How can you tell if she's just not a texter or of she just doesn't wanna text me?

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So I've gotten lots of advice from friends before when I end up in a situation with a girl and she is taking and absurd amount of times to either reply to my texts or not reply at all. One thing I always get from friends is " maybe she's not a texter" and to be fair I do have a friend who is like this and will take like three days to get back to you if your lucky. so how do I tell the difference between when she's just not a texter and just doesn't want to text me or simply isn't interested.

Answer 1

AmandaYVR | 600 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

I don't think you can exactly ascertain which reason it is. But I'll tell you what you should do to get a little more information about potentially why.

Change your expectations. The thing that is always, always missing from these questions/accounts is what exactly the person did text/put out into the universe. Because the problem is a sort of blanket policy/expectation of TEXT -> REPLY. Many people think, "Well I sent one. What gives?" But the NATURE of that text also matters, also factors in, to you receiving a reply.

You can't very easily change a person from a general preference they have, in their communication style. But you can ENTICE them by changing yours, and see if this new variable results in any change on their part. So, don't text as often to her, but make them more meaningful. Less garbage in, is less garbage out.
Technique #2: Ask a question that is simple, straightforward, and easy to answer. But does require, or warrant, an answer. See if she will reply to that.
Longer, vague, and more difficult topics will give you a worse return rate. So change what you send out. Then you'll know. Or at least have a better idea.

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MLGbreezy

1 y
Okay as for what she texted back to me it's was along the lines of " that's crazy cause I be looking bunny when I go to work buttttt thank yooouuuuu" cause I complimented her and after her reply I asked her if she was single and I'm waiting on a reply to that but for context it was like 1am when we were talking.
AmandaYVR

1 y
1. What does "I be looking bunny" mean?

2. It was 1am and you're upset no reply yet? Maybe she slept in/

3. Guess she is thinking about how to respond. It should be a simple yes or no, shouldn't it/isn't it. But she's strategizing now. She's probably even texted or called up a girlfriend and is analyzing the crap out of it/you now. Girls be girls.
MLGbreezy

1 y
1. Meant to say bummy lol
2. yes it was 1am but who sleeps till 4 in the afternoon and I'm not upset at all Im asking in general how to tell the difference for future reference.
3. and I don't know doesn't seem like her personality she seems pretty straight forward
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AmandaYVR

1 y
Not that much time has passed, but from what you describe so far, sounds like she's thinking/strategizing.

Answer 2

MLGbreezy

Okay as for what she texted back to me it's was along the lines of " that's crazy cause I be looking bunny when I go to work buttttt thank yooouuuuu" cause I complimented her and after her reply I asked her if she was single and I'm waiting on a reply to that but for context it was like 1am when we were talking.

Answer 3

AmandaYVR

1. What does "I be looking bunny" mean?

2. It was 1am and you're upset no reply yet? Maybe she slept in/

3. Guess she is thinking about how to respond. It should be a simple yes or no, shouldn't it/isn't it. But she's strategizing now. She's probably even texted or called up a girlfriend and is analyzing the crap out of it/you now. Girls be girls.

Answer 4

MLGbreezy

1. Meant to say bummy lol
2. yes it was 1am but who sleeps till 4 in the afternoon and I'm not upset at all Im asking in general how to tell the difference for future reference.
3. and I don't know doesn't seem like her personality she seems pretty straight forward

Answer 5

AmandaYVR

Not that much time has passed, but from what you describe so far, sounds like she's thinking/strategizing.

Answer 6

menina | 1.1K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

If she takes longer to reply but she does reply then she's probably not a texter. But if she doesn't reply at all then she is not interested.

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MLGbreezy

1 y
Oh that's actually really helpful I appreciate it
menina

1 y
I'm glad you do. You're welcome.

Answer 7

MLGbreezy

Oh that's actually really helpful I appreciate it

Answer 8

menina

I'm glad you do. You're welcome.

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Juxtapose | 504 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Just put her through the hot celebrity test.

If you were her favorite hot celebrity, would she take that long to get back to you?

That right there will show you her interest in you clear as day.

