Girls, Why do you give shit tests to the guys you are interested in?

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Answer 1

Yads_Is_Back | 252 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

I purposely try to avoid "shit tests." I'm all for honesty. I want both of us to be open. If I'm curious about something I'll ask; I'm not gonna "shit test" you. But the two things to consider with that are
- I'm not one to get suspicious without a good reason and I don't have trust issues so you should be upfront with me and if I'm suspicious of something then apparently you've done something to allow me to think that.
- Don't lie to me or even cover anything up. I don't mean in particular reference to anything either, like cheating or etc., I mean with anything, no matter how small. A liar is one thing I can not stand.

So I won't "shit test" a guy, I'll ask you straight up. But if I even have a reason to question then something is probably wrong because like I said it's not a problem and I trust people until they let me down.

Asker

17 d
Let you down how exactly? I don’t think this girl trusts me for some reason
Yads_Is_Back

17 d
In any way, whether it be a lie about anything or some kind of intentional deception, whatever it may be. I trust you until you deceive me or lie, and after that one time you can never expect my trust or company again.

Answer 2

Asker

Let you down how exactly? I don’t think this girl trusts me for some reason

Answer 3

Yads_Is_Back

In any way, whether it be a lie about anything or some kind of intentional deception, whatever it may be. I trust you until you deceive me or lie, and after that one time you can never expect my trust or company again.

Answer 4

Mama1525

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I do shit tests! Guilty... not proud but I think it’s due to my upbringing and my past relationships so maybe it’s because I don’t trust and feel like I want love but don’t deserve it so I push them away. I’d say the shit tests are for a reason, like to feel like they pass some test and all is good but my brain won’t let me stop doing it even if I see no clear reason when I have a not so neurotic mind set.

Bottom line is if you see the shit tests get the fuck out bro. It’ll drive you both mad and probably won’t stop. Sorry. You could try being straight with her and ask her to stop and give her reassurance that you mean well. But other than that step back and see it from a wide view.

Asker

17 d
What do you mean by upbringing and past relationships.. as in you got used or cheated on? Why do you push guys away for? Don’t you feel good enough to be loved or?
Mama1525

17 d
Yeah I guess that was vague.

Well my home life was pretty shitty. That can really give someone trust issues. Domestic violence and neglect.

Relationships range from cheating all the way to worse so yeah I guess after that I’d either hold higher standards or just be bitter. Maybe both. I can only tell you why I might do this behavior I’m not sure it rings true for everyone though 🤷🏻‍♀️

Answer 5

Asker

What do you mean by upbringing and past relationships.. as in you got used or cheated on? Why do you push guys away for? Don’t you feel good enough to be loved or?

Answer 6

Mama1525

Yeah I guess that was vague.

Well my home life was pretty shitty. That can really give someone trust issues. Domestic violence and neglect.

Relationships range from cheating all the way to worse so yeah I guess after that I’d either hold higher standards or just be bitter. Maybe both. I can only tell you why I might do this behavior I’m not sure it rings true for everyone though 🤷🏻‍♀️

Answer 7

Jubejube

Xper 5

Pretty sure the females that do shit tests are immature and insecure.

I would expect any grown ass adult to be able communicate issues or concerns. I also suspect that the ones that do this are scared of direct confrontation.

Asker

17 d
That’s a good answer I guess she is immature and shows that she’s insecure. She did look scared when I confronted her recently about it and walked away.

Answer 8

Asker

That’s a good answer I guess she is immature and shows that she’s insecure. She did look scared when I confronted her recently about it and walked away.

Answer 9

CuriousCat123

Xper 4

Because all the other girls do. It's the society we live in. The popular girl says who to like, whats cool, and whats lame. And never will I be popular

Answer 10

Anonymous

To make sure you not a player

Asker

17 d
But how can you tell from that. Like what exactly do I have to do so the girl knows I’m not a player?
Opinion Owner

17 d
First of all shit tests aren’t needed for anybody. Secondly you can start being open and proving yourself that you can be trusted without leading her to doubt. Like for example, a guy I know flirted with his girlfriend cousin.
Opinion Owner

17 d
Plus it sounds like you gave her a reason not to trust you
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Asker

17 d
Yeah it feels like she doesn’t trust me anymore for some reason I’m not sure why. She told me a lot of stuff before this happened
Opinion Owner

17 d
Earn your trust back if you know you’re worth it. Stop flirting with other women if you are

Answer 11

Asker

But how can you tell from that. Like what exactly do I have to do so the girl knows I’m not a player?

Answer 12

Opinion Owner

First of all shit tests aren’t needed for anybody. Secondly you can start being open and proving yourself that you can be trusted without leading her to doubt. Like for example, a guy I know flirted with his girlfriend cousin.

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

Plus it sounds like you gave her a reason not to trust you

Answer 14

Asker

Yeah it feels like she doesn’t trust me anymore for some reason I’m not sure why. She told me a lot of stuff before this happened

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

Earn your trust back if you know you’re worth it. Stop flirting with other women if you are

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