Girls, is being sexy and attractive to allure men or for yourself?

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There’s one thing I don’t understand. Why is it that girls can find a guy sexy wearing a suit at a wedding or just wearing Nikes, some joggers, and a white tshirt. But a girl will wear the skimpiest outfits and show their cleavage and display it on social media? Girls aren’t dumb y’all know guys think with their dicks, y’all know what gets guys to check. Therefore why act coy and then say I only dress like that for myself. I mean if I had my way I’d wear Classic Jordan 1s, joggers, a vintage tshirt and that may not attract any girl but yet it’s my style. This is an important part I want girls to answer; what happens if there is a change in the way women dress where it shows less skin would you be in favour of that or would you consider that oppressive, think it carefully because it’s not like I want the freedom to walk around in my boxers at the mall where they look like booty shorts :-s

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bobalife | 100 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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Personally it is mainly for me lol. I love dressing up and a fashionsta when I’m out. It makes me feel good and confident. I’m just being myself with the different styles I like to wear out and own. I also have a thang for crops recently... it might confused others into thinking I’m tryna be super sexy to impress others... when I just wanna feel cute or sexy for myself haha.

Low key for men incase I ever run into a cute guy and we start talking lol - if I was crushing on someone - Or if I was dating someone, I would want him to think I’m pretty, classy, or sexy lol.

But for other girls, most girls esp for IG models and girls that are generally making it obvious with revealing clothes of cleavage or ass... is just for attention, validation, followers, boosting ego, or insecurity. I also think most guys who encourage it makes these girls think they have to be this way in order to feel a certain way and think they’re above other girls 🤷🏼‍♀️

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But I’ve talked to girls like that on IG and I tell them yo you don’t have to keep impressing guy, focus on yourself like getting a masters degree or something. Otherwise girls can’t get mad if all they see in her is a hot body and a pretty face.

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Asker

But I’ve talked to girls like that on IG and I tell them yo you don’t have to keep impressing guy, focus on yourself like getting a masters degree or something. Otherwise girls can’t get mad if all they see in her is a hot body and a pretty face.

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Anonymous

Most girls that dress the way you're describing - skimpy, etc. - do it "for themselves" to boost their ego. Nothing more, nothing less. They like the attention these get-ups earn them. It's a reflection of low self-confidence & low self-esteem.

I'm very self-confident with a lot of self-esteem in contrast. I've never dressed skimpy in my life. I wear very fashionable clothes. But because I am naturally attractive (no makeup) and have a friendly outgoing personality I still gain attention from men (usually well off/successful men). I am dressing like this for myself not to attract attention.

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Well that’s good then do you, without exposing yourself. I agree with you.

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Asker

Well that’s good then do you, without exposing yourself. I agree with you.

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youcancallmealizah

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Well, I totally agree with you. I myself beijn g a girl do this because people are looking. If someone wants to do for themselves it can happen alone within the corners of the room.

Now girls on this topic might oppose me but sisters need to think that dressing too openly and looking extremely beautiful can ruin a two people relationship.

Whether it be yours that your partner becomes possessive.

Whether it be others, because other married couples... Husband will look at you and wish for you instead of their wife.

So thinking for others matters.

Be yourself. Not only dress even the voice and walk leads wrong way.

#myopinion

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youcancallmealizah

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Being a girl... Doing this because you want people to look... Sorry fast typing.. error*

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youcancallmealizah

Being a girl... Doing this because you want people to look... Sorry fast typing.. error*

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FarrierMaiden

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Women usually do that as a sturdy symbol to one up other women. If they have lots of men after them, they are “better” or at least think they are.
Women don’t always dress for themselves- it’s for other people but not always exclusively men.

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Yes but who do you think had the ideas of pushing sexuality and sexualization in movies, magazines, car shows, sporting events, and etc... it was men. Men were behind the marketing of that and then it got normalized by women and girls in society. So when girls say “I don’t do it for me “ that’s bullshit I’m sorry, because created that sexual realm. I’m not saying there’s something wrong with girls or women who want to feel pretty and sexy. But I know girls who are legit flirting with hundreds of dudes on social media. Whatever happened to being happy with 1 guy and later establishing a life at some point. Many guys and many girls seem immature nowadays and chase the wrong things in life.
Asker

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I meant to say when a girl says “she does it for herself and not for guys”*
FarrierMaiden

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I totally agree! It was also men who used to tell women it’s un-lady like to dress like a slut or dress skimpy at all and used to beat women for retaliating.

It has happened on both extremes.