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MLGbreezy

1 y
No one is gonna take long to reply to they favorite hot celebrity but I'm not that so that really doesn't make any sense 😂
Juxtapose

1 y
If you're not with a woman that treats you like a star then you are doing something horrendously wrong and SETTLING.

Never settle my man.
MLGbreezy

1 y
No girl is gonna treat you like a star when I just met her that's just unrealistic
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Juxtapose

1 y
*shrugs* I've had different experiences but okay.

Answer 10

MLGbreezy

No one is gonna take long to reply to they favorite hot celebrity but I'm not that so that really doesn't make any sense 😂

Answer 11

Juxtapose

If you're not with a woman that treats you like a star then you are doing something horrendously wrong and SETTLING.

Never settle my man.

Answer 12

MLGbreezy

No girl is gonna treat you like a star when I just met her that's just unrealistic

Answer 13

Juxtapose

*shrugs* I've had different experiences but okay.

Answer 14

Pink2000 | 1.5K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

Maybe she has a hard time trying to keep a conversation going.

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MLGbreezy

1 y
Thing is I don't really know enough about her to tell if it's one or the other you know cause usually if a girl texts me back fairly quick then I'm like okay she has some interest but in other situations like this it's harder to tell and I'm not tryna blow her phone up or do nun that weird shit but at the same time I am not scheduled with her often like last week was the fist time I met this girl and she told me she has been working at are store for a month
MLGbreezy

1 y
So since this is the only line of communication I have it's hard to tell if she is interested but at the same time I haven't done any heavy flirting to imply that I like her so if she is just approaching this from a friendship stand point this also could be a good sign that she is just a bad texter

Answer 15

MLGbreezy

Thing is I don't really know enough about her to tell if it's one or the other you know cause usually if a girl texts me back fairly quick then I'm like okay she has some interest but in other situations like this it's harder to tell and I'm not tryna blow her phone up or do nun that weird shit but at the same time I am not scheduled with her often like last week was the fist time I met this girl and she told me she has been working at are store for a month

Answer 16

MLGbreezy

So since this is the only line of communication I have it's hard to tell if she is interested but at the same time I haven't done any heavy flirting to imply that I like her so if she is just approaching this from a friendship stand point this also could be a good sign that she is just a bad texter

Answer 17

Anonymous

I’m like this as well and not sure why. I’m an introvert and I barely talk.

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MLGbreezy

1 y
So your not a texter does that mean you don't reply back very quick even when it's someone you like
MLGbreezy

1 y
Cause I'm currently tryna figure that out with this girl I'm tryna talk to
Opinion Owner

1 y
Yes actually to be honest. I just don’t have the energy and it’s also depend on the girl mood. Texting ain’t what it used to be honestly. I prefer texting than over the phone. you may see someday she pick up speed and other times she may not
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MLGbreezy

1 y
Interesting cause yesterday night she did text me back a bit quicker and more consistently
Opinion Owner

1 y
Yes she’s just probably having one of those days
Opinion Owner

1 y
Please be mindful that most people are entering a depression stage in this pandemic plus cold weather brings mood changes
MLGbreezy

1 y
True I usually get depressed during winter
Opinion Owner

1 y
She was just probably having one of those days is all

Answer 18

MLGbreezy

So your not a texter does that mean you don't reply back very quick even when it's someone you like

Answer 19

MLGbreezy

Cause I'm currently tryna figure that out with this girl I'm tryna talk to

Answer 20

Opinion Owner

Yes actually to be honest. I just don’t have the energy and it’s also depend on the girl mood. Texting ain’t what it used to be honestly. I prefer texting than over the phone. you may see someday she pick up speed and other times she may not

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MLGbreezy

Interesting cause yesterday night she did text me back a bit quicker and more consistently

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

Yes she’s just probably having one of those days

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

Please be mindful that most people are entering a depression stage in this pandemic plus cold weather brings mood changes

Answer 24

MLGbreezy

True I usually get depressed during winter

Answer 25

Opinion Owner

She was just probably having one of those days is all

Answer 26

Pinky_what_why | 124 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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Prolly got the answer already

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