Why is it okay for a woman to tell a man what to wear, but not vice versa?

[Cherokeehp]

Lol this sounds like me. I tell my boyfriend what to wear all the time, but I never listen to him when he tells me what to wear. He once asked me to dress more modestly and I simply told him no. I love my boyfriend, but he has horrible taste in clothing. He literally wears grey sweatsuits every day. The nicest article of clothing he had was a pair of burgundy adidas joggers. I’m not a fashion expert or anything like that, but I think I have pretty good taste in clothes, and so I started dragging him to the mall and buying clothes for him. Most of the clothes he had when we first met didn’t fit him
properly, were frumpy and out of style, and we’re old and raggedy. Typically, I think people should wear whatever makes them happy, but he wasn’t happy. He would constantly confide in me about how insecure he felt. So that’s why I tell him
how to dress. And the reason why I refuse to listen to his fashion request is because he has bad taste. Also, he met me in a mini skirt, I’m gonna die in a mini skirt.

[spuitkaas]

I don't think it's the same thing in men and women. I would like my boyfriend in anything he wears, HOWEVER, I like to go shopping and give suggestions if he likes it. Most of the time this is the case with the guys I dated. I would never force anyone to wear anything. Many guys my age still wear whatever their mom bought them and act like they don't care, but then they find it kinda fun when I pick something out for them. It's kinda like sharing a hobby.
When men say something about what a woman wears, it's most of the time because he doesn't want other men to look at her or actually make other men jealous. It's more of a controlling thing I believe.
However if a guy wants to pick something out for me without that intent, then I would love that. I used to go on extensive shopping sprees with my ex just picking things out for eachother.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol there are lots of things that women are allowed to do but you can't do the same that doesn't work like that or you will be always alone it's just what it is 😂😂😂😂.


There is a saying if you want to have a happy relationship "Never fiddle with a Man's ego and never fiddle with a women's feelings/mind"

Just allow them to be them and love them as they are.

You know somethings cannot be changed so always find the middle ground were both could be satisfied and sometimes it's necessary to let each other win.

[TheLawAroundHere]

Really? Lets take my wife and me, for example. I have 4 suits. 5 sport coats. 3 pair of cowboy boots. 2 pair oxfords.

My wife has 8 LBD's*, 18 pair of black heels and 18 white silk blouses. 28 pair of jeans.

Are you gonna attempt to direct this womans wardrobe? Good luck, hoss.

[Savvyymarie]

Girls are generally more put together and take time in thinking of what they want to wear. Although that's not all females, some don't. Guys will usually just put on whatever is clean i lived with 4 trust. That's not all I've had exs that planned outfits, but others who just threw things on, one of my brothers planned his outfits, the other two didn't. We usually will recommend they dont wear something either because it doesn't match or its hideous and anyone would agree. Thats facts. When a guy tells a girl what to wear its because he doesn't want her to wear revealing clothing or wants her to wear revealing clothing. Females ARE SEXUALIZED AS SOON AS THEY WEAR STRINGED TOPS, OR SHORTS, TIGHT CLOTHING, ETC. Thats why you should tell a girl what to wear and what not, you can recommend and give her a respectful reason why. Maybe she's dressing up too much or she's dressed down for a certain occasion. But for how girls are treated it seems like we are just looked at as a sexual object...

[Unit1]

Never had this happening to me (except when I was a child and my mother told me what to wear).

Also most men don't care about fashion or clothing either at all or almost completely, so I can see why women would like to tell us what to wear. Many men just don't dress interestingly or they wear their work clothes (say construction or something) everywhere.

[Saturnxox]

Because some guys pop on the same t shirt every day with some jeans they see laying around or sweatpants.
Females are most of the time more put together. Or sense of style is most of the time just better.
And when we tell a guy what to wear we want to help them look good. When guys tell us what to wear it's mostly because they think we need to cover up more so other guys won't look as much at us.

[Anonymous]

I heard this the first time. I knew only the opposite. I personally do not give a f what my partner would wear. What exactly do you mean? I think it depends on the context but i also i know a lot men who let their partner choose their clothes so they dont have to go to shopping lol.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are expecting the opposite sex to be consistent?

[desidoll]

Whoa really? Not sure if it depends on where you live but where I live, it is the other way around. Men here always try to tell us how to dress.

[OurManFlint]

First women tend to spend more time on dressing and grooming themselves so theyve come to believe that they have a better idea of what looks good, which just isn't the case.

Second, society tells men that they are no longer permitted to tell women anything about anything but the inverse is perfectly acceptable.

[eegs224]

Well it depends entirely on the context, if your talking from public standpoint its due to history of sexism against women, its a double standards thing today and due to the history of it not many look at it from both sides.

[lovebug2]

No I'm going to wear what I want just like your going to wear what you want. Unless if you going out with me looking like a trailer trash dumpster diver. Then I'll say something and vise versa.

[Dchrls78104]

My girlfriend could tell me what she wanted to see me in; provided she understood and accepted that certain items of clothing that girls may wear are deal-breakers for me.

[Anonymous]

What are you talking it's been two years (married two years ago) I am wearing clothes of my husband's choice

[jmac23]

Maybe you're finding dominant women. Go find yourself a submissive woman. There are tons of girls who are looking for big dick energy dudes to tell them what to do. Or move to the middle east. I think women practically have no rights there.

[anon1903]

Because they've more fashion sense, can read the room better socially and emotionally and on quite some occasions guys have really embarrassed them by dressing like a clown

[ashkyl]

Um that’s generalizing 😂😂 I’ve never told my boyfriend what to wear, he has on the other hand if it’s something like my shorts are too short but like he’s not going to force me to change he’s just not going to be too happy.

[Roberto1965]

... because we will suggest girdles, garters, heels and silk.
Always.

[madprofessor]

I have zero fashion sense. Work cloths and pj's, that's it

[ProLife]

Never had this problem but if it happens then throw her out.

[Anonymous]

Because men these days don't take control of their women like they should.

[Anonymous]

Another in a long line of their double fucking standards. It really is easier to jerk off than to deal with their shit constantly

[ValleyofDrakes]

It's sjw feminism crap.

Just ignore it. It doesn't matter.

You totally can.