But what does that have to do with a friend feeling insecure around a friend?Lol who hurt you? Nope. This is actually a serious question. I'm not trying to feed into my ego or else I would of not asked this questions unknown.
No one specifically, acknowledging flaws in society doesn't imply I have specific trauma regarding the matter. And, given that you're a friend, it doesn't render you incapable of being judgmental over someone's appearance. Women face judgment even from their own female family members. My own mother has made weird and off-handed comments about my body - many women experience the same. Sorry if it triggered you or whatever.
Not triggered at all. by the wayHow can I remedy this problem? It seems like I'm the common denominator. At first I thought it was one girl but it's now almost 8. Some it affects more. They want me around to make them laugh. But when I'm laughing with someone else anf they don't know why we are laughing They instantly go into insecure mode. 1 close friend whom I flirt with/hold hands/cuddle with told me when she hear me laughing she gets insecure. I ask why she wouldn't tell me.
I'm not "hot" I'm extremely confident anf happy in the skin I'm in. If they hear me laughing with someone they think it's about them or of they hear me laughing. They think I'm laughing at them. When in reality I'm either laughing at a text or something I'm reading. I do joke a lot and like to laugh but never at them. I may playfully tease in a flirty way but That's it.
Either it not their type or ur hot and intimidating
Either your not*
I'm not hot. I just like people feeling comfortable around me. If you want to be around me. You can't be insecure. You got to be yourself. That's all. But everyone tends to get insecure around me. I'm the common denominator
That doesn't work for me. I tried that. 1 girl told me up front that when she hear me laugh that she becomes insecure and she doesn't know why. I feel like I shouldn't have to try so hard to make them feel secure because that's the boyfriend job. I don't want them to go from high confidence to instantly low confidence when I'm around and not laughing with them. They think I'm laughing at them. I like to laugh and joke around with people. But never talk bad about them. But if you hit below the belt and I laugh and I hit below the belt we're even and both should be able to laugh it off. Cause we don't mean what we say.
I know this is abit personal but why would they think you would be talking bad about them? also have you tried reassuring them you're not laughing at them?
1 of them yea. I tried reassuring her and in the process of dojng that too. But I feel like I'm having to check in with a girlfriend everytime I'm doing that. But we are not dating just having fun.I can look at someone and know what their insecurities are. We as people tend to over compensate for our insecurities. I usually will take a girl insecurities and turn them into a positive thing. But if they get rude or try to hit below the belt then I will make them think of me when I'm not around. When I say certain jokes it will linger on their minds. Male and females. I did it once around them. These women sre attractive. I'm not attractive. I'm just highly confident. I know how to make people laugh anf I love to joke around and laugh. But as soon as I'm being me. People get insecure. Now I'm the bad guy. Doing it with the 1 close friend it's helping her open up to me more. That's how I know she was insecure and become jealous when it's another woman.I'm tired of being the bad guy. I like people being themselves around me
Does it bother you that you have to check up with the girl? Also maybe just calling them out on it might work. Just be honest and make sure they know you don't hate them and it's just something that's bothering you. I think the only way of compensating for hitting a nerve is with time. Maybe a break could help. If you genuinely feel these people don't treat you right, maybe it's time to look for new people
The one that opened up to me that she feels insecure when I laugh is the same one I recently went almost a month without talking to her. Even though I saw her almost Every day and it ate her up on the inside. That's when She started talking and opening up wanting to communicate with me cause I guess not having me in her life is a scary thing to happen
Everyone else I could careless about but I want people to feel welcome. I thought I givr a welcoming vibe to people.
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