However things have gotten more complicated now and people don’t think the same way they used to. We can’t change history but we can learn from it.

Business people profit from making movies that people want to watch. Some people have tried to make more female empowering, liberal movies but they don’t usually make it far.

Women have an instinctual desire to find the most qualified man to be their partner and they compete by trying to look as desirable as possible. Its not a new concept invented by men, as some people try to have you believe- it’s nature.

It’s kind of sad but it makes sense. There’s competition in every aspect of life. If there wasn’t- people wouldn’t have any incentive to do better or create things. (Technology and medical advancement and such- but thats getting off topic)

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Asker

Yes but who do you think had the ideas of pushing sexuality and sexualization in movies, magazines, car shows, sporting events, and etc... it was men. Men were behind the marketing of that and then it got normalized by women and girls in society. So when girls say “I don’t do it for me “ that’s bullshit I’m sorry, because created that sexual realm. I’m not saying there’s something wrong with girls or women who want to feel pretty and sexy. But I know girls who are legit flirting with hundreds of dudes on social media. Whatever happened to being happy with 1 guy and later establishing a life at some point. Many guys and many girls seem immature nowadays and chase the wrong things in life.

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Asker

I meant to say when a girl says “she does it for herself and not for guys”*

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FarrierMaiden

I totally agree! It was also men who used to tell women it’s un-lady like to dress like a slut or dress skimpy at all and used to beat women for retaliating.

It has happened on both extremes.

However things have gotten more complicated now and people don’t think the same way they used to. We can’t change history but we can learn from it.

Business people profit from making movies that people want to watch. Some people have tried to make more female empowering, liberal movies but they don’t usually make it far.

Women have an instinctual desire to find the most qualified man to be their partner and they compete by trying to look as desirable as possible. Its not a new concept invented by men, as some people try to have you believe- it’s nature.

It’s kind of sad but it makes sense. There’s competition in every aspect of life. If there wasn’t- people wouldn’t have any incentive to do better or create things. (Technology and medical advancement and such- but thats getting off topic)

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Cherokeehp | 907 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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Usually just for me or sometimes both. Sometimes I get dressed in my best clothes or lingerie and just dance around my room or take photos of myself or nudes just for me. Not even my boyfriend has seen some of them. Looking good makes me feel good. But sometimes I do want to surprise my guy and so I’ll get dolled up for him.

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Warmapplecrumble | 581 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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I don't know, I just dress comfortable. If it's sexy I don't care. As long as it's comfortable and healthy for my skin.

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jennifer_bloom | 1.8K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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I would never dress to impress - it’s degrading - he gets the same conservative outfit my pastor or parents get when he sees me

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Anonymous

Both, if you can allure men it's validation for yourself. Guys pretend like they wouldn't do it if they could.

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Okay after reading your info I'd say I'm totally up for avoiding skimpy clothes, I do this anyway and I find my natural confidence and bubbliness attracts more genuine interest than sleazy interest.
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But a guys body is not built like a woman's lol. I could never imagine a girl yelling out, "hey nice ass dude!". I can't bend over with my cleavage showing lol. I just think it's a little too much how much girls expose themselves. Yeah, I admit I am on IG and at times I will see IG models because my eyes wander and I am not proud about that and I want that to change. It may seem hypocritical on my end to post a question like this but make a statement like the IG one above. However, I genuinely mean it, if girls woke up one day and said "fuck it" why should we show off to impress guys. I would be happier if girls and women were happy with being with one man (boyfriend or husband) and let him appreciate and love her body. Not where many guys are gawking at her, for example, I think Kate Upton is beautiful but if she retired from modelling and stop used social media it would not bother me, I would say, eh good for her. One day when I meet a girl, I prefer our lives to be private, I don't want to display our affection on social media. I don't want her to wear a skimpy dress and getting tons of likes from random dudes. I'm old enough to remember that Facebook was created just to stay in touch with friends/family. Now social media has become a cesspool of so many disgusting things whether that's sexual acts, racism, hatred and etc. I think social media is toxic, once social media changes and flags/removes certain content, men and women, guys and girls will see the world differently in a positive sense, I truly believe that.
Opinion Owner

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No I get it. I'm with you on that one. I don't bother with it too much either. My ex also felt the same. Plus my job wouldn't allow it anyway.

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Opinion Owner

Okay after reading your info I'd say I'm totally up for avoiding skimpy clothes, I do this anyway and I find my natural confidence and bubbliness attracts more genuine interest than sleazy interest.

