What caused you to change as a person?

[xHoneyxBeex]

A lot of things honestly. People change as they get older and experience new things. For example, I used to be very quiet, shy, and had difficulty opening up to others. My current job has really helped me to open up more and increase my ability to take on a leadership role in certain situations.

Being in my current relationship has also changed me as a person I think. He gives me unconditional love, builds me up, and is just such an amazing man. My confidence in myself has grown because of him. I no longer feel some of the insecurity in my body or how I look which used to be a huge stressor for me. Having someone who truly loves you for who you are and constantly reaffirms how they feel about you can really do wonders for self-esteem. I know that should come from within and not from another person and I did do a lot of personal work as well, but having such an uplifting person in my life certainly contributed to my positive growth too.

I am also currently in graduate school to get my Master's degree. I believe this has helped me to improve my communication skills, listening skills, and ability to engage positively with others (my degree is in clinical social work so it's all about counseling techniques, ethics, and how to work with people). I'm really happy with my life and who I am as a person right now. I have no doubt that as I get older, learn more, and experience new things that I will continue improving.

[Cynicaldreamer]

People.
I woke up and realized: not everyone is nice, my friend, or worth trusting.

Once I got out in the real world and dealt with different kinds of people, it makes you realize...people suck. Not everyone, but the majority of society does.
But you have to adapt to survive in this world.

[Jjpayne]

The real answer is, you don't. There is not some magic wand that makes you 30, 40, 50 or 100... It's 12 year old you that just gets smarter or has more experience. You are still scared as hell going through through life... You look at your kids and you ask how did 12 year old me get here? Wasn't I just that old? You think people have wise wisdom and they honestly do but it's based not on their age notch but on their 12 year old experience. To say that a 90 year old man can stay a kindergartener is true. If you don't learn anything, your age only makes your body age but your mind doesn't have to get smarter.

And it's true. You can have a 12 year old mindset in a 90 year old body so if that's true then looking at your life through a 12 year old pair of eyes is also true.

You sit back and wonder... How did 12 year old me get here?

I guess to have those moments you need to humble yourself sometimes because I think we take on roles we make for ourselves like the smart father or mother, the boss or teacher. But at the end of the day I personally think we are just all building on the knowledge base of 12 trying to keep up with the ages we are suppose to be 😂

[Gemini75]

It's an unfair question or at least one that will lead to a misleading answer. I am neither proud of the person I've become, nor would I wish my life on anyone.

What (made) me this way and I suspect everyone else, were the conditions in which we all grew up, during those time frames.

Most importantly, the years leading up to "adulthood". If no one really showed you what it meant to be an adult, you're not gonna be "changed" in a positive manner when it smacks ya in the face.

It may end up having a positive end-result but 9 outta 10, not being prepared for the shit life has to throw at ya, won't end in "happily ever after"..

If you happen to find yourself in that unfortunate position, ya just gotta discern what's most important to ya. Continuing whatever cycle it was you were born into or to make a concerted (effort) to right the numerous wrongs that lead up to that point.

Make no mistake, the ladder of the two being the far tougher choice, which is why I chose.. Option: A..

And why not a day goes by, I dont reget that decision.

[Sonorous]

With the help of maturity and many great minds on the internet, I've been able to understand humans better & know myself in a more accurate way. Pondering my views in relation to many topics has really helped me become less of an impulsively emotional person & more of an analytically calm one. But isolated self-reflection does have it's possible downsides. One of them is that it could make a person more prone to worrying.

[StylesbyDR]

I've moved every year or two since birth to my 20s due to my dad being in the Army. This in essence ruined my social life in childhood due to eventually coming to an understanding that making friends is pointless cause my friendships would be temporary. I even went to 3 different high schools throughout high school. I had a girlfriend from junior through senior year that passed away in a fire. I haven't dated someone since then.

Moving and the effects of all these experiences have made me who i am today. On top of being an empath.

[blondfrog]

I think a lot of things. For me though losing all my hair was a big wake up call. Also hitting rock bottom in other aspects of my life which I do not want to discuss. My mind set though is that I am not satisfied and still want more and always try to learn something new every day. I feel like I burn day light if I am not doing something productive or learning something new every day. I try and change a lot every year as well. So far the last 3 years I have done a good job with that. Hopefully it stays the same.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

What caused me to change is the rough life I was living, being bullied in School, coming home facing parents arguing, stuff was taken out on me and my Sister and It was sad when we were young my Mom seemed to show more love but as we got older I didn't see that love, so we resort to my Maternal Grandparents for that love we didn't have so there were some things happened with me at young adult age 21 and I hurt this girls feeling If I could take back the years I would do so and my last ex-girlfriend there was issues with me too and all of this has opened my eyes to see and this has changed me

[Hazelstar99]

I have lived in different states, met different kinds of people and also thankfully my parents had given me opportunity to live alone and experience different things in life. Also, when you're entering into different phase of life you're evolving as well.

