us if it told you everything?
Obviously I don’t have all the answers. It told me everything in regards to why she was acting this way.
So then stop dwelling on it and do what you need to do.
If it was that Easy I wouldn’t be asking questions on here constantly.
You’re so confusing. You say she’s told you everything you need to know. Then say you don’t know. You’ve lost me. Stop wishing, and just be honest about the whole thing as best you can be and go from there. Time will reveal all. Open yourself up to meeting others too.
I definitely have no self respect. She keeps texting me
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She text me and I just try to make plans
don't. She's not interested.
So why is she texting me?
Because she probably fucked some guy then he ghosted her, so she's feeling insecure, lonely, and rejected. She knows you'll stroke her ego
Okay sounds about right. I think it is wrong to ghost her as she is a friend but I tried to see why she does this and I failed
You don't have to ghost. Just tell her that you've tried hanging out with her and she keeps refusing, so it doesn't seem like the relationship is working out for you.
Even if it’s a female friend?
Seems like a person not worth keeping in contact with
I don’t know if I should just ghost her?
She's just not interested to spend time with you. You can't force it.
I’m not trying to force anything. I’m just trying to figure out why.
Or she’s just super unnaturally busy
Nobody is that busy
Yeah it sounds like she isn’t interested even if she’s just a friend
What you think I should do?
Just be upfront. Ask her if she’s still interested in being friends with you or if you did something to hurt her feelings. You may have hurt her feelings without even realizing it. A lot of times we bottle stuff up that people do to us and wait for the other person to ask us what’s wrong
This has always been the issue. She won’t hang out because I like her and she was like this before I said anything. She probably sensed it. That didn’t stop her from engaging with me
So you like her more than just being her friend? That may be the issue. She may not like you in that way, and just want to be friends. This may be a way that she’s trying to not hurt your feelings
I understand that but what kind of friendship is this? My thing is she never treated me as a real friend so why should I do the same?
So why keep texting me if she isn’t interested in the bare minimum?
because she's bored and you're available
Does that explain the occasional texting instead of her being consistent?
of course it does
It’s crazy that some girls do this but I didn’t know they love attention that much