Why do women who initially seemed extremely into you, act as if they don’t know you if you approach them too late?

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I’ve noticed many times girls gave signs for me to make a move. For whatever reason I didn’t (maybe I was taken at the time) but later I attempt to reconnect and respark what was. It seems at that point they don’t even want to know you and when you suggest anything vaguely romantic they become insultingly dismissive. Why is this?

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wander11

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She has gone tired of thinking of you endlessly and expecting you to make a move everytime she meets you. Now that she has finally moved on because it's been so long that she wanted to go out with you, although she could have made a move to ask you out first. But she wasn't sure if you are really into her. She don't want to be vulnerable unless she's a 100% sure that you really like her.

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Thank you. She’s a work colleague and when I confessed that I liked her she said that She never have feelings for me and said “I would like it if we could keep a strictly professional relationship going forward “. Is this her hurt and lack of trust for me (I did not escalate when many times over 9 months she expected me to and I even wanted to). talking or does she genuinely want nothing to do with me now? She used to look up to me so much, look lovingly at me and always find excuses to talk to me. Now she just cold blanks me and tried to find a way not to be around me (this behaviour started one week before my eventual confession). I just want to know why she has gone full 180 on me (even before I confessed) and now that I’ve confessed, why hasn’t it changed her mind as she eventually got what she wanted. I think she may be in new relationship after I didn’t make my move.
wander11

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If you are sure that she used to like you before, then she just gone tired and might be in a new relationship. Actually, I am speaking from my experience. I used to like a guy who doesn't make a move although he keeps staring and flirting at me. After few months of thinking about him, sleepless nights, I even dreamt about him, waiting for him to at least ask for my number or ask me out, I just gone tired. I used to lock eyes with him and now the spark is gone. I don't mind anymore seeing him because everyday I am wishing that he could express more of his feeling towards me (if there's any). He shows signs that he likes me, but that makes me crazy waiting for him to make a move. And I found out he is in a relationship already. So that's why he can't make any move at all. I believe I got infatuated and I'm happy right now that it's over!

Maybe now is not the right time for you both. I think just stay friends for now. That's what I'm doing too so I won't feel hurt. Just enjoy what you both have for the moment and be friends to get to know her more.
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I was in a relationship also initially and hence I couldn’t ask her out. It’s amazing how similar our situations are... it makes me feel less silly for being involved in a predicament like this. Thanks for the sincere advice

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Thank you. She’s a work colleague and when I confessed that I liked her she said that She never have feelings for me and said “I would like it if we could keep a strictly professional relationship going forward “. Is this her hurt and lack of trust for me (I did not escalate when many times over 9 months she expected me to and I even wanted to). talking or does she genuinely want nothing to do with me now? She used to look up to me so much, look lovingly at me and always find excuses to talk to me. Now she just cold blanks me and tried to find a way not to be around me (this behaviour started one week before my eventual confession). I just want to know why she has gone full 180 on me (even before I confessed) and now that I’ve confessed, why hasn’t it changed her mind as she eventually got what she wanted. I think she may be in new relationship after I didn’t make my move.

Answer 3

wander11

If you are sure that she used to like you before, then she just gone tired and might be in a new relationship. Actually, I am speaking from my experience. I used to like a guy who doesn't make a move although he keeps staring and flirting at me. After few months of thinking about him, sleepless nights, I even dreamt about him, waiting for him to at least ask for my number or ask me out, I just gone tired. I used to lock eyes with him and now the spark is gone. I don't mind anymore seeing him because everyday I am wishing that he could express more of his feeling towards me (if there's any). He shows signs that he likes me, but that makes me crazy waiting for him to make a move. And I found out he is in a relationship already. So that's why he can't make any move at all. I believe I got infatuated and I'm happy right now that it's over!

Maybe now is not the right time for you both. I think just stay friends for now. That's what I'm doing too so I won't feel hurt. Just enjoy what you both have for the moment and be friends to get to know her more.

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I was in a relationship also initially and hence I couldn’t ask her out. It’s amazing how similar our situations are... it makes me feel less silly for being involved in a predicament like this. Thanks for the sincere advice

Answer 5

Cataphract

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Because the window has closed and they are focused on a new guy now. It happens, and sometimes it can truly not be your fault. So i tend to do preemptive strikes as soon as possible and lightly communicate my interest indirectly early on, from time to time. But if you try this just don't overdo it, and realize that sometimes it won't work regardless.

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boggboss | 2.1K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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Because she has moved on by that point lol why would u expect her to still be waiting for u

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