I started ignoring my daughter and now she’s not talking to me. How can I get her to talk to me?

Question

My daughter did something that I didn’t approve of and I started ignoring her. She has stopped making attempts to contact me and seems to be moving on with her life. My wife messaged her telling her that she should be ashamed of herself for not reaching out to me after all I had done for her and she ignored her text message.

What should I do?

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My daughter is in her late twenties and she went on a trip with her friends (I didn’t approve of her going on the trip).

Answer 1

RemoErdosain

Yoda

I agree that the mistake was ignoring. You're teaching her to be passive-aggressive, so she probably got that from you. If you face your problems instead of running away from them, then you lead by example, and teach your children to do likewise. I don't know what she did, but depending on how bad it was, I wouldn't suggest giving an apology, since she should be the one apologizing for what she did anyway. That's if she truly did a bad thing, which is hard to know when you don't say exactly what happened

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RemoErdosain

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What kind of trip was it? I think you're right to be mad at her for it. If she doesn't respect you on such stuff, who knows what she'll be doing later on

Answer 2

RemoErdosain

What kind of trip was it? I think you're right to be mad at her for it. If she doesn't respect you on such stuff, who knows what she'll be doing later on

Answer 3

Gedaria

Master

Don't ignore was first problem.
But you should sit her and talk.
First thing is to say sorry I should not have ignored you.
Try to sort out the problem that started it...

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Asker

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Why would I apologize? I did nothing wrong.
Gedaria

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You did you ignored her making things worse

Answer 4

Asker

Why would I apologize? I did nothing wrong.

Answer 5

Gedaria

You did you ignored her making things worse

Answer 6

MrsCM

Xper 4

Why would you be surprised for her not reaching out if you've ignored her?
Try having a conversation that's all

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MrsCM

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Why not?
Asker

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I honestly, expected her to try to make amends to the situation and take my opinion into consideration the next time I don’t approve of her decisions.
MrsCM

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Why dont you approve of her taking a trip? Sorry if I've missed something
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Asker

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We’re in the middle of a pandemic.

Answer 7

MrsCM

Why not?

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Asker

I honestly, expected her to try to make amends to the situation and take my opinion into consideration the next time I don’t approve of her decisions.

Answer 9

MrsCM

Why dont you approve of her taking a trip? Sorry if I've missed something

Answer 10

Asker

We’re in the middle of a pandemic.

Answer 11

Hangry22

Guru

Buy something for her. A dress or something materialistic or food

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NatalieFerrara

Xper 1

Apologies to her for your childish behavior. We as parents have to lead by example. When you own up to your mistakes you're teaching her communication and to take ownership of your own behavior.

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Why would I apologize? I did nothing wrong.
NatalieFerrara

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Because that what we do as parents. Something had to be done to hurt her. So just simply ask to speak with her. Address it with ease be kind and Recognize if her feelings have been hurt.

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Asker

Why would I apologize? I did nothing wrong.

Answer 14

NatalieFerrara

Because that what we do as parents. Something had to be done to hurt her. So just simply ask to speak with her. Address it with ease be kind and Recognize if her feelings have been hurt.

Answer 15

Anonymous

why didn't you? And how do you have such an old daughter?

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I started ignoring my daughter and now she’s not talking to me. How can I get her to talk to me?

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