First of all she is not the one to be making that judgment. Sounds like she just want to see her friend set up with somebody. Don't feed into it. Because sadly a lot of people just like to set you up because they can't respect the fact that the other person made not have a problem being single. Sadly as a person that's always been single I know how that goes. The tendency of uncomfortable knowing that you can live your life without somebody else. Now it's a friend that actually has a desire to get to know somebody, then that is her personal choice. She has to be the one to desire to make the effort. And this is coming from somebody who used to be considered shy. If he doesn't, again it's because she don't know you, she doesn't trust the intent, and is uncertain. Don't hold it against the girl in question.
I see what you're saying and really didn't want to force anything that did not feel comfortable. So would prefer just to get to know her before anything anyway. Besides I had originally shown an interest in this person before my friend had brought her up so I don't feel like I am trying to force something that feels unnatural I am just unsure how best to get to know someone that is fairly guarded.
And as I ask people. You're taking interest in somebody you don't really know on that level. You see how you're already getting your expectations disappointed? Don't just take interest in somebody just because they look attractive or whatever. You have to get to know them. Because now you're getting to know her habits and you already don't like it. It's going to seriously hurt that relationship. As a god person myself free of hard for a reason. If we don't want you there, you won't be there. It's best that you respect that.
Guarded person myself, we are guarded for a reason*That's why I said if you don't have no logical or rational reason for what you're doing, it is best you drop it now. She doesn't know you, and she doesn't trust you. That is all you need to know. So if you already getting frustrated with that, that's the key sign in a red flag that you best to call it quits immediately.
I haven't said anywhere I am disappointed or making expectations, just going off the info our mutual friend has said, I have been told this person is shy getting to know anyone new. You said "you have to get to know them" that was literally my whole question, how...
It's not about "how". It's a simple fact of does she want to get to know you are not. If she does not want to get to know you didn't you're wasting your time. Just don't push the issue. She will make a decision when she is ready.
It's not that she shy, she's extremely guarded which means she's very much aware of what it is that she's doing. And her boundaries are basically clear.
From what the mutual friend has said
Don't listen to them and go with the flow
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