Can it be a turn off if a women is over feminine or girly?

[Jjpayne]

I'd say yes and no. It is fun to be with a girly girl sometimes. It can feel special when you are with her. But let's be honest, we don't live life in a bubble. We are not in a castle anymore where we have to preserve our outfits to be presentable royalty. In modern times, it's all about allowing girls to do what they want. And I say allow to be annoying. Because there was a time when girls were told not to do things because it was unlady like.

Now, girls enjoy having with with the boys because it simply is fun for both genders to experience a rainbow of all types of activites.

To add another layer of irritation, it is possible to sit out in the car while other girls play paintball, volleyball, and roller coasters/water rides.

I think there is a time to be girly and a time to have fun. There is prom then there is the high school Soccer game.
My idea, it's there is a time and a place to be girly then there is a time and a place to have fun. I think you can have both but that's just my opinion

[virtue2332]

I don't know maybee I've had a run of bad luck but it seems like the the ones that I dealt with that where like that were hiding who they really were with who there family or peers wanted them to be. I know that's not always the case but I just say people should be them genuine flaws and all. I don't think I'm way off but when someone is overboard in one area they usually are like you described put together high maintenance. I prefer a girl to have surprises like put together but is actually a cage fighter where no body would even suspect. Innocent looking proper when appropriate but a complete freak behind closed doors. You know a like if they only new kind of girl. Im not saying a faker but someone who is open but has a deeper understanding of her surroundings and can be all things. What I'm asking for a lot that seems hella demanding. Scratch all that just be genuine genuinely care about me and the things that matter to me.

[jennifer_bloom]

As a woman I usually find honest AND feminine woman to be attractive but I know some guys might view a very very very skinny or insecure girl as weak. Like I posted photos of skinny Hilton’s and chubby kardashians and only around half thought the skinny Hilton’s looked better even though those girls had gone to modelling schools and etiquette training all their lives and everything they wore and lived in was colour matched. Men crave honesty and authenticity and naturalness and that is why you often have horrible woman who have guys loyal to them - cause the guy is so desperate for honesty he decides to put up with a jerk.

[Aparnam]

Isn't it fine for people to just be the way they are?
Who is to say what's feminine and what's extreme.
If somebody enjoys dressing up in frilly dresses or having a nurturing nature and empathetic. It's fine. And if not, that's fine too.
It's who they are. And one doesn't need to appeal to anyone.

Kinda feel that arrogance and ego are the traits which turn off the most. 😂

[slatyb]

Takes a long time to get ready? That’s not feminine, that’s high maintenance. Hates to get dirty — basically means no outdoor activities. She’ll probably end up overweight or frail from inactivity. She doesn’t sound like much fun, more of a PITA. She doesn’t sound very sexy, because sex is messy. No thanks, I want someone who wants to live, not avoid life.

[OneManOnly01]

As long as it comes naturally. If she naturally behaves very feminine without forcing it and trying too hard to be feminine then that’s not a problem.

But she needs to be quite confident at the same time.

The girl you are describing, is she confident?

[Girther10]

I think that you are describing yourself and you want to know if others like the way you are. I think that you are describing yourself and you want to know if others like the way you are A better question would be do you think you are overly feminine or that you are too girly?

[godfatherfan]

hmmmmm... my initial reaction was no but after your description then it changed to yes. Feminine is very hot. But, I also want a woman that is ok to get in the mud and have fun sometimes. I mean I don't really like getting dirty either, but sometimes it is a lot of fun.

[TruthBringer]

Too much of something good often leads to something bad. What truly matters is that she isn't toxic. If a woman gets grossed out and acts all sissy ("Eeeewwwww") over a little bit of dirt, that's a turn off, yes. Same goes for being high maintenance. There should be balance.

[GunnzzNRoses]

Yup. I prefer pretty un feminine traits anyway (tall (5'11+) stature, wide shoulders to match wide hips, tomboyish personality), so yes, incredibly hyper feminine women are a major turn off for something long term. As far as short term, well, anything goes if you get me drunk enough.

[Reaperbot666]

would imagine it is possible for a female to be overly (100%) feminine or girly to some degree. however doesn't seem to happen that often in modern age. since less females tend to embrace their femininity to that extent these days. majority of modern females tend to be around roughly 40%-60% femininity.

[humanearth]

For me yes, i like farm girls. Ones that will get dirty, butcher animals, walk in the barn bare foot and not worry about stepping in poo.

One that will split firewood, drive a tractor or a team of horses. You know a good farm wife

[Ripper_E]

Not all of that would be a turn off, but most of it would. I value my time. Her taking a long time to get ready when she knows we are supposed to leave is a turn off. Always needing to dress up is a turn off because then I feel like she can't just relax. Sometimes we gotta get dirty, whether we like or not, so moaning or whining about it is also a turn off.

[hellacray]

I'm not into women that are high maintenance aka needs to buy the most expensive stuff all the time.

If she wants to be a good house wife, dress up, and all those other things you mentioned I think that's fine.

I'd rather go with a girl that's overly feminine than overly masculine.

[StephenCF]

I love a girl to be feminine in almost every way you described 💃🏻 But some can correlate femininity with sensitivity... and in that case, I don’t like a girl to be so sensitive as to be fearful of certain actions, certain sights or offended by certain jokes. I guess I like her appearance and routine to be feminine, but not too feminine mentally (girls are amazing when they’re also thick-skinned and gothic) 😈☠️

[Massageman]

Reminds me of Ecclesiastes. A time for everything.

There is a time to be feminine, and a time to put on the grungy jeans and help weed the gardening. If a gal isn't ready to some of the less glamorous- yet necessary- tasks in life, YES, that would be turn-off.

[magiusX26]

carried to such an extreme, yes it quickly would turn from a novelty turn on to a turn off. especially the getting dirty part. many activities require getting dirty (litterally and metaphorically). yhen there is often a degree of being judgmental once such an extremeness occurs.

[ak3096]

There was a girl in my group who behaved quite similarly and my friend used to pamper her. He even tied her shoelaces sometimes😂. They weren't in a relationship or anything but I felt like she used to behave like this to get her things done. Guys like my friend acts like a savior in front of such girls and don't let the girl do anything independently.

P. S. its a turnoff for me, it like I am taking care of bone china crockery.
Its not a turnoff for guys who act like a savior.

[bamesjond0069]

No thats very attractive... except for the getting ready for a long time and high maintenance. It is a female trait but its not particularly feminine. Its like wearing a g string bikini at the beach. Yes its something some women do but its not exactly feminine. Being conservatively dressed is just as feminine. And so is not being an asshole and holding everyone up so you can stare at yourself in the mirror.

[OlderAndWiser]

The high maintenance part can be a deal breaker and taking an unusually long time with primping can be damned aggravating, but a nurturing, loving woman is very satisfying for me.

[nerdybutlazy]

I think a lot of guys would say yes, but personally, I don't think a lot of women like this would enjoy modern society as much. Not say it's a bad thing to be a woman like this but personally if I was a guy women like this would creep me out

[superQ]

I think femininity should be a celebrated thing. I don't think it's ideal if EVERY girl were like this, but I don't see girls like that a bad thing. I think the same thing for men and masculinity.

[FreyaRed]

You can exaggerate with everything and it starts to look forced and artificial.
Main part of having sense for aesthetic and style is to know how much is enough

[Knighted2170]

I would say it depends on what the guy is looking for.
Some like it some don't.
Just be who you are and know what you are looking for beyond looks.