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Asker

But a guys body is not built like a woman's lol. I could never imagine a girl yelling out, "hey nice ass dude!". I can't bend over with my cleavage showing lol. I just think it's a little too much how much girls expose themselves. Yeah, I admit I am on IG and at times I will see IG models because my eyes wander and I am not proud about that and I want that to change. It may seem hypocritical on my end to post a question like this but make a statement like the IG one above. However, I genuinely mean it, if girls woke up one day and said "fuck it" why should we show off to impress guys. I would be happier if girls and women were happy with being with one man (boyfriend or husband) and let him appreciate and love her body. Not where many guys are gawking at her, for example, I think Kate Upton is beautiful but if she retired from modelling and stop used social media it would not bother me, I would say, eh good for her. One day when I meet a girl, I prefer our lives to be private, I don't want to display our affection on social media. I don't want her to wear a skimpy dress and getting tons of likes from random dudes. I'm old enough to remember that Facebook was created just to stay in touch with friends/family. Now social media has become a cesspool of so many disgusting things whether that's sexual acts, racism, hatred and etc. I think social media is toxic, once social media changes and flags/removes certain content, men and women, guys and girls will see the world differently in a positive sense, I truly believe that.

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Opinion Owner

No I get it. I'm with you on that one. I don't bother with it too much either. My ex also felt the same. Plus my job wouldn't allow it anyway.

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SexyAshh | 345 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Both. Mainly for myself though. If i felt ugly or was ugly, then id be depressed.

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this is what shocks me to, attractive girls say they feel depressed at times because they are not "pretty" enough yet get hit on by guys. I mean you know how much I've been rejected by girls? Sure it doesn't feel great but I can't let that get to me. Don't women these days feel more satisfaction knowing she was able to help a village of starving children rather then getting likes on her latest selfie.
SexyAshh

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We are women, not mother theresa
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whos saying to be mother theresa? this is what i worry about girls today because the worse is yet to come and u might not care about religion but any logical argument or a trial will look at both sides of spectrum correct? If religious prophecies came to fruition where 2/3's of the world dies from disease or war then what? You look at covid and the growing concern of future waves, another great depression and world war 3... how will girls cope with those big sociopolitical actions and thats why many are not aware or dont seem to care about the horrific worldly events thats about to happen. This is where being a good person and doing small deeds helping others can mean so much... Not about some random guy getting a boner from your IG account. Whether you like it or not, whether you agree with me or not, there will be changes and it will affect people's lives in massive ways.
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chapawapa

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I don't know ugly is in the eye of the beholder

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Asker

this is what shocks me to, attractive girls say they feel depressed at times because they are not "pretty" enough yet get hit on by guys. I mean you know how much I've been rejected by girls? Sure it doesn't feel great but I can't let that get to me. Don't women these days feel more satisfaction knowing she was able to help a village of starving children rather then getting likes on her latest selfie.

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SexyAshh

We are women, not mother theresa

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Asker

whos saying to be mother theresa? this is what i worry about girls today because the worse is yet to come and u might not care about religion but any logical argument or a trial will look at both sides of spectrum correct? If religious prophecies came to fruition where 2/3's of the world dies from disease or war then what? You look at covid and the growing concern of future waves, another great depression and world war 3... how will girls cope with those big sociopolitical actions and thats why many are not aware or dont seem to care about the horrific worldly events thats about to happen. This is where being a good person and doing small deeds helping others can mean so much... Not about some random guy getting a boner from your IG account. Whether you like it or not, whether you agree with me or not, there will be changes and it will affect people's lives in massive ways.

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chapawapa

I don't know ugly is in the eye of the beholder

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G3tAClue

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It’s to get attention due to low self esteem.

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Anonymous

I don't dress sexy or attractive so no

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bannacookies | 294 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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I'm not into either.

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Why do you think girls want to show more skin and sexualize themselves even more nowadays?
bannacookies

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Because some girls are messed up by the stupid media.
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I think there needs to major changes in this world, the world seems upside down at the moment. Honestly I’d be fine if social media didn’t exist but at the same time it’s offered important news, but I wish girls stopped using it as an outlet for attention from guys or their ego. But when times get tougher in this world I hope that wakes people up and makes people change their ways.

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Asker

Why do you think girls want to show more skin and sexualize themselves even more nowadays?

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bannacookies

Because some girls are messed up by the stupid media.

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Asker

I think there needs to major changes in this world, the world seems upside down at the moment. Honestly I’d be fine if social media didn’t exist but at the same time it’s offered important news, but I wish girls stopped using it as an outlet for attention from guys or their ego. But when times get tougher in this world I hope that wakes people up and makes people change their ways.

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