[StephenCF]

My first serious crush ignored me for the first time just after I turned 14, and my life has not been the same since. There is such a parallel between how my life was before that day and how my life has been since that same day 💔 I’ve been ignored by the occasional girl since then also, but when it happens for the first time, it destroys your original perception of women

[Anonymous]

I was excluded from every group I wanted to belong to (other things happened as well) and the subsequent, unwilling solitude devoured me. I think I am more sensible, careful and vigilant now. I prefer getting hurt over others because I am already engulfed in depths of unknown size and they have still got a chance of finding sanctuary.

[Anonymous]

Too many things honestly. But definitely the top things is being in an abusive relationship when I was a teen, when I was an alcoholic, And my suicide attempt. Guess I kind of took it as whelp i guess I’m needed here somehow! And I’m beginning to understand why. So It’s kept me going.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Being bullied, constantly being put down for being truthful, I was very different a lot more fun loving and talkitive but once you understand the reality of people and the act they put you tend to just change

[Paul09]

I believe in learning as much as I can. And through learning, you start to view life differently. Your values can change too. You live you learn. I never stop learning. I need to learn more about myself tho lol. Knowledge is real power. I find most people are too lazy for that.

[bobbuilderyes1]

Suffering: PTSD, child abuse and figuring how to live with the damage, girlfriend's and what was wrong with them and myself separately, family not being family so having to manage life without assistance of money or relation. It's not easy being "cool", the real cool people are callused.

[Makeushiver]

My parents had both died by the time I was 13, only child also and changed HS and lived with legal guardian. That forced some growing up. Supporting myself did some more, 2 years traveling caused ab expanded view of humanity/history etc.

[Account]

Lets just say that it was a necessity. I either had to change drastically or else I would fall apart.

[mamamai]

I had some very bad things happen to me because of my innocence, and well it took it away.

i miss the light heartedness of believing most people were good. Now I’m scetical.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think when a guy prayed for me and I realized I did not need to rely on other people to complete me

[cheapshotbob]

how iw as raised and treated by family i have my own set of values and respect that i did not learn from family , there toxic

[SunnySri]

The interaction with others.
When we are kids we mostly interact with our family who mostly love us, so we are sweet.
Then when we become teenagers we meet new friends who are nice and not so nice.
And when we become adults we meet s lot of people like bosses, colleagues, strangers.
These interactions change our perspective and mould our thinking changing us as person.

[sensible27]

Knowledge that I could actually understand and 'control' things. "The conquest of nature is to be achieved through number and measure".

[Konabeana]

I don’t understand your question but the art is spectacular

[MannMitAntworten]

I can’t say I have changed. Having been always principled nearly to a point of annoying (at least for myself), it has kept me being ‘me’ this entire time.

[Paris13]

My fiance Changed me Some, hun. xx

[Nephilim000]

Either some sort of trauma or witnessing something so epic I wanted to incorporate it into my being

[Dinklex3]

Haven't changed. Just grew and matured.
Life experiences can do it.

[twoplusthree23]

Well I guess the crippling reality that everyone is gonna die and there's nothing you can do about it so just don't give a shit, and after that I realized that life is meaningless and the only meaning to me is to have fun.

[Prettysammie]

Hardship and finally changing my environment. I’ve grown up a lot in the last few years.

[douride2]

For me it was an accident that I should never have survived.

[FourDoorViper]

My first marriage absolutely destroyed me. I was in therapy for a long time learning about my past and how not to be as controlling as I found out I was being.

[GreenGold1992]

I took a very deep look inside myself and I didn't like what I saw or felt

[alance99]

I would circumstances and sometimes for a better opporturnity in life

[Anonymous]

There's this girl that I love and after hurting her so many times and taking her for granted she rejected me. Ever since then I tried to be a better person in hope that one day I could have her back again.

[w7itney]

Failure has really change in a good way.. OK it is not a good feeling to fail but it really changed my outlook on life and people and even myself

[Anonymous]

My experiences with females changed me in a negative way. The feminist cancel culture and the false victim narrative really changed who I was.

[Jltakk]

Lack of sleep, lack of money, and lack of relationships.

[JaelynnGlow]

I did it for my own self care & my own happiness. I know I'm bound to do great things in my life

[Anonymous]

I was forced to perform sexual acts when I was younger. Discovered that I actually loved it and became the slut I am today.

[COMMODOREII]

Trying to be a better person and learn from my mistakes.

[BeyondCuriosity]

Got old. Got bitter. Time wears on a person.

[WindAtMyBack]

Either change or die.

I'm still alive.

[nolabels]

I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

[Rexos]

Getting less stupid as I mature.

[BobbyC65]

the knowledge of watching others.

[DeviloftheValleys]

mostly trauma.

crisis neccessitates change.

[lildolphin]

a lot to much to go into and it's really to heavy

[Cherokeehp]

Sadness mostly.

[Shezadi]

Exposure

[Gwenhwyfar]

Falling in love

[Anonymous]

school bullies, girls (scammers) I loved

[Anonymous]

Being hated because i am a man.

[JosyJosy]

Bad experiences

[GothRose2]

Bad decisions..

[LonewolfMeme]

Pain.

[Anonymous]

Constant suffering

[AlwaysBelieving]

Experience

[jahaims]

Suffering

[haooy]

Heart break.

[iFarted]

Life experiences

[mrgspoter]

Time