Why do girls feel so offended when men complain about how hard it is to date?

Question

Generally speaking, I get rejected a lot. As in, like 99% of everyone I ask out. Excuses are usually friendzone, "I'm not looking for anything right now" or they are taken. Others are ones are usually things like age, race, height, job, among other even more trivial things. It's easy to assume that I'm the problem but as far as I know and based on feedback from everyone I asked, there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I'm just "not their type" or one of the various reasons above. On top of this, girls get so upset and offended when I tell them how hard it is to fine a date. Like some will literally get angry but most will get annoyed and/or stop responding. In more extreme cases they'll start insulting me and making me out to be a a terrible person for feeling that way. Why does it bother you girls so much?

Answer 1

Kaazsz | 115 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Based on some of the comments I read on this site, it seems to me that a good chunk of the girls on here legitimately believe that if you are good high quality man you will have zero trouble dating.

When you insinuate that there is nothing wrong with you, you’re implying that their belief is wrong, and that some good men who would be great boyfriends, husbands and fathers, are still struggling with women.

And they don’t want to believe that. They think if you are a guy who struggles to get a date, that means there must be plenty wrong with you. That you must actually be an asshole or have some kind of mental illness or who knows what else.

That’s how I see it from reading replies from girls on here and elsewhere on the internet.

Meanwhile women bitch and moan and complain and cry about how horrible the men they date are, and how they have to make such a conscious effort to avoid the bad men and go for good dudes. I think it says more about them than you. Women are deluded. They don’t know what they are doing.

It’s not enough to just be you and just be a good guy. You have to do the equivalent of what women do. Women put on makeup and wear push-up bras and jeans than shape their ass nicer than it is.

You as a man have to do the same but for masculine things. It doesn’t matter who you are as a man. It matters how well you present yourself in a masculine way do as to maximize your attractiveness. I’m sure you’re a great guy and would be a good boyfriend and all that. But those things don’t matter. Women are looking for masculinity. Men are looking for tits ass and beauty. Both sexes need to maximize both to maximize their chances I guess.

Well that’s how I see it. Thumbs down incoming probably lol.

jabariw18

16 d
This is honestly how I've felt for a long time but again it's easy for everyone to just assume I'm the problem and start giving me helpful tips on what to do better. The problem however is most of the tips they give me or things to say and do when you're already "talking to someone." Problem is, I never even make it that far before they've already decided I'm not worth their time.
Kaazsz

16 d
Well I suppose my advice would be, don’t even bother asking girls out. Talk to girls. Be friendly and conversational with lots of girls. Don’t run around trying to get a date. Run around trying to just be social. Just be social with girls, and things will change.

It is harder for us guys. And it only gets harder when you’re trying to play this role and play the game and ask girls out and getting rejected and all that. It just sucks.

Forget about all of that. Don’t even bother trying to find a girlfriend. Just talk to females, learn to be comfortable around them. Learn to talk to any and every girl you come across.

Women are pretty cool if you can just treat them like you would your guy friends. Like, I’ll just talk to any random and girl and say the most random shit. One example I like to use is I walked up to a group of girls and asked if they think there’s aliens or not.

And like I’m being genuine too. It’s not a trick or a tactic to get near these girls, to try and get a date. Like I’m asking them because I genuinely wanted to know what a bunch of random cute females thought about the whole alien thing.

And we had a great conversation and they knew all about aliens! The girls were like “fuck yes there’s fucking aliens! Have you seen those videos with the UFOs confirmed by the government?”

Lmao, it was cool! Girls are cool. Just talk to them about anything. They are fun to be around they are fun to talk to.

I don’t know how you are now of course. This is just my perspective from my own life and I how I feel about it.

But for me things are so different than they used to be. Most girls I come across are interested in me. I feel it. I built up my social ability and my ability to be genuine and care what they think and what they’re saying. If I ask “how are you?” It’s not some automatic small talk robotic shit. I’m being genuine and I really want to know how they are.
Kaazsz

16 d
It’s an energy that these females feed off of lol. They can tell if you’re being genuine, if you’re being yourself, or if you’re nervous and desperate for a date.

They can tell if you get rejected all the time. Because a rejected guy gives off a certain energy. The point in my advice is to learn to be social with girls and to learn the proper energy. That genuine self expression, genuine desire to interact just because it’s fun to meet new people and experience them as a person even if it’s only for a couple minutes.

So talk to girls, learn to free your mind and your energy. Learn to feel really comfortable and good around girls and they will be all over you.
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Kaazsz

16 d
I don’t know if that helps. I don’t know you. I’m sure you’re a great dude, there’s nothing wrong with you as a person. You just have to develop that social comfort around females. They love it when a guy is comfortable around them. When he gives no fucks. That makes them drawn to you like flies on shit.
jabariw18

16 d
One of the best responses I've gotten on this site in a long time. Thank you. I'll give you MHO when it gives me the option.

Answer 2

jabariw18

This is honestly how I've felt for a long time but again it's easy for everyone to just assume I'm the problem and start giving me helpful tips on what to do better. The problem however is most of the tips they give me or things to say and do when you're already "talking to someone." Problem is, I never even make it that far before they've already decided I'm not worth their time.

Answer 3

Kaazsz

Well I suppose my advice would be, don’t even bother asking girls out. Talk to girls. Be friendly and conversational with lots of girls. Don’t run around trying to get a date. Run around trying to just be social. Just be social with girls, and things will change.

It is harder for us guys. And it only gets harder when you’re trying to play this role and play the game and ask girls out and getting rejected and all that. It just sucks.

Forget about all of that. Don’t even bother trying to find a girlfriend. Just talk to females, learn to be comfortable around them. Learn to talk to any and every girl you come across.

Women are pretty cool if you can just treat them like you would your guy friends. Like, I’ll just talk to any random and girl and say the most random shit. One example I like to use is I walked up to a group of girls and asked if they think there’s aliens or not.

And like I’m being genuine too. It’s not a trick or a tactic to get near these girls, to try and get a date. Like I’m asking them because I genuinely wanted to know what a bunch of random cute females thought about the whole alien thing.

And we had a great conversation and they knew all about aliens! The girls were like “fuck yes there’s fucking aliens! Have you seen those videos with the UFOs confirmed by the government?”

Lmao, it was cool! Girls are cool. Just talk to them about anything. They are fun to be around they are fun to talk to.

I don’t know how you are now of course. This is just my perspective from my own life and I how I feel about it.

But for me things are so different than they used to be. Most girls I come across are interested in me. I feel it. I built up my social ability and my ability to be genuine and care what they think and what they’re saying. If I ask “how are you?” It’s not some automatic small talk robotic shit. I’m being genuine and I really want to know how they are.

Answer 4

Kaazsz

It’s an energy that these females feed off of lol. They can tell if you’re being genuine, if you’re being yourself, or if you’re nervous and desperate for a date.

They can tell if you get rejected all the time. Because a rejected guy gives off a certain energy. The point in my advice is to learn to be social with girls and to learn the proper energy. That genuine self expression, genuine desire to interact just because it’s fun to meet new people and experience them as a person even if it’s only for a couple minutes.

So talk to girls, learn to free your mind and your energy. Learn to feel really comfortable and good around girls and they will be all over you.

Answer 5

Kaazsz

I don’t know if that helps. I don’t know you. I’m sure you’re a great dude, there’s nothing wrong with you as a person. You just have to develop that social comfort around females. They love it when a guy is comfortable around them. When he gives no fucks. That makes them drawn to you like flies on shit.

Answer 6

jabariw18

One of the best responses I've gotten on this site in a long time. Thank you. I'll give you MHO when it gives me the option.

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