Nothing to talk about, what do I do?

Question

So there's this girl that keeps liking me on Badoo. And me being me, I of cource made it a match.

We go to the same school. She's in arts, I'm in audio.

Last spring I matched with her the first time, and then I unmatched her because the conversation stopped. And now that we matched again, the same thing is happening. I thought of telling her today at school, but I didn't find the appropriate moment.

For those unfamiliar, Badoo asks the user to explicitly state what they're looking for in their profile bio. The options are:

-"Getting to know new people" (i. e. making friends)
-"Dating" (casual)
-"Let's see where it goes"
-"Serious dating" and
-"Lasting relationship" yes, that's how they phrase that.

She wants friends and I want casual dates. This probably means that I have higher expectations, which so far aren't being met. But she did like me, so she probably wants to talk to me.

Answer 1

Knighted2170 | 62 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

You say there isn't anything to talk about. But there is plenty you just need to get creative with your questions. Her answers could lead to more question or a discussion. Which can lead to more questions. You don't necessarily have to find something immediately in common (her being in arts and you not).

You may be looking for different things at the moment. Her friends, you casual. Does that mean you can't be friends with her and still look for casual? Or, she can't change her mind later?

Try asking something like "do you have an app on your phone you wish you used more?"

Or, "what's something you think a lot of people are pretending to like?"

Or, "is there a specific moment you wish you could relive?"

These are just some things you can ask that spark thought and can lead to a conversation if you listen to the answer and do follow up questions along with sharing your own answer.

Hope that helps.

Answer 2

Hangry22 | 633 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Make sure she knows what exactly you want and see if she's still talking

JHNS98

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I feel it's probably good to talk to her in person. It's just that it feels a bit top-down. And then there's the whole casual sex thing...

Read my other questions for background on that
Hangry22

27 d
Ya talk to her in person and explain it correctly
JHNS98

27 d
Gotta find a moment, a chance to take her aside and have a word.

Answer 3

JHNS98

I feel it's probably good to talk to her in person. It's just that it feels a bit top-down. And then there's the whole casual sex thing...

Read my other questions for background on that

Answer 4

Hangry22

Ya talk to her in person and explain it correctly

Answer 5

JHNS98

Gotta find a moment, a chance to take her aside and have a word.

Nothing to talk about, what do I do